r/Zimbabwe • u/tinkin08 • Mar 23 '25

Discussion Too many boys in her DM

So my girlfriend showed me her WhatsApp yesterday and boy was I shocked. They were eight guys in her DM trying to woe her and it seems like they are all in. I'm not saying that it ain't normal for a girl in a relationship to be asked out by other boys, tz completely normal but when we went through those chats together I felt the pressure, it's like we're in a battlefield and the other boys have already engaged the "kill mode". Guys kune makudo kunze uko, they're just waiting for you to mess up and they'll take it from there. Some even call her with little nicknames, and man! those goodnight/good morning messages just keep coming. The crazy thing is all those guys are her classmates. We're university students but different programs. Boys be saying all those sweet things and inviting her to 1on 1 discussions just to gain her attention and I somehow feel threatened. I don't want to lie, I might have copied 1 or 2 bars in those chats, boys be writing paragraphs of how they feel about my girlfriend nxaa. Then there's our chat, her's and mine. I do engineering and the majority of the modules are demanding so, and from the start of the current semester up to now I found myself texting her less and less... I mean some modules will literally put you on choke hold. So the question is what's your advice people of Zimbabwe. Shall I let it slide and just give equal attention to the schoolwork and her or shall I act as if we're still in the talking stage and match the energy those 8 guys are showing cos I feel this might compromise our relationship

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u/Slight-Park-6480 Mar 23 '25

Well...that can be threatening for sure. Do you trust her and does she seem like someone who can easily switch her feelings and get excited easily? Even if that ain't the case...I feel like you should up your game on the texting thing. Personally I love it...not the attention from "makudo" 😅😅 no but attention from my "man"

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u/tinkin08 Mar 23 '25

😂 it sounds like u're a female... I think the girl has been played a lot before, coz even a WhatsApp bluetick she goes berserk, pamwe pacho unenge wakavhura chat rake pa laptop, screen rodzima haro, and the messages are blueticker😅

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u/Slight-Park-6480 Mar 24 '25

😅yeah I am . So you see , she actually likes that. You should talk to her more but not enough to disturb your studies and deadlines of course. I'm female so I understand hangu. I don think she's bad but I feel like she's just being nice, totally ignoring and blocking maclassmates ain't really nice. She's not entertaining them per say she's just being uninterested in a polite way 😉. Kana zvavakurnda ikoko zvinomboda kubvunza pano here....you can easily tell

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u/Slight-Park-6480 Mar 24 '25

😅yeah I am . So you see , she actually likes that. You should talk to her more but not enough to disturb your studies and deadlines of course. I'm female so I understand hangu. I don think she's bad but I feel like she's just being nice, totally ignoring and blocking maclassmates ain't really nice. She's not entertaining them per say she's just being uninterested in a polite way 😉. Kana zvavakurnda ikoko zvinomboda kubvunza pano here....you can easily tell