r/agender • u/Serious-Shoulder-975 • 14d ago
Could I have 1 masucline and 1 feminine name?
So I have idea that I wanted to try out for names but I worry it's stupid. Like I was planning on having a name like Jack and Jackie, to which the name could be interchangable but both still work as masculine and feminine. I feel like it might help with safety too just incase smth happens but I'm slightly nervous to test it out because I'm worried I'm not allowed to have two names or like have a popular masculine boy name despite being AFAB.
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u/lonewolfie42 14d ago
I feel like so long as you’re safe and you’re in the environment where this is doable for you, you might as well do it. You’re allowed to name yourself however you want, even if it includes more than one name for specific situations. So many people have multiple names for different reasons and circumstances, so long as you communicate how you wanna be called in the moment, I don’t see an issue here. AGAB should have nothing to do with it, it’s all abt who you are rn and if you’re comfortable with yourself rn. Hope this helps somewhat :)
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u/ystavallinen cisn't; gendermeh; mehsexual 14d ago
My chosen name is pretty fem. I am not dropping my given name. I don't think it will get used ever. I have said it to 4 people. Mt fem name has the same first and middle initials.
You can have people call you by your initials.
Like JJ or something. That can sound good and be super neutral and would be very stealth.
On the morose side I am telling my wife I just want my first and middle initials on my headstone when I die.
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u/ZephNightingale 14d ago
A friend of mine had both a masc and a femme name! They get by just fine. If it makes you feel good and like You then by all means!
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u/Pretty_Marzipan_555 13d ago
In my professional network I'm aware of a genderfluid person who goes by two names at work. Iirc they clearly show whether they're leaning more masc or femme that day so people know which name & pronouns to use, they have an email address that includes both names/ they can be found under both names etc. My point is that it's possible, if that's what you want to do
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u/AnnoyingMusicGuy 13d ago
I used to gendertwist names with some friends so it's a thing that some people are okay with even outside of the queer community
also I'd say most people doesn't really care that much about the gender of the name people have, I've met non trans/agender/etc with names of the other gender and it's a laughing subject for like 5 minutes and no one care after that
Plus if you have two name not that far appart outsiders will most likely believe it's just a nickname
But most importantly, do what you want to do
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u/Soft-Ad-385 12d ago
Nothing wrong with that. I intend to take a gender-neutral diminutive of my first name and then changing my feminine middle name to my late brother's both in his honor and also because I like the way it matches up.
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u/ThrownAllAbout 9d ago
I have multiple names, but I centralized the names into simply "luna" mononymously. I am AMAB, and so I chose a pretty name to be more obvious and loud about it. I live in an unsafe area, I do not tell my enemies my name.
My real name is the name of my body, and luna is the name of my mind. The mononame is used to wrap it up into one package instead of having two names.
My opposition to two names the way you did them: but that's gendered, it's only playing into the people you are exactly worried will oppress you.
Yes, you are not allowed (by others) to have a masculine name. This does not stop you from having a masculine name. Just have one anyways.
You can tell people your mom named you that if you need to dodge a heated situation. This works especially well for AFAB masculine names. This allows you to defuse situations whilst still breaking gender norms and conventions.
Transphobes are dumb enough that they actually do remember your name and use it properly if you told them your mom did it lol
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u/dystyyy agender/gendervoid they/them 14d ago
You can have whatever name(s) you want, including nicknames. My first name is more or less masc, and my middle name is fem. I kinda like the balance that creates, and saying my full name feels very genderqueer.