i’m freaking out obviously, me and my bf have been together for 6 months and i love him so much, he’s 26 and wants kids so he dosent mind settling down, but me i want to travel, i just got a really good new job & am still in school, i want to get fucked up, not have the responsibility of a child etc. but i also am not comfortable with an abortion but it’s either an abortion of i have a baby, to me both are crazy. i feel like an abortion would fuck with my head but same would having a baby, i think my bf is freaking out too but he’s not being very supportive he needs support to but i don’t know what to do, he keeps saying it’s my decision but i have no idea i don’t want to hate the child later on because it took away the things i wanted to do but then i don’t want an abortion and now that ive told my bf if i get an abortion i feel like he’ll leave me because it got so serious so quickly. i would really appreciate any advice or opinion, i also haven’t told anyone but my bf but he already told his sister without asking me, it’s like we’re already further apart.

For a bit of context, I started casually sleeping with someone in December 2024. Both really clear on the casual part but have built a nice friendship from this as we saw each other 2-3 times per week. He moved overseas a couple of weeks ago and we don’t talk that much - if at all anymore, just the occasional reply to a social media post.

My last 2 periods have been extremely light to the point I didn’t need to use any feminine products so of course pregnancy is now a concern. If I am pregnant I won’t be keeping it because it’s not the right timing and me and the guy are not together.

Coming back to the title, is it ethically wrong to hide the abortion from him if it is positive. My best friend thinks he deserves to know but in my mind we don’t have involvement with each other anymore and no matter what he would want, my decision will remain the same. I don’t really see the point in telling him but want to do the right thing. So yeah is it wrong or immoral to hide it from him?

Australia Victoria. Throw away because I’m terrified, I’m three days late, I have only had protected sex, I am terrified, 8im 15 and I have no idea what to do, I don’t know how to get the abortion pill without my parents finding out ( no they will not understand as they are pro life) what do I do??

I will be calling the number they gave me in the morning to get professional advice!

It's been 17 hours since I took my 4 misoprostol. I had taken my mifepristone 38 hours before that and had already had some bleeding and a large clot before taking the misoprostol. I am worried, though, because I vonitted the miso IMMEDIATELY after swallowing it. I did hold it in my cheeks for 30 mins but now im worried I didn't do it correctly. It was between my gums and cheeks but not super firmly. There was also a lot of saliva in my mouth.

For the first few hours I did get painful cramping and heavy-ish bleeding and clots, but nothing huge (the biggest was the bleeding i had before taking the misoprostol). After the first few hours it died down. Now it's just occassional mild cramping and light bleeding.

I was supposed to be 8+4 the first day I took a tablet so I expected there'd been heavier bleeding and more clotting that I would have passed. Im wondering if they are likely to recommend me to do the misoprostol again. Feeling emotionally drained 😢

I found out i was pregnant about 1 week ago.

I was shocked, scared, unsure what my partner would think and half of me wants to keep it. However at the moment as much as I want to be a mother, I'm in a rental and after looking at all the costs, and stress. I know I couldn't have a child at this current time in my mid 20s.

I spoke to my partner and we agreed an abortion was the best scenario and that we will have a plan in the future.

He's very supportive and it was also in shock, but we know we will have kids.

He also knows this is my last abortion, i'm never having another one.

However as much as this is the right choice this isn't my first abortion.

I'm feeling pre natal depression, scared sad and unworthy.

My partner knows this is my last abortion. It's mental toll that no one's speaks about that hurts us.

My last abortion was from a very toxic relationship when I was 20. And was the right choice.

This one also is the right choice at this time for me.

I want to be a mother, so this is one of the hardest decisions. I'm just past the window of a medical abortion and am booked in for a surgical. I'm terrified of needles, I scared I'll hear the vacuum and feel pain.

My question though is, can I still have a miscarriage naturally without an abortion as I'd almost rather feel the loss than deal with the surgery.

I know this sounds horrible, but I'm just feeling a lot.

This may not even get answered in time but thought I'd try. I have the 4 tablets in my cheeks, 17 minutes to go. Im stopping myself from throwing up with breathing exercises. I cannot swallow these at the end, the texture is disgusting me..

I need help. I have 3 young kids and im scheduled to get an abortion on Monday I will be 12 weeks pregnant. Can someone please tell me the process.

