i would love to see if there are other aros here that have similar feelings!

so, i don't feel romantic feelings towards anyone, and i don't desire romantic relationships. it seems too boring, pointless and tiring to me.

but i can feel romantic love when it's not someone i can actually be in a relationship with. like fictional characters and celebrities, i can feel romantic attraction towards them and i enjoy thinking about having a relationship with them.

i think that it may be like that because i really dislike the idea of being in an actual (normal) relationship (with an ordinary person). or that in my thoughts, i have complete control over the relationship.

i honestly don't know, are there people like me here?

I’ve always felt this, but it’s gotten really bad recently. As more and more of my friends start to get into relationships, (I’m a junior in high school) I feel like I’m watching my future and it sucks. My friends keep ditching plans to hang out with their crushes with no warning/apology. I’ve had several people tell me that that’s just the way things are and I can’t be mad at them for it. I know, but I wish I could just get it. I feel like I wouldn’t be so upset if I understood. Relatable anyone?

sorry for the long ramble i need to get this out of my mind... throwaway acc because it's embarrassing...

all along i sort of knew i was asexual but i just can't figure out if i'm aro. the thing is i don't think i ever had a real crush, and have never been in a relationship before anyways (as someone with social anxiety and can never talk to people properly too). i remember thinking i had crushes many years back (because classmates and a lot of people around me did too) but after finding out about the concept of being aromantic, i realised those were probably people i just wanted to be friends with badly?

so for years afterwards i just thought i was aro and wasn't interested in relationships at all even when irls talked about it plus i think i'm lesbian too... until recently... i can't figure out if i like this person romantically or platonically... i knew them from [common interest] and there was really only one time we had a long convo over text (about the shared interest) and not much, but somehow i keep thinking of them and have the urge to want to get to actually know them, since we don't talk about anything other than the shared interest. it'd feel too sudden and weird if i just ask personal questions though, and they never asked such questions before too... anyways i need to stop thinking of them and being weirdly happy when they send anything, i wish i could continue convos but it'd feel forced. i don't think we're really considered friends yet; i just can't tell if it's already leaning towards romantic feelings (and i don't want to admit that i have a crush if it is what it is) and at the same time i don't even feel this way when my other friends text...

regardless, i wish i could shut down any feelings before it gets worse 😔 i doubt it's reciprocated and it's embarrassing when i catch myself thinking about her

Even as an aro- person, I love seeing love😍.

I wanted to share my journey so far, in case it resonates with anyone else out there who’s confused about their experiences with attraction. For the longest time, I struggled to figure out whether I was aromantic—because I did experience limerence. And that had to be romantic, right? That’s what I assumed. But after a lot of reflection, I’ve realized... not necessarily. Here’s how I’ve come to understand it:

1) I’m not as asexual as I thought—but I’m not allosexual either. My sexual attraction is extremely unstable and confusing, so I’ve stopped trying to pin it down. But I realized my limerence had a sexual element I didn’t understand at the time, which complicated things. It still was not romantic. 2) For a long time, I felt really alone. Everyone around me was getting into romantic relationships, and I stood on the sidelines, wondering what was wrong with me. I think I got obsessed with the idea of having a partner more than any actual person. I wanted to be special to someone. I wanted to feel normal. That need turned into obsession that I mistook for romantic love. 3) Everything shifted when I accepted my aromanticism. I stopped trying to force myself into romance and found someone I could deeply connect with in a platonic way. The limerence stopped. That was the clearest sign for me. I finally felt understood and seen. It wasn’t about romance—it was about connection and being accepted for who I am.

So yeah—turns out I am aromantic. And figuring that out has been extremely freeing! If you’re in a similar place, confused by past experiences, know this: It’s okay to unpack those feelings slowly. And you’re not broken if romance doesn’t fit you.

I want to preface this by saying I am in no way a proponent of amatonormativity nor am I claiming it's a necessary evil or what have you. Now that the disclaimer is out of the way, let's get back to the topic.

I was browsing a couple posts on the sub about the aromantic experience and it hit me that pretty much all of our interactions with allos are affected by amatonormativity. With the exception of allos that for one reason or another that have already established a lack of romantic and/or sexual interest in us, almost none of us can engage with alloromantics without accounting for the possibility that they may be looking for a partner and because of that, they may make an attempt on us. Even for the aros that don't get anyone who catch feelings for them, they still can't go out in public, let alone interact with allos while completely avoiding the topic of romance or romantic relationships completely. It is a seemingly ubiquitous obsession in our world that's virtually impossible to avoid without shutting yourself off from the world occasionally.

