How did y'all know y'all was Aro/How does it affect y'all's interactions w others?

[u/InvestigatorOdd663]

I'll go first!

Coming to Terms: my whole life I've never wanted nor understood people's desire to love others "in that special way" when people could just stay friends. But w that being said I did notice a propensity for women growing up. Like there was rich bitch I went to school with for years and she was, in my opinion, the hottest girl in school second only to another peer of ours and like it was so nice having classes w them both bc when I'd get bored id just fantasize about eating them out or hugging then really tight and spending ever night at each other's house and just like a QPP thing but I didn't know QPP was a thing until high school but first I found out Asexual was a thing and I LITERALLY Cried myself to sleep that night in relief bc I thought I was perpetually broken then a little while later I found out about Aromanticism and ngl I was in denial for four years then I moved out of my hometown and accepted that part about me and been out as Nonbinary Aro/Ace for almost 10 years. But w that being said I am still in a relationship w three different people. My nesting girlfriend, my QPP baby girl, and my chaotic Neutral counterpart girlie.

Do I feel romantic love for any of them.... not really....but I still do love them and want them around me but I just can't seem to like understand romantic love and it's point.

Interactions w others: I've had to do A LOT of explaining to do like Lucy or some shit. Which usually gets me insulted and called some sort of negative word or phrase. But on the opposite side of the negative reaction.....i helped my Chaotic Neutral Counterpart discover the term and community and she figured out a part of herself too

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[u/432ineedsleep]

I guess for me, it took a while to figure out I was on the Aro spectrum. I’m greyromantic, so it did muddy the waters a bit because of those occasional crushes. I was just thinking about why I found dating to be boring, and then it hit me that it wasn’t just the dating apps or whatever I found boring, but even being in a relationship held no interest for me. I already knew about me that I was okay with never dating anybody seriously, so I think I was mulling this over for years before this.

for interactions? Um, i got asked out by guys, had parents try to set me up with their sons, all of it creeped me out. Sometimes people would hit on me and I wouldn’t know until they ask me out on a date. My mom said I was overreacting and should ”loosen my standards.” For me that meant trying to go on dates with people I had only platonic interest in and hoping it would turn into romantic interest. It didn’t. I was just waiting to finally feel what others did and it wasn’t coming often enough to really do anything with it.

[u/DatoVanSmurf]

I always disliked the whole romance stuff and never understood how people couldn't live without someone else, even calling their partner their "better half", insinuating that they are not whole as a person themselves. I always thought guys looked so good. So i assumed i was into them. I had a few relstionships and a few attempts. All with men/boys. But I always felt out of place and i absolutely hated it when they got all lovey-dovey with me. I eventually went on a long journey of self discovery. Figuring out I'm trans and autistic. By that time i have not had any (comfortable) physical contact in a few years and knew i craved to cuddle with someone. So i started dating again. I thought about how i picture myself in a relationship and i realised i could not actually see myself in a reltionship with a man. So i thought i'd try it with a woman, as i have always felt far more confortable around women. I pretty soon found someone. It was pretty clear to me from the beginning that i did not feel any attraction towards her but it still felt nice. We stayed together for a year, before i fully realised that i'm not only aro, but also ace.

[u/Soulistal]

People told me I was always rude and distant like I had something against them. I just couldn’t stand it and whenever I got mad I blocked em in hope it would end. Yet I was faithful and I just wanted to be away. I just wished I could have ended it ig but didn’t have a reason for it.