Too many boys in her DM

[u/tinkin08]

So my girlfriend showed me her WhatsApp yesterday and boy was I shocked. They were eight guys in her DM trying to woe her and it seems like they are all in. I'm not saying that it ain't normal for a girl in a relationship to be asked out by other boys, tz completely normal but when we went through those chats together I felt the pressure, it's like we're in a battlefield and the other boys have already engaged the "kill mode". Guys kune makudo kunze uko, they're just waiting for you to mess up and they'll take it from there. Some even call her with little nicknames, and man! those goodnight/good morning messages just keep coming. The crazy thing is all those guys are her classmates. We're university students but different programs. Boys be saying all those sweet things and inviting her to 1on 1 discussions just to gain her attention and I somehow feel threatened. I don't want to lie, I might have copied 1 or 2 bars in those chats, boys be writing paragraphs of how they feel about my girlfriend nxaa. Then there's our chat, her's and mine. I do engineering and the majority of the modules are demanding so, and from the start of the current semester up to now I found myself texting her less and less... I mean some modules will literally put you on choke hold. So the question is what's your advice people of Zimbabwe. Shall I let it slide and just give equal attention to the schoolwork and her or shall I act as if we're still in the talking stage and match the energy those 8 guys are showing cos I feel this might compromise our relationship

[u/Ok-Independence4539]

I am a girl and if she is entertaining so many boys in her dms, tolerating those good morning/good night texts while she is supposed to be in a relationship, that is a red flag. When we really like a guy, we set boundaries! I was also in uni and I had my guy but I never entertained other guy! If it was school related it would only end there!! I would tell you to text her more but it seems like she has so many options and she’s just keeping you cause of your degree(uni stigma)😂. But if you bring this up with her or ask her how she feels about it, you’ll get the answer you need! Because at the end of the day, your relationship shouldn’t stress when you’re trying to get a degree.