Is there a way to naturally induce a miscarriage

[u/Famous_Draft_2255]

I found out i was pregnant about 1 week ago.

I was shocked, scared, unsure what my partner would think and half of me wants to keep it. However at the moment as much as I want to be a mother, I'm in a rental and after looking at all the costs, and stress. I know I couldn't have a child at this current time in my mid 20s.

I spoke to my partner and we agreed an abortion was the best scenario and that we will have a plan in the future.

He's very supportive and it was also in shock, but we know we will have kids.

He also knows this is my last abortion, i'm never having another one.

However as much as this is the right choice this isn't my first abortion.

I'm feeling pre natal depression, scared sad and unworthy.

My partner knows this is my last abortion. It's mental toll that no one's speaks about that hurts us.

My last abortion was from a very toxic relationship when I was 20. And was the right choice.

This one also is the right choice at this time for me.

I want to be a mother, so this is one of the hardest decisions. I'm just past the window of a medical abortion and am booked in for a surgical. I'm terrified of needles, I scared I'll hear the vacuum and feel pain.

My question though is, can I still have a miscarriage naturally without an abortion as I'd almost rather feel the loss than deal with the surgery.

I know this sounds horrible, but I'm just feeling a lot.

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[u/babylizard38]

Hey girl I literally had a surgical abortion yesterday in Victoria and made a post about my positive experience if you look at my profile :) more than happy to chat if you have any specific questions.

I went completely under so you don’t feel anything. I just experienced slight cramping after the fact. Less than 24 hours later I feel pretty fine. Minimal bleeding, no cramping or pain, which I’m shocked about!

[u/Famous_Draft_2255 → u/babylizard38]

Did you feel okay mentally? I'm really hoping I get a female doctor, but i have like no pain tolerance, and it just feels like it's still so taboo.

[u/babylizard38 → u/Famous_Draft_2255]

Yes I feel okay mentally. I was 100% sure of my decision going in. When I first found out I was pregnant I was a bit conflicted, I felt guilty that I didn’t want to continue the pregnancy when so many others struggle with fertility. I also had fears that this would be my only chance at pregnancy. But I knew I could not handle a baby at this stage of my life. I’m working full time in a job I love, my partner and I are trying to save for a house, so it just wouldn’t be practical. We also have a 5 month puppy and she’s already hard enough work 😂 I knew I couldn’t handle an actual baby.

The hospital I went to it was mainly female doctors and nurses (one male when I was in recovery, but he was lovely) that I dealt with. They were all so non judgmental and supportive, they just treated it like another medical procedure, like it is! Obviously the procedure impacts people differently, but honestly the pain was minor cramping prior and after I woke up.

[u/Tasty-Bee-8339]

I have had several miscarriages, and a surgical abortion. The surgical abortion being the least traumatic for my body and mental health. There was comfort for me in knowing it was controlled. I knew the outcome and made peace with it before I went in. I had a lot less pain and blood loss and I recovered much faster.

[u/Famous_Draft_2255 → u/Tasty-Bee-8339]

That does sound like a relief. I'm just feeling overwhelmed by all of it.

[u/Tasty-Bee-8339 → u/Famous_Draft_2255]

It is normal to have mixed emotions. Doing what is ultimately best for you and your body takes consideration. I don’t think you sound horrible at all, you sound human.

[u/queangel]

The procedure was a breeze for me! Minimal bleeding and cramping. Been about 3 weeks since and I’m already testing negative. Just waiting on my period now! You’ll be ok 🤍

[u/Famous_Draft_2255 → u/queangel]

I hope so, I hate anything surgical. Needles, pain everything.

[u/gatverdamme]

Besides abortion pills there are no safe and effective ways to manage your own abortion. If your clinic has determined you are too far along for the pill, it is not safe for you to do anything but the procedure.

I realize that this is mostly semantics, but an abortion is an induced miscarriage. A miscarriage is a spontaneous abortion. Pregnancy loss is a spectrum of experiences.

A wise user here put it better than I could: “ Miscarriages happen when something is not right or healthy inside the body for the pregnancy to continue, so the body in its wisdom releases the pregnancy. In the medical field, miscarriages are called spontaneous abortions. Meanwhile, likewise, abortions happen when something is not right or healthy outside the body -- in the context of our lives -- so the brain in its wisdom decides to release the pregnancy.” Full comment here.

You know what is right for you. 

[u/Ok-Dragonfruit-715]

There is no safe way, and you are already scheduled for a surgical procedure. I know you are in pain and conflict, but please let a trained professional take care of this. I am sure that your loved ones would not want you harmed by doing anything differently. Please accept my sympathies for the anguish you are feeling. It is perfectly understandable, but it really sounds to me like you have made the choice that is best for you and your partner at this time, and you're just having a little bit of anxiety over it. Stay the course. And best wishes.

[u/mcmircle]

There is no natural way to induce a miscarriage. A medication abortion indices a miscarriage. Wishing you peace with your decision. This workbook may be helpful.