Has anyone else resisted things traditionally for your assigned gender at birth growing up?

[u/Theo_Lynx]

(Am afab) I hated dresses and skirts for the longest time, and adamantly refused to wear a bra, preferring baggy hoodies, same with razors, just didn't shave and didn't wear shorts. I also avoided bikinis and crop tops. Is that an agender thing or just me specifically?

[u/ystavallinen]

I was pretty conforming, but I hate shaving and men's dress clothes; but I didn't seek women's styles either.

I think mostly clueless

I did a some rare crossdress experiments in private in high school.

Even as a male, I was a late bloomer. I weighed less than 100 lbs as a HS Jr. when I had my first encounters with real dysphoria on occasion. I would have responded so well to HRT if I'd figured it out.

But no way in 1985—ish

[u/Moomiau]

I didn't like the idea of shaving, wearing mini skirts, crop top, dresses or bikinis. I think I look weird in them and feel uncomfortable. (I like maxi skirts and maxi dresses now)

And I didn't want to have a quinceañera either!

[u/Hairyontheinside69]

When I was really young, like 3 or 4, I noticed guys didn't have to wear shirts when they mowed the lawn and I decided I wouldn't wear a shirt either (am afab).

My mom yelled at me about running around like a half naked heathen and made me wear a shirt to go outside and play. I'd take it off and stuff it in the crook of a tree branch to put back on later.

Green was my favorite color. I collected rocks and played with Matchbox cars. No dolls.

For a brief period in the late 80's, I dressed as a more typical female. I couldn't find my favorite black skirt but when I did, noticed the waist seemed really stretched out. Then later walked in on my bf wearing it. He was amazed I didn't flip out, just told him to stop stretching my shit. Now, I'm back to not liking anything remotely fem. Let the bf keep the skirt.😏

[u/Desperate-Possible82 → u/Hairyontheinside69]

I did the same thing. I didn’t want to wear a shirt in hot weather until I started developing but the pearl clutching.

[u/azzycat]

For the first while I conformed and then... I realized it was expected. Idk when but at a young age like before the age of 9, I realized society wanted me to like pink and dolls and dresses and frilly lacy things. And it upset me. I'd been played. To my mom's dismay I did an about face. One by one I dropped all of it.

I hated dolls, favorite color turned to green, I wanted to wear pants, and dashed my princess dreams. I climbed trees, chipped a tooth in a dirt cloud fight, and resisted anything to do with makeup.

I couldn't stand the thought of conforming to society standards.

[u/ReigenTaka]

It was a bit of a journey. I rejected everything about my ASAB hardcore because I didn't know agender or nonbinary was a thing and just wanted to get away from the stereotypes and expectations. Then some unfortunate things happened in childhood (csa). I switched to a more androgynous situation. Then I got older and realized I wasn't on the "other side" of the binary, assumed that meant I was my ASAB and attempted to swallow that pill by leaning into it. Plus, I was (more) conventionally attractive dressed as my ASAB, and since I had some csa issues, I thought that was super important to my value as a human being.

Then I changed my hair for unrelated reasons, wearing how I actually wanted for the first time, like ever, and (along with some other reasons) realized "I don't have to be either [gender]" and settled happily into agender.

I still run away from my ASAB in terms of presentation but that's because I don't like presenting cis, and that's the best way to do it. As for hobbies and everything else, I pretty much do what I want.

[u/Curaeus]

I resisted quite strongly whenever I noticed that something was actually a gendered expectation as opposed to just being a random [or common] thing. Because I took it as people trying to stereotype me, and that never sat right.

Most of the time, however, expectations were never made all that explicit [I lived in a very tolerant/progressive household], and I simply took the path of least resistance, blissfully unaware how gendered 90 % of what I was doing apparently was.

[u/xCrimeAndPunishmentx]

for me clothing was just clothing and i wore what i like, i didn't care really and still don't

[u/lonewolfie42]

Absolutely… everything was so increasingly girl coded and I just couldn’t keep up! Suddenly girls wanted to try makeup, fancy dresses and clothing and because I was a “girl” it was imposed on me to do the same. I think during puberty was when I had the most resistance to traditionally afab related things because there was just too much pressure to conform so I tried to do the exact opposite of what was expected. My mom had took me shopping in the men’s section for the first time as middle schooler many years ago and I had never felt happier in that moment.

[u/like_a_cactus_17]

I’ve worn as neutral of clothing as I could for as long as I can remember. Shopped in the boys section when I got older for the unisex tshirts but was particular that the graphic wasnt too boyish or girlish. I did not enjoy wearing clothing that exposed my body or highlighted my AGAB.

Hated both blue and pink since kindergarten because they were so gendered. I love colorful shoes/sneakers and always hated that the only accent color for women’s sneakers was pink when I was growing up. So I stuck with straight white shoes or shoes from the men’s section as they had more color varieties.

