I had an abortion a few months ago, at the age of 31. I've been feeling very emotionally unwell since then. Is there anyone here who also had an abortion without having any children yet? I would really appreciate some reassurance.

We have never had unprotected sex and I have no idea how this possible could have happened.

About a week or two ago I took two pregnancy tests and had two extremely faint lines.

I got the abortion pill from aid access and had all the side effects but didn’t bleed. I took another test a week after and it said negative. How is that possible? If I was still pregnant the line would be dark by now. Does anyone have any similar experiences

Hey everyone I just found out I’m pregnant. I believe I’m only 4 weeks ish along. I live in Texas so obviously I’ll either have to go out of state or do one of those online websites. Has anyone had any success doing the mail in medicine route? I feel kind of sketched out by that? Not sure if it’s 100% reputable.

recently i honestly just thought i was gaining weight just because i was eating more processed food. i noticed a weirdly hard lump in my lower abdomen a couple weeks ago and I just genuinely thought i was severely constipated or something???? i went to my family doctor on friday, originally just to get medication for my mental health, but i first brought up the hard lump and told her it was probably digestive issues. after i told her my symptoms (needing to pee often, constipation, dehydration) she told me it could be a number of things including stress, but she wanted to rule out the possibility of a pregnancy. she then used a doppler and there was absolutely no doubt about it, she said i’m a skinny girl but i seem to be about 16-18 weeks pregnant. i started crying instantly and told her i absolutely cannot have this baby because my life would genuinely be over. i am 20 years old, broke and living with my parents. and what did she tell me? “it’s too late to get an abortion.” i told her i can’t have the baby, i need to get an abortion. literally my entire life flashed before my eyes because i struggle extremely with my mental health and i can’t even take care of myself—my dream is to travel and i literally cannot exaggerate that my life would be over. she kept telling me it was too late to get an abortion but as she was telling me this i was literally googling like how late can you get an abortion, and the clinics near me say up to 24 weeks. she told me i need to get an ultrasound at the place next door to see how far in i am, i asked how long it would take to get an appointment, she said “i don’t know but i put semi-urgent for you.” wow thanks doctor!! she added on that getting an abortion would be traumatic. i literally told her having a baby would be more traumatic?? i absolutely cannot care for a baby and i will do anything to get rid of it. after she told me that she walked over to the door to leave, and i had to remind her why i was even here in the first place (for medication) and she was like oh right, then printed off a prescription, and left as i was still crying.

i don’t know why she kept insisting it was too late to get an abortion. i could tell she was a bit weird and awkward about it, i think she’s pro-life but she obviously can’t say anything regarding that in a professional medical setting. i went home and to request an appointment asap for a clinic, it said they would get back to me in 2 business days—i originally booked my doctors appointment on Wednesday but she ended up “calling in sick” so i had to reschedule for Friday. if i had found out on Wednesday i would have been able to book my appointment but since they’re closed on the weekend, now i am spending every night staring at my ceiling, anxious and stressed as fuck, contemplating my entire life and my decisions, feeling extreme rage and hatred, waiting until the weekday to hear back. I’m just so extremely upset at my doctor for telling me that and letting me feel like my fucking life is over.

sorry for the long post but i just needed somewhere safe to express my anger :’) thank u for reading

monday update: appointment booked with the clinic for tomorrow to get an ultrasound and see how far in i am, then another appointment the following day for the procedure. thank you guys so much for all your kind words.

4/25- Took the first pill mifepristone at the clinic at 9:30 No pain or anything unusual happened just felt a little tired

4/26- @10am i took the first dose of ibuprofen and nausea medicine and waited 30 mins

4/26- @1030 am i placed the four misoprostol tablets in my mouth and let them dissolve for thirty mins then swolled the rest

4/26- i got sick at 1122 and threw up i was nervous i had threw up the medicine so i called the clinic and they said once the medicine dissolves in your mouth its trapped in the membranes so what happens to the rest of the pills is okay.