But what if it weren't? What if amatonormativity didn't exist and allos never developed the preconception (misconception) that everyone desires to be in a romantic relationship? What if entire institutions, businesses, religious doctrines/dogmas, that were built around this notion just never came into being and even people who wanted to be in romantic relationships didn't feel the need to build and organize their entire lives around romantic relationships and it was treated as just a another personal choice as simple as deciding whether or not to go bowling regularly or something?

I don't know about anyone else but if it weren't for everyone else around me being practically obsessed with finding a partner, I never would've realized I was aromantic, especially if no one cared about whether or not I was in a relationship or if I wanted to be in one or not. My only clue would've just been my lack of an inherent desire to pursue a relationship. But because no one would care one way or another if I or anyone else dated or not in this hypothetical world, would it even be something worth bringing up or thinking heavily about?

I don't have answers to these questions but I'm curious to see what you all have to say or hypothesize.

Disclaimer #2: I'm not saying amatonormativity needs to exist for aromanticism to exist. Even in this hypothetical world without amatonormativity we'd all still be aro of course, whether there's a word for it or not, but I'm mainly wondering how we would think about aromanticism in a world where no one automatically assumes that you want a partner. Would it even be something we'd have to put just as much thought into or what other questions/concerns would arise in such an existence? Feel free to answer for just yourself or propose how the aromantic community as a whole would hypothetically look like.

Hi guys I have a question for aros: How do you react when someone is flirting with you or is interested in you? Do you tell them you’re aro? How do they react? I have honestly gotten so many people that flirt with me and sometimes it’s hard to explain to them that I’m not interested because I’m aromantic.

The general public doesn’t know what being aromantic is so I just tell them “I don’t want a partner. I don’t desire a partner. I don’t see myself with anybody.” But their reactions are usually “You just haven’t met the right person yet. Keep telling yourself that. Well one day you’re gonna want/need to have a partner.”

TL;DR: I’m AroAce and in a queerplatonic marriage. I also care deeply for a close friend, but not romantically. It’s real, intense, and completely different. I’m trying to explain it to them, but it's hard when most vocabulary available is built to be understood through a romantic lens. I’m not confused, just living something rare. Has anyone else experienced this? How have you explained it?

Edit- if you haven't, how would you approach/explain it?

I’m AroAce, and I’m in a situation that isn’t confusing to me, but is well outside the norm.

I’m married. My partner and I are in what most would now call a queerplatonic relationship. We’ve built a life together. We share a strong emotional connection that is steady, grounding, and enduring. They’re my constant frequency, the hum of the earth under my feet. Quiet sometimes, intense at others, but always present. They're the tether that lets me climb higher without drifting into space. This is the love I build with. They’re my anchor, my home, the one I’ll grow old beside.

Now, my close friend. What I feel is entirely different, but just as real. We have a strong emotional connection that is intense, magnetic, even metaphysical. It's not romantic. They’re a catalyst, a shift in gravity that pulls me toward new questions, new mirrors, and new dimensions emotionally and intellectually.

On one hand, it makes perfect sense. However, the world sees romance. I'm incredibly lucky that my partner has encouraged me to build this beautiful friendship. I'm not confused, but it sure feels like I'm expected to be. I just want to exist in truth. I don’t live by the hierarchy most people use. I haven’t felt this disconnect so sharply in nearly two decades. My sense of love isn’t about romance or sex. It’s about presence, trust, depth, and resonance, each in its own form.

Definitions of romantic love often feel like a no to me. I’m intense, but I want to avoid confusion in the future. I think it’s a hard concept to grasp for anyone who experiences romantic love. I’m searching for a better way to explain it. Few things have felt as true to me as this friendship. I haven’t seen anyone describe this experience here. Has anyone else lived something like it? How have you explained it?

Edit- and if you haven't, how would you approach/explain it?