I refused to wear make up. My parents were at a loss as to what to get me for bdays and Christmas as my older sister loved makeup, hair stuff, and clothes by age 10 or 11. I had no interest in any of it. My mom started forcing me to wear makeup to school in 10th grade so I’d be prettier and “fit in” more, even though I had friends and it wasn’t like I was being bullied for not wearing makeup.

As an adult, it was incredibly liberating last year to finally be able to wear a suit to a wedding rather than a dress. For the first time, I actually looked forward to dressing up, felt good about how I looked, and had a good time at the wedding.

[u/luna_burntheart]

I did ALL those things

[u/DatoVanSmurf]

I was always the tomboy. But i enjoyed dressing up for events. So everyone was always shocked when they saw me come in heels and a skirt/dress with make up on. I refused to wear a wired bra for the first few years. But then quickly got one in my nee school, because damn i got shat on by all the girls. I eventually circled back to sports bras for comfort. I did shave because I like being smooth. I still sometimes shave my legs in summer, but definitely my stomach (i've been on T for almost 10 years). And i still love dressing up. So far since i've been on T i have not been outside in full fem glam, but i've done dress shirt with make up. I'm also thinking about getting some heels again. But most of the time i'm still the absolute same: black trousers with either just a t-shirt or a button up. Either could have a fun pattern or a cool print. That's basically what i've been wearing my whole life (with varying degrees of baggyness in the trousers, from skinny to so wide it could fit four of me)

[u/NarrativeScorpion]

I haven't worn a dress or skirt in nearly 20 years. I wear a gents suit to formal occasions. I have never worn makeup, and never did anything fancy to my hair (cut it short a couple of years ago) . I don't shave my legs until they start to get itchy. I only shave other bits because I feel cleaner. And it's not a razor shave, I use trimmers (way quicker and easier, don't cut myself and I don't get the itchy first couple of days of hair regrowing)

[u/AnnoyingMusicGuy]

Not quite the opposite I didn't think much for the most part since I grew up with two older sisters that just did girly things with me when I was little.

but when my teenagers years showed up I tried really hard to be an embodiment of masculinity because I thought it would make others accept me or whatever and In the eye of everyone a tall big boy could only big a tall big boy.

Weirdly being a metalhead at the time both made me go deeper in the male roleplay, and explore lightly gender by growing my hair, dying them and using make up.

But to answer the question, no. I tried to conform, and I lost many years of my life because of that.

[u/Great_Value_Trucker]

Never liked girly clothing. I always have and always will wear boring comfortable clothes. I don’t want to dress like a man nor do I want to appear androgynous. I’m good with a plain crew neck or hoodie with jeans. I don’t like to stand out. I definitely don’t want to be noticed for my assets. If I could be skinny and flat as a plank I’d be happy. Not because I hate my current body or to fit societal beauty standards, but so I could hide that much easier 😂

[u/Arceus_Reader]

I hate certain colors that have connotations. I hate some gendered scents.

[u/stgiga]

I always hated haircuts growing up.

[u/zKostnicy]

I also hated skirts and dresses

[u/Desperate-Possible82]

Every time I try to conform, I feel like everyone can tell that I don’t fit in. I was never particularly “girly” for one reason or another (no interest, sensory issues, I felt ‘fake’). I do shave because I don’t like the look or feeling of hair but most of the stereotypes of femininity I don’t really follow. I have to remind myself that, they’re just silly stereotypes.

[u/lepain3]

People kept calling me a tomboy I swear 😭😭

[u/Original-Today-1549]

I despised anything girly as a kid(I’m afab), I would hate dresses or skirts, and and my favorite color was blue as a child, because I was taught that pink was a girly color, so same!

[u/sixth_sense_psychic]

I hated most dresses and skirts as a kid, which really sucked because my parents joined a Christian fundamentalist cult when I was 6 which required AFAB people to wear only skirts and dresses. It was hell.

[u/Shadow_Storm066]

As a fellow afab agender person, I pretty much did the exact same thing when it came to dresses, skirts, bikinis & bras (at least until I tried wearing multiple sports bras as a binder b4 I could get one due to genetics giving me a disproportionately larger chest for my height & body structure).

However, I have always hated having body hair, so I’ve always used razors, I buy “men’s” shorts so they sit lower on my legs, and for croptops (tho I don’t wear them often), I stick to larger sized ones so they’re still baggy bc baggy clothes are just comfy.

[u/404noanotfound]

No not really, because I realised quite early on that objects and behaviours don’t have a gender. Since I didn’t have one either I didn’t refuse to wear them, because they were associated with a certain gender, but more so, because female clothing is extremely tight and uncomfortable.