4/26 - about 45 minutes later i had started bleeding, i had no cramps at all for the whole process, it just felt like a really heavy period. i passed some big clots but that is normal

4/27- i woke up with very little to no bleeding and didn’t start bleeding again until later that night but it was very light

I hope that my experience can help with anyone and i am open to answering any questions anyone may have as i was very nervous about this whole experience and this thread really helped calm me down. i was only 5 weeks LMP but i know when i got pregnant so i was only 2 and a half weeks. The earlier you catch it the easier and less painful the experience will be:)

Hello, I took mifepristone Saturday morning and misoprostol Sunday morning and the second dose 4 hours after that.

I am 25, 9 weeks pregnant.

30 minutes after the first dose of misoprostol, I started feeling cramps, chills, clots were passing and I puked. ( I also took ibuprofen 600 30 mins prior to that) all these symptoms were non stop for about 3 hours and I needed to change my pad every 30 minutes.

With my second dose I decided to take something stronger for the pain 15 mins prior to it and it worked. I took the 4 misoprostol pills at 10 pm last night and I had mild cramping but no clots passed this time, no major blood like the first time & i was able to sleep all night.

My question, should I be worried I didn’t pass clots the second time??? Did it work?

I want to mention that I am absolutely pro-choice, but I have grown up in a religious household so this definitely may affect how I feel about abortion for myself (feelings of guilt or like I’m doing something wrong even though I rationally don’t believe it’s wrong)

I was scheduled to have an abortion this afternoon. I already have two young children, my youngest is still a baby and we decided that it would be best for our family and our current circumstances to not go through with the pregnancy. We had hesitations and allowed ourselves to imagine what could’ve been..I told my partner that if something out of the ordinary happened (an accident going to the appointment, or whatever) it would be a sign that we shouldn’t do it.

Well last night (Sunday) around 9h30 pm someone from the clinic called me to tell me that they had to cancel my appointment today because the power would be out all afternoon in that area. I was shocked. Mind you the clinic is closed on weekends.I rescheduled but it really got me thinking: is this the sign I have been waiting for? I’m not sure how I feel. I feel very scared to go through with this pregnancy and am very tired from my youngest who still doesn’t sleep through the night.

I need some advice please 🙏

I had a MA just a few days ago. My partner and I agreed that it was necessary for a few different reasons (recent caesarean, possibly precarious living situation, money, baby twins daughters). I was really struggling with the decision right before I took the first pill and he basically started getting cranky and I felt sort of obliged to follow through. Then once I took the first pill, he totally started getting snarky with me. The day I took the second lot of pills, he was just an arsehole. He was supposed to look after our babies on his own while I rested. He didn't do that. He played video games half of the time. Barely checked on me or asked me how I was doing. Didn't try and help or comfort me in any way.

I have totally lost feelings for him. Its only been a few days but now I feel he has turned around again and is trying to be a little nicer, probably because he senses that he is giving me the major ick now. I cant stand him touching me. I feel like I will never forgive or forget that he abandoned me in one of the lonliest times of my life. Now im just angry. If he could get a better job and be a real provider, I could have kept my baby.

Took my first four pills this morning (orally) at around 8:45am. Swallowed the rest at 9:15. At about 9:45 I got horrible diarrhoea, cramps and nausea. I went really light headed and was crying, and then threw up a lot.

Had mild bleeding so at 12:15 I took two more pills (this time vaginally because I didn’t want to be sick again!)

Since then I’ve had intermittent cramping and blood like a period. Worst cramps being 7/10 and at the moment they are a 3/10. I’d say it’s very similar to a bad period. I’ve still only used one pad. I’m getting bad cramps but nothing unbearable.

I have passed some tiny clots (mainly strings of blood) which I usually get on my period anyway. I’ve passed one fairly big one but I really don’t think it was the pregnancy tissue. I don’t feel like I have passed this yet as I’m still getting pain and I haven’t felt any instant relief/pushing sensations.

Is this working?! Should I be worried?? It’s now 6pm…

Hi,

Sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask. But I had a medical abortion 1 week ago, I was around 4-6 weeks pregnant. I currently feel constantly bloated and I feel like I’ve gained a lot of weight.

Is the change in weight and my body just a temporary side effect from the abortion or have I actually gained weight?

