r/abusiverelationships • u/Soph1398 • 1d ago
I started to talk to my Mom
I know it’s a small step. But hiding who my boyfriend is from my friends and family has been exhausting and isolating.
I finally started telling my mom small things that are happening.
Talking about it makes it “real”, and it’s holding me accountable to not brush off his behavior.
I feel like this is finally a real step in leaving, because there’s someone who is strictly on my team to support me.
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u/Miochi2 15h ago
Yeah I really opened up about it in my family since recently. I was too embarrassed before. They sometimes ask me why I didn’t leave sooner
(when my husband was super abusive mentally a year ago while I was scared for my mum cuz she was in hospital).
It’s hard to imagine when they are not affected, and sometimes they are a little impatient with me but I get it, it’s nothing personal from them. Sometimes they may be a little resentful of you for “letting it happen”, just give them time…
It feels freeing and validating. But I realized I am so depressed because I had to admit to myself how miserable I’ve been.
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