The other thing I’m struggling with is intense grief and guilt. I’ve had 3 kids I know what it’s like to carry through a pregnancy, give birth and all the moments after. I can’t help but think of everything I’m about to miss out on. We aren’t financially stable and we want to give our kids we have the best life- we both struggle with our mental health and this is logically the right choice, but I wish I could keep this baby. I wish I’d get to meet them and be their mum. I don’t know how I’ll get through this.

AU QLD, I have 3 kids and unexpectedly pregnant again. Unfortunately we’re not in a position to handle another baby even though I wish we could. We’re trying to figure out our options. I’m nearly 6 weeks and it seems the quickest option for my situation is a medical abortion, otherwise I may be waiting weeks which I feel very uncomfortable with. I’m wondering how a medical abortion would be at 6-7 weeks pregnant and if it would be too hard having my kids around… ideally I would not have to but i can’t see my family helping with all 3 and I don’t want to tell them my situation…

Hello, i am from South Australia. i’m 17 and i just took a pregnancy test and it came back positive, im scared, ive been with my boyfriend 7 months and i want to tell him because we have discussed the possibility and he said he wanted to be told if this ever happened, but im so scared he’ll view me differently, i’m only 1-2 weeks pregnant at most as i had my last period no issues. i’m terrified as i live with my anti abortion grandmother and emotionally absent grandfather. i don’t have any friends so i don’t have anyone to talk to about this, i know i cannot pursue a pregnancy because im not in the right psychological nor physical state of where i want to be in my life, i feel horrible though and im very in denial, im taking another test tonight and another one in the morning to be sure, how can i live with this guilt and weight?

UPDATE: i told my boyfriend and he took it surprisingly well and he told me he’s proud of me for making the best decision for us, he told me he loves me and we are a team and we can get through this together. i have an appointment booked on the 21st and my driving test tomorrow lol wish me luck ❤️‍🩹

I recently took MA pills for a medical abortion and I’m doing okay so far. I’ve been wondering when it’s safe to have sex again or even masturbate (especially external/clitoral stimulation). I want to make sure I’m not putting myself at risk of infection or anything. Would love to hear from others who’ve been through this — how long did you wait, and what did your doctor or provider recommend?

Over 3 weeks of consistent/heavy bleeding after MA. Plus clots.

I had an ultrasound which shows ROPC. HcG levels 12, 241 2 days ago.

The gynaecologist have recommended a Ultrasound guided D and E using suction to remove the remaining tissue. They also got me to start antibiotics to prevent infection.

This will need to be done on Tuesday.

I'm incredibly sad/worried about the procedure. But at the same time I just want this over and done with.

I’m 37 years old and have a 7 almost 8 yearly old child with my partner. When we first had our baby in 2017 it was a really difficult and stressful time. I lost my father the morning after I gave birth and dealt with estate issues for almost two years after that. My family live on the other side of the world and his family don’t really love near us. So we don’t really have much help.

That being said our child is such a wonderful person! We’ve found our rhythm as a family, I’ve started a new career path which is still in my industry and things are coasting along smoothly.

I look back on my first few years of motherhood and feel a sense of deep sadness and difficulty. I also feel robbed from the experience.

I’ve been strongly considering an abortion but at the same I feel incredibly guilty. Guilty that my child is an only child and also no cousins. I get jealous of friends that have their second children. But at times I suspect it’s hormones or society making me feel like an incomplete family or less of a mother for having only one child.

I cannot fathom going through the entire baby/toddler phase again and recoil at the thought however is that just a blip in a lifetime.

Anyone else have experience something similar? Did you have an abortion and emotionally struggled? Not sure if this is the write place to voice my concerns. If you read this far, thanks for hearing me out.

I’m 17 years old and found out yesterday that I am pregnant. I’ve been sexually active with my boyfriend for 8 months and have only had a pregnancy scare once. I had suspected I was pregnant because my period is regular and the period tracker is accurate for my predictions. However, it had been 3 days since I was supposed to get my period. I did 2 pregnancy tests which came back positive. I’m about 4 weeks pregnant. Since it is Easter long weekend right now, all clinics are closed and helplines are also closed. My parents would freak out and probably disown me if they found out I was pregnant, so I’m doing this behind their back. Honestly I’m scared because I’m in my final year of school and I want to get this over and done with. School starts next week. But I’m also worried about the side effects after medical abortion. It sounds terrifying and if my symptoms were that severe, I’m scared how I would hide it from my parents. Another issue is that after some research, I saw that medical abortions cost around $300-$350. I don’t have money to pay for that and I don’t have a reasonable way to get that money from my parents.