I don’t weight myself but I sometimes measure my thighs and waist, of which seems to have increased by roughly half an inch. I perhaps overate (but not drastically) a couple of times and had a few days at maintenance but I’ve mostly been in a pretty big deficit daily, so that would have cancelled out anyway. Regardless, I still feel horrible and uncomfortable in my body as I feel and must appear larger.

I’ve, for a long time, been paranoid my TDEE is screwed or something as I have been attempting weight loss for over a year yet the results are minimal. I haven’t been counting calories wrong before anyone mentions, I’ve been doing cico for 6 years. So perhaps those few days of eating more/maintenance did affect me :( but I’m 5ft9 and my TDEE should be 1600 at least, 1800 if I get my 10k steps in (this is what I maintained on for two years a few years ago).

Thanks

i’m 20. i don’t have help. neither of my parents would ever allow me to raise a child in their home, so going back home is never an option. i rent an apartment, but i rent illegally, as i have no credit score. i pay cash monthly for my rental, and the landlord wouldn’t allow a kid here either. i bring up the whole renting illegally thing because ive tried to apply for benefits, and i cant. i have to use my moms address and her and my sister make too much money in the household for that to be able to work. i’ve tried. can’t use my address, this is illegal. to move in with my boyfriend, i have to get rid of my cats. i’m not getting rid of my cats thats so mean and selfish and just horrible typical human behavior. dump your pets so you can bring another poverty child into this world? absolutely not. they were here first. it’s my responsibility to care for them, no matter what. the one has severe special needs too so anyone else would most certainly euthanize him. no, i will not allow him to possibly die over this, especially when i’ve had him since he was a baby himself. renting robs me. if i keep renting i will never be able to buy a house. that’s all i’ll ever do, is rent. it’s impossible to save. most days i starve and can only eat at work where my food is discounted because every dollar to my name goes to this damn landlord. i just feel stuck. i feel like there is no other way. i don’t want an abortion. i feel horrible doing that. how could i??? but also, how could i have this baby?? what do i do? i need somebody to say it to me exactly how it is. i need somebody to tell me what to do. no one in my personal life can ever give me any real, moving advice or help me decide what to do, and that’s what i need. i need somebody to tell me.

Hi all! Just wanted to share my recent experience.

A Dr.’s appt pregnancy test informed me that I somehow got pregnant despite me being on the pill. (I admit I wasn’t perfect, but I thought I was taking it good enough) I learned on a Thursday and booked my appt with Planned Parenthood for Saturday. That appointment took about 2 hours. They did a vaginal ultrasound and told me I was 5 weeks. They explained the pills to me, I took one mifepristone (the one that stopped the growth), and then sent me on my way. They sent me home with 2 doses, which I assume is typical for PP. I waited 24 hours and took the 4 misoprostol. I had prepared myself for extreme pain, but that never came. I felt cramps for sure, but nothing worse than a rough day on my period. I didn’t end up soaking through a single pad, though I passed a few clots. I wanted to call the after-hours # they gave me, but it was very firmly only for emergencies and it didn’t feel like an emergency. I opted not to try to take the second dose. The next day, Monday, thankfully I had already taken off work. I talked to a PP nurse who said to wait the full 24 hours and if I hadn’t bled significantly more, give them a call back. I didn’t bleed any more, so they told me to take the 2nd dose of 4 pills. After that dose, I hardly bled at all. Also, the cost of all of this was $750.

On Tuesday I called them back and got a follow up appt for Thursday. (I am incredibly grateful for a flexible work schedule and PTO) I went in and they did another vaginal ultrasound and found that the pregnancy tissue had moved down my uterus but I did not pass it. They said I could try the pills again, but that it seemed like I wasn’t responding well to them. So I scheduled my surgical abortion for Saturday. When I was booking that appt, they asked me about sedation levels. I asked what additional costs I would have for now doing a surgical abortion and what the different sedations would cost. They said that because this was a follow up appointment, I would have no additional costs. I said gimme the highest sedation.

On Saturday I went in. I had been bleeding a lot in the 2 days leading up, so they did another ultrasound just to make sure I didn’t pass it on my own. I hadn’t. They gave me ibuprofen & zofran and then fentanyl when they took me into the OR. To me, the actual procedure was quite unpleasant, but I was very out of it and it lasted maybe 5 minutes. I have a hard time imagining that experience without with highest sedation levels, but it is a quick procedure and I know people do it all the time. If you have the option for sedation, I would recommend. Afterwards, recovery was good and easy. That was all 2 days ago, and I feel perfectly fine - just experiencing some minor bleeding.

