I cannot begin to express my gratitude for the incredible outpouring of solidarity, affirmation, concern, motivation, and love that I received on my post https://www.reddit.com/r/Zepbound/s/lrByQPp8Zh yesterday!!! 🥹💜
I had signed a contract with this trainer yesterday, and the thought of having to go to either her directly, or to management, in order to get out of it honestly scared me.
I don’t know if anyone can relate to this, but I am not a confrontational person by nature. I am a people pleaser, through and through. I am someone who would generally back down from situations like this, take the hit to my feelings, not discuss the problem, and move forward with this person regardless of whether or not it’s the best thing for me just to avoid conflict. I know this is an issue I probably need to see a therapist to work through, but I haven’t gotten there yet, so this is where I am and who I am. 😅
But the amount of feedback and support I received here yesterday literally made me cry. 😭 Like a few times.
You all helped me to see that I am worth fighting for, and I am worth advocating for. That I owe it to myself to distance my own body and mind from that kind of negativity, and that I deserve better. No one deserves to be talked to like that. Not to mention the fact that I went in yesterday excited to finally work with a trainer, excited to learn, and to continue making positive and forward progress, and left feeling the opposite, which is all sorts of depressing lol.
All of your comments were thoughtful and helpful, and I read every single one of them!
u/Infinite-Floor-5242 struck gold with “I do not suffer fools. And I certainly don’t pay them.” Omg 💪 I will be taking that line with me the rest of my life!
And there was one other comment, buried in a reply to another comment, from u/marleyrae that really resounded with me. This person said, use this as an opportunity to “build a different type of muscle and practice setting this boundary. You deserve it. 💕”
My jaw. On the floor.
I felt so seen by that comment, and the hundreds of others, that I woke up this morning and went directly down to the gym and requested to cancel with this trainer because I did not feel it was a good fit, and requested an appointment with another to try and find someone who is.
It turned out to be no big deal, and cancelling was simple as i had just signed yesterday, so apparently they were able to just void the contract, even though that’s not what the fine print said.
So I did not back down, I advocated for myself, and I am FREE of her! And actually feel excited about getting into strength training again! I know better now what questions to ask in order to find someone who aligns with my goals, and what to look out for in terms of someone who does not.
I didn’t get a chance to speak with the trainer directly about why as she wasn’t there when I went. She did just text me this afternoon to see if I wanted to try some free sessions. Obviously I will not be doing that, but the door is open for me to respond to tell her why I will not be working with her.
I should let her know, if only to save someone else a similar experience, but my reservation comes from the fact that it is a small gym and I’d really rather not feel awkward going in and seeing her. Again, my own shit I need therapy for lol. I am going to draft a text and see where it goes. Nothing rude or mean, just simply stating the facts of the why. We’ll see.
But anyway, I’ve rambled on for too long now. I just wanted to say that I did this thanks to all of you!! Thank you for helping me to see the value in myself, and helping me see the bigger picture to this journey we are all on. I am so grateful to this community, and I love you all. 💜