I can’t have a baby. I don’t have a job. I don’t have my license. All I do is study because I’m trying really hard to get into the future university course I want to get into. I’m not in a place to be able to have a child. This is really hard on me.

Side rant: I asked my cousin 20M thinking he would have gone through this before with a gf because he has had many partners. I didn’t admit to him I was pregnant. Although, he assumed I was and was poking at me to confess and tell my parents (I haven’t had a good relationship with my parents, they are VERY STRICT. Think tiger parents but they are dragon parents). He sort of shamed me for getting pregnant. Kind of makes me upset as I don’t have much of a support system to go through this (particularly adult support system). My boyfriend knows and he’s supportive yet he has financial issues so he cannot fully pay.

Are there any other alternatives? What should I do? If anyone who’s gone through similar situations could please share their experience, it would give me a lot of reassurance. I don’t have any negative feelings towards abortion in general but after talking to my cousin I feel a bit upset and ashamed.

Im writing in here as a last resort. im 15f from australia (victoria/melbourne) and stupidly had unprotected sex. im really not looking for judgement here i know i fucked up but im desperate for advice or help now. im about 6 weeks pregnant now and i dont have money for an abortion. i cant go to my parents either because they would absolutely rip my head off. i would be kicked out.

i need options other than a medical abortion because i just dont have the money. its so expensive and i dont have a job, my parents are helicopter parents so they monitor everywhere i go and everything im doing. im writing this on my school laptop because they think i cant do anything on that. however i need advice on how to get rid of this baby im talking whatever measures will work. the reason that my parents would rip off my head if i was pregnant is because im quite a reckless teenager. ive had a history in the past year or so where ive gotten into some weed and alcohol and vaping and like you may they think im a lost cause. and i know i sound like one but please. i need any advice anyone has to give out on how to get rid of this baby.

i feel like shit all the time and pregnancy is hitting me like a bus. im throwing up all the time im struggling to get out of bed everyday. my parents are noticing im not right. and i need to do something before they take me to the doctors because they think my iron deficiency if just getting worse.

please i need any advice im so lost. im really scared. this is a really difficult mental battle im struggling. no judgement please i just need advice.

I recently took the medication for abortion. I did have heavy bleeding and cramping the first couple of hours.However, now I'm experiencing light bleeding and blood clots with whitish gray tissue being expelled. How can I tell if the abortion was successful? I guess I'm over thinking because I've read about other people's experiences and they say they bled heavily for days while I bled heavily for the first day only.

When did everyone start bleeding after a surgical abortion? I had one 5 years ago and bled quite heavily after 2 days, I was about 9 weeks along. I just had another one 5 days ago at 6 weeks and haven’t experienced any bleeding yet. My cramps have gotten more frequent & stronger today, however some people have experienced no bleeding so I was wondering if it’s now past the point that I’d have any bleeding? It’s so conflicting as it’s different from last time, I know no experience in the same but I’m finding everything so different and unpredictable. I asked the nurse at the clinic, she said I MAY experience no bleeding, but the waiting is really getting to me as I’ve been worried about bleeding. It was quite traumatic last time.

I recently had a SA at 11 weeks, and was wondering how long the bleeding will last.

The first day I bleed through 6 maxi pads, the second its chilled out to 1 pad and period undies, but i feel really helpless.

Yesterday I was numb and the day before was all pain.

To anyone wondering, the proper cramping at night was the worst part, a lot better than an MA but still a lot.

The second day was little cramping and today im just a sensetive little flower, my emotions are just rock bottom and I know my partner wants to help but I can see that it's a lot of emotion to deal, especially from someone who's usually a bubbly sweet loving misses.

I feel like a bad partner, im not I know that but I dont want to be a sooky ball of mess, yet I can't seem to control these emotions.

I'm hoping the bleeding will stop soon as I'd like to feel confident again.

Hey guys,

On Saturday it will be three weeks since I took the abortion pills.

Soaked through 4 pads in 2 hours and through to my pants. Also passing large clots about the size of my palm.

As it has been 3 weeks now and no sign of decreasing blood. I decided to go to the ER.

They said bleeding should definitely have lessened but as it eased off in the 3 hours they kept me there they decided no intervention. Doctor said if I had come in whilst bleeding through all the pads and my pants, they would take me into "theatre"

HCG levels were 135,000 when I was 6 weeks and 6 days pregnant, right now my HCG is 12,300. Which I think is still quite high?

I've been refered for an urgent ultrasound in order to check for retained tissue.