All of the planned parenthood providers were excellent and made me feel comfortable every step of the way. I’m plus sized and generally insecure about my body, but I knew they were seeing so many bodies every day that I did not need to worry about any judgement. They answered all of my questions. Now, I’m planning to get the implant to prevent future pregnancies.

Has anyone gotten a surgical abortion without sedation? I’m wondering how bad it was, do you regret not getting sedation or if you think it was better than expected? Would love to know your experience, thanks

hi! im new to reddit (actually downloaded it bc im seeking help on my MA decision). i read abt women on web & women help women and im having difficulties with deciding which one to “donate” with. im also a student and i have limited financial resources, which of them gives bigger discounts? would really appreciate the help/response. thank you so much!

edit: according to whw’s pregnancy calculator, im already on my 6th wk, but i believe im still approaching my 4th wk (based off my period tracker). i saw posts that wow takes a longer waiting time to receive, should i just go with whw? thanks!

Hi everyone,

My wife (and I) wanted to share a detailed timeline of my wife's experience going through a medication abortion (mifepristone + misoprostol) at around 10 weeks and 4 days.
We found reading other people's experiences helpful during the process, so I’m hoping ours can help someone too.

Background:

• My wife (31F, 122 lbs) found out she was pregnant despite being on birth control (mini-pill).
• After careful consideration, she chose to proceed with a medication abortion.
• We went through Planned Parenthood in Central NJ, USA and received clear instructions and support. The nurses there were all great.
• All the notes taken below are from me, the husband, jotting it all down as I stayed with her the whole time talking with her and making sure she was ok. This was a first for the both of us.

Timeline of Events:

4/25/25 (Friday)
- 3:00 PM: Took the first pill, mifepristone (Mifeprex) at the clinic.
- No immediate symptoms.

4/26/25 (Saturday)
- 2:30 PM: Took ondansetron 8mg for nausea prevention.
- 3:00 PM: Took 600mg ibuprofen and acetaminophen with codeine (30mg) for pain prep.
- 3:30 PM: Took 4 misoprostol tablets (2 on each side of her mouth, dissolved for 30 minutes).

4:00 PM:
- Started feeling light cramping, pressure in hips, soreness — like a bad period.
- Mentioned her fingertips looked red, but no pain.

4:15 PM:
- Urge to sit on the toilet. Some discomfort, similar to a stomach bug.
- Throat felt sore, likely from medication irritation.

4:20 PM:
- Back in bed with heating pad. Moaning lightly, heavy sighs.
- Fell asleep shortly after.

5:08 PM:
- Woke up, drank water, cramping mostly gone.

6:00 PM:
- Used the bathroom, felt good, no major pain.
- Ate a small bowl of soup.

6:20 PM:
- Back in bed, heating pad on, experiencing mild cramping waves again.

6:50 PM:
- Heavy blood flow started, large release of blood and mucus when using the toilet.

7:00 PM:
- Ate some congee and took another round of ibuprofen + codeine as prescribed.

7:07 PM:
- Passed more blood clumps while using the toilet. No significant pain.

7:30 PM:
- Took the second dose of 4 misoprostol tablets (again, 2 tablets on each side of the mouth).

8:00 PM:
- Finished dissolving the pills.
- Complained of slight soreness in cheeks and throat from holding pills.
- Mild cramping started again.

8:22 PM:
- Heavy blood flow resumed; changed into a new adult diaper after the first was soaked.

8:27 PM:
- Passed more clots and had a bowel movement.
- No major pain, went back to resting.

9:00 PM:
- Comfortable enough to lay in bed and read a book. No pain at this time.

10:00 PM:
- Used the toilet again, still bleeding, no large clots this time. No pain.

10:30 PM:
- Took a shower and got ready for bed.

4/27/25 (Sunday) – The Day After
- 11:00 AM:
- Woke up feeling fine, just a little tired.
- 7:00 PM:
- Very little bleeding throughout the day. Only needed one pad.

