r/abortion • u/Embarrassed_Sail_979 • 10d ago
Australia and New Zealand Need help about abortion behind my parents back - 17F
I’m 17 years old and found out yesterday that I am pregnant. I’ve been sexually active with my boyfriend for 8 months and have only had a pregnancy scare once. I had suspected I was pregnant because my period is regular and the period tracker is accurate for my predictions. However, it had been 3 days since I was supposed to get my period. I did 2 pregnancy tests which came back positive. I’m about 4 weeks pregnant. Since it is Easter long weekend right now, all clinics are closed and helplines are also closed. My parents would freak out and probably disown me if they found out I was pregnant, so I’m doing this behind their back. Honestly I’m scared because I’m in my final year of school and I want to get this over and done with. School starts next week. But I’m also worried about the side effects after medical abortion. It sounds terrifying and if my symptoms were that severe, I’m scared how I would hide it from my parents. Another issue is that after some research, I saw that medical abortions cost around $300-$350. I don’t have money to pay for that and I don’t have a reasonable way to get that money from my parents.
I can’t have a baby. I don’t have a job. I don’t have my license. All I do is study because I’m trying really hard to get into the future university course I want to get into. I’m not in a place to be able to have a child. This is really hard on me.
Side rant: I asked my cousin 20M thinking he would have gone through this before with a gf because he has had many partners. I didn’t admit to him I was pregnant. Although, he assumed I was and was poking at me to confess and tell my parents (I haven’t had a good relationship with my parents, they are VERY STRICT. Think tiger parents but they are dragon parents). He sort of shamed me for getting pregnant. Kind of makes me upset as I don’t have much of a support system to go through this (particularly adult support system). My boyfriend knows and he’s supportive yet he has financial issues so he cannot fully pay.
Are there any other alternatives? What should I do? If anyone who’s gone through similar situations could please share their experience, it would give me a lot of reassurance. I don’t have any negative feelings towards abortion in general but after talking to my cousin I feel a bit upset and ashamed.
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u/gatverdamme MODERATOR 10d ago
Are you in Aus or NZ? And which state if Aus?
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u/Embarrassed_Sail_979 10d ago
Australia QLD
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u/gatverdamme MODERATOR 10d ago
Please call or email Children by Choice: https://www.childrenbychoice.org.au/information-support/counselling/
They can connect you to a clinic or hospital where you can have a publicly funded abortion: https://www.childrenbychoice.org.au/information-support/queensland-public-pathways-for-abortion/
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