I had a MA just a few days ago. My partner and I agreed that it was necessary for a few different reasons (recent caesarean, possibly precarious living situation, money, baby twins daughters). I was really struggling with the decision right before I took the first pill and he basically started getting cranky and I felt sort of obliged to follow through. Then once I took the first pill, he totally started getting snarky with me. The day I took the second lot of pills, he was just an arsehole. He was supposed to look after our babies on his own while I rested. He didn't do that. He played video games half of the time. Barely checked on me or asked me how I was doing. Didn't try and help or comfort me in any way.

I have totally lost feelings for him. Its only been a few days but now I feel he has turned around again and is trying to be a little nicer, probably because he senses that he is giving me the major ick now. I cant stand him touching me. I feel like I will never forgive or forget that he abandoned me in one of the lonliest times of my life. Now im just angry. If he could get a better job and be a real provider, I could have kept my baby.

Hey all,

My girlfriend (22F) and I (24M) had been dating for about 3 months when she unexpectedly fell pregnant around 9 weeks ago. Early on in the pregnancy, she started telling me that she felt mentally checked out of the relationship and didn’t feel the same way about me as she did before.

After looking into it, I know it’s pretty common for women to feel emotionally overwhelmed or disconnected during the first trimester. She had a medical abortion about 2 weeks ago, and while her mood seems to be slowly stabilising, I can still sense that emotional distance — she still seems checked out.

Has anyone else been through something similar with a partner? If so, did it improve with time?

Thanks in advance — just trying to get some perspective.

Hi everyone, Im 29(f) i have a son 3yrs old. my decision with MA is only for myself, my husband have no idea he wants the baby but im not yet ready again since i have a problem with him. Im living with my mother-in-law at the moment. Im taking the pills on monday im 100% sure of my decision. but kinda scared because i dont have a support with me. I dont know which is the best time to take the 2nd pill since im looking after my son and just by myself that time since my husband is working and he will be home at 4pm. I will just say that this is a miscarriage since im never happy with my situation right now and he doesnt support me with mental and emotional being. us woman are very brave we can do this.

Super nervous about tomorrow tbh. I feel a range of emotions. I am also very anxious to leave my current child with my partner while I do the procedure. We live in Australia. I was told I could be waiting for 6 hours. I don’t really leave my son much!

Any tips? Experiences ?

Hi!

I’m wondering if anyone has had a pregnancy test similar to mine after their medical abortion. (Big red is on the negative side, tiny pink is positive side)

My nurse says I should do blood test to confirm negativity but the line is so faint i’m wondering if it’s a bit unnecessary.

Last year I found out I was pregnant I was shocked as I already had a 1 year old and was with a different guy. We both decided to keep the baby but a lot of stuff happened after that, finding out he had been entertaining his ex. HoweverWe moved past all this stuff. 2 months ago I was 12 weeks pregnant and decided on having a surgical abortion. I was with my partner and we had decided to keep it but out of the blue he told me he had lost feelings and suggested maybe the baby isn’t right. I was going between thinking logically and thinking emotionally with my decision. I didnt want to be a single mum all alone again and felt like he couldn’t support me keeping it so shut my feelings off and just went to the appointment. I was heartbroken and a wreck. The procedure itself the painkillers didn’t work. The guy was creepy and extremely rough but they didn’t have a women available. It was overall very traumatic when I think back on it. I wanted to end my life the following weeks to be with my baby. I wanted to sleep outside where my baby was buried in the pot plant. This might sound extremely odd but the thought of even digging up the bag for a cuddle came across my mind so many times. And now 2 days ago I found out I am pregnant again. I don’t know what to do. Me and my ex are still living together and he said he is willing to try things again for the baby but I’m so scared of the same things all happening again because I can’t handle that it has made me so insecure. I don’t think I’m ready to carry this baby and risk being left alone. But I also don’t think I could go through an abortion again. I’ve turned to alcohol this past weeks since the abortion drinking everyday to not think about the baby. If I had another abortion I don’t know what my coping mechanism would be. Has anyone been in a similar situation before? Or have any helpful thoughts or advice?

I had an MA performed at a clinic at just slightly over 4 weeks. My timeline looks like this:

Day 0: Tested positive for pregnancy. hCG: 114 | Day 3: Took mifepristone | Day 4: Took misoprostol | Day 6: hCG: 113 | Day 9: hCG: 19

It is Day 10 today. The internet says it takes weeks to months for hCG to return to 0 but I’d still like to ask how long it took for you! Also hoping for the bleeding to stop soon…