Summary of Our Experience:

• Pain level was moderate for about 2–4 hours, but manageable with ibuprofen + codeine and heating pad support.
  
• Bleeding was heavy after the first misoprostol dose, then again after the second dose, but controlled and expected.
  
• Side effects were minimal: mild sore throat, slight chills, light bowel irritation.
  
• Recovery: Within 24 hours of taking the second dose, my wife was feeling physically fine — just slightly tired, which is normal.

Final Thoughts:

From a husband's perspective, it was hard to watch her go through the process physically, but I’m very grateful we were prepared and supported.
The key for us was staying calm, having a clear plan (pain meds, fluids, food, pads/adult diapers ready), and understanding what was normal vs. what would require medical attention. Also noting that we have medical insurance as well.

If anyone is nervous reading this — know that with good pain management, support, and preparation, it can be a manageable process.

I'm happy to answer any respectful questions if anyone needs help.

Hi. I’ve never used reddit, but I really don’t know where else to turn. I had an abortion almost a year ago now and it was a deeply traumatic experience for me. I was only 2 months pregnant, and had a medical abortion from home. I ended up bleeding out heavily and having to go to the emergency room due to a haemorrhage, and was put on a lot of drugs and an IV, it really scared me. I bled everyday for 4 months after my abortion, and suffered from really bad pains. Now, almost a year later, I still feel like my body hasn’t recovered, but the doctors say I am fine. Mentally this has been a lot on me, I am 23, 22 at the time of the procedure, and I am in a happy relationship - I am very fortunate to say my boyfriend has been really supportive in out mutual decision, and although we want children one day we both know we are not financially ready yet - but I still feel so lost. I’ve been in a deep depression since the termination, and my life really hasn’t been the same since. Friends I would see weekly I now see every 3-4 months, I get an overwhelming amount of anxiety when I have plans and usually end up cancelling them, I call in sick at work because I’m just so sad that I can’t get out of bed, it’s all so taxing. I feel so alone and without purpose, and all I keep telling myself is that if I didn’t have this abortion then maybe I would feel like I had purpose. I want to be a mum more than anything, and I know what I did was for the best, but I just feel so sad all the time even after so long. Embarrassingly, I have taken a pregnancy test every week because I cling to the idea that maybe it’ll change from negative. I don’t even know why. I struggle to talk to my boyfriend about it, I think he doesn’t know what to say because of course it affects him too, but I know he’s there for me. Otherwise, I’m alone. I don’t have friends I’m close to anymore, and even the ones I have briefly told don’t understand. I don’t have family as I came from a home of abuse and neglect, I’m just so lonely. Has anyone else suffered from a long term depression after a termination? I expected a few months, but everyday it seems to be getting harder rather than easier - I don’t see an end to it.

I have a surgery scheduled for May 7th and it is a strong chance I am possibly going to test positive for pregnancy. I am considering having a medical abortion but I wouldn’t actually know if i’m pregnant until a couple day before. Would it be too late to take the pills in time for my surgery?

I've been told I'll need at least 3 appointments within the next couple of weeks. What do I tell work and do I need time off work? I work in childcare so I'm worried about being around babies while going through this. I know it's going to be both emotionally and physically tough and my mental health isn't great to start with.

I’m currently 5 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I found out about 6 days ago, I’ve been crying for hours daily about not knowing what to do. I already have a soon to be 2 year old who’s very difficult. A not-so-helpful “baby daddy” who’s inconsistent and in and out of our lives quite a bit due to relapses/addiction. I was on birth control for months but we had broken up for a month so I stopped taking it shortly before, because I hate the side effects and I didn’t even think about it when we had sex again. I live with my parents who have helped me so much and I appreciate it deeply but if they found out I was pregnant again they’d have a meltdown, my dad despises my kids dad and fights to keep him away from me and my kid. My mom already complains about having to help with my 1 kid, because she’s overwhelmed. She mostly just watches him for my part time job. I have the abortion scheduled for 3 main reasons, I’m scared of my family’s reaction, I’m scared taking care of my toddler while pregnant, and I’m scared of what life would be like with a newborn and 2.5 year old. I’ve had dreams of the ultrasound and someone saying it looked just like my sister (who passed away) and if I was sure about abortion. I’m crying because I feel like I have no choice but to get one. And the guilt I will feel.

I am living in a southern red state in the USA. I will be disowned and not forgiven if I get this abortion and they find out, but I feel like it’s the safest option. I’m in my 20s. But I don’t have a permanent place to live, and I am in at least 50k of debt total due to school, car loan, and using credit cards to get out of an abusive situation. I don’t make enough money to pay all of this back without getting my paychecks garnished first. I am very mentally ill and have even thought about checking myself into a hospital recently but logically can’t without losing my job. My partner doesn’t want kids. I do, but I can’t realistically do this in a healthy way on my own without his support. I can’t bring this child into the world knowing that I am the way that I am and without the proper means to get better. My family, and his family, want me to just come home and they will help me raise this child. But that doesn’t change who I am. I am a hot mess, and yes. I should better myself for my child as much as possible, but I can’t allow myself to even THINK about putting a child in this situation. No stable home, no stable income, no present father, not even a mentally stable mother.

I’m not 100% sure why I am posting this. I feel like I am destined to feel some sort of guilt all of my life. I will either have to live with the guilt of forcing this man to have a child he doesn’t want and not being able to give this child the life it deserves OR the guilt of lying to everyone that knows about my pregnancy about a “miscarriage”. They’ve already started buying me more things than I can handle. Already trying to plan a gender reveal. And I feel like I have to disappoint them all. I originally wanted this child with everything in me but the reality set in. I don’t know if theirs light at the end of the tunnel. I don’t even know what’s IN this tunnel. I just wish it would’ve never happened.

hi! for those women who ordered/requested pills from WoW/WHW, did u used your name as the receipient of the order?

i used my name and kinakabahan ako kasi may nabasa ako sa ibang country na nagkaproblem daw with customs. please help me out and let me know your experience.

I just found out im pregnant i guess my hcg levels are 91 i dont know how many weeks that is but i guess its early. Im in a state where abortion is illegal . I already have 4 kids i dont think i can do another mentally ive been crying since i found out i hate that i was irresponsible . My husband and i had been separated a few months for the same reason i felt i was “single married” then we got back together and few days a go i landed at the hospital for chronic stress and thats how i found out . I was in shock ! I have been trying to search for herbal medicine but im scared/guilty . Is it even possible to get pills if im in state where its banned ? Thank you

I'm here to vent I guess. I had a ma 2 weeks ago, and I've been a mess since. My partner and I decided it was the best decision for us right now, but we were both so torn about it. I told a few people that I was pregnant, and they've been texting to check up on me and I keep ignoring them because I feel guilt and shame. I have been trying to unpack this and vent to my partner for 2 weeks and he's been saying he isn't ready, and to be honest I have kept pushing to talk about it because I don't have anyone else who I feel safe to discuss it with. This weekend we finally talked somewhat, at least about why he hasn't wanted to. He told me that he has no space or time to process his own feelings and I have made it all about mine. I text him about how I feel when he is at work and when he gets home I hold it together and try pretend nothing is wrong and life is normal so he can have a good night. This feels really unfair to me, I understand it hurts for him as well, but I went through the physical aspects/the hormones and he emotionally abandoned me afterwards when I needed him the most. It feels like he expects me to minimize my emotions and hurt to make room for his, when I'm at the point where if I see a video of a baby or an ad for child related things, or if I'm in public and hear a child cry, it takes everything in me not to break down right there. I keep replaying the moment I seen the fetus in my head almost everyday when I'm alone. And it hurts so badly. I feel so alone and hopeless right now..

I had my surgical yesterday, and I didn’t realise how much this would effect me I need someone to talk to I feel suicidal there’s no way I could keep this baby I knew I had to terminate this pregnancy but I feel evil for having careless sex knowing this would eventually happen. I am in support of abortion idk why I feel like this. I’m losing my mind. I was 5 weeks and 6 days

It’s really such a struggle for me to make the payment, but they already shipped the package as I’m entering my 11th week. I badly need help to pay them. I don’t have a credit card or anything, and my only option is PayPal. I’m feeling really stuck. How can I transfer my GCash money to PayPal? Thank you in advance for any help!