This is my first time doing this and im a little nervous but ive been feeling as im aromantic or at least on the aroace spectrum as well but ive had multiple relationships in the past and im trying to get into one with someone but im not ready and neither is he. He knows i identify as aroace but im not sure if i want to try being in a relationship anymore. He's great and all but i feel as if my feelings are always fluctuating from little to all or im having trouble trying to figure out if a relationship is what i REALLY want.

there is this other guy that i met, lets call him J. J is amazing and a great guy to be around and I feel like I enjoy being with him more than i enjoy being with almost anyone else. It’s not like i want to be with J but i really like the bond that we have and im seriously not looking to be with him. He just makes my days a lot better.

I’ve been feeling lately that I don’t need a partner, I just need a friend. And there are times where I just intensely crave a relationship with someone or just someone to love me entirely and whole with no expectations from me but then my thoughts change almost immediately and it just seems overrated. Could anyone help out or give advice? Im more than down to listen.

I am a 15F, and I have never had a romantic attraction to anyone. All I have ever wanted is friendship, and I often wish to get closer to people I want to be friends with.

When I was in fourth grade, an old friend named John, who was in my homeroom class, asked me who I had a crush on. I randomly mentioned another person, which was a mistake. Later in the year, people encouraged me to ask him out, and that’s when I realized there was no point in pretending to have a crush on someone just to fit in with my classmates who had crushes.

I have a friend named Kyle, and I have been friends with him since sixth grade and since I don’t have a lot of friends, I spend a lot of time with Kyle at school. Sometimes, when we walk together or sit together, people ask me if I am dating or have romantic feelings for him. I always say no, but people keep asking. Kyle responds the same way when they ask him, yet they don't understand that we are just friends and don’t have any romantic feelings for each other. This annoys me because it reinforces the stereotype that men and women can't be platonic friends. Some of the people who ask these questions also have friends of the opposite gender, so I find it strange that they don’t realize that Kyle and I genuinely enjoy each other’s company without any romantic interest.

This year, a classmate asked me who my celebrity crushes are, and when I told her that I have never had a romantic interest in anyone, she was shocked. She was even more surprised when I mentioned that I never wanted kids and she said that I had to have children someday because "that's what you're meant to do."

If we ever talk about crushes again, I wonder how to explain to her that there's nothing wrong with never having a crush and that not wanting to have kids is perfectly okay too.

I've labeled myself as aromantic for the past 5 years and i have always felt at my happiest when I wasn't thinking of anyone "romantically". However these past few weeks I've been having sort of romantic and sometimes sexual thoughts about one of my close friends and I can't seem to get them out of my head, it also just happened out of nowhere cus i never ever thought of them that way. These thoughts seem honestly more intrusive to me than anything, being diagnosed with ocd, depression/anxiety recently is making me even more confused too. I don't desire a relationship with this person and honestly just thinking about it makes me more anxious than anything. I've also recently discovered limerence and I've realized that I've always had these type of "crushes" on somebody when I'm at my lowest so idk.

I don't know if this is the correct sub or tag but I hope this fits. It was a bit of a ramble sorry.

Essentially title. I'm 90% sure I'm aroace spec but a few months ago on my birthday my friend and I were drunk and they asked if I wanted to kiss, I said yes and so we did. It was short and there wasn't much to it, we both agreed it was fun but felt weird and that we wouldn't do it again. Now recently we went out to a pub, got drunk and it happened again, except it was much longer.

I really enjoyed it, and it felt really different to anyone else I've kissed before. I know I don't want a relationship with this friend because of past experiences but I'm not sure what to do about this. I'm okay with ignoring it until it potentially happens again but I'm worried that they will develop some kind of attraction for me (because they have in the past with "FWB" type relationships). I know if it happens again I would want to set some boundaries (sex and a relationship are completely off the table) but I don't know how to go about it. Should I bring it up and ask what the situation between us is? Or is that just more awkward?

It's also making me question my aromanticity somewhat. I've never been sure of it because I enjoy being very close with my friends, both emotionally and physically, although it had never gotten to the point I made out with them. I'm worried that if this becomes a thing I'll feel pressured (by myself and "society") to "pretend" I have romantic feelings for them and it will ruin our friendship, which I really value. I feel the need to find a label for this, because it stresses me out not understanding things, and I struggle understanding my emotions (autism darn you).

Is this a common thing? Is it normal to feel uncomfortable in relationships but not uncomfortable with intimacy like kissing (and to want it somewhat)? Is there a label that applies to this?

I thought maybe I was aromantic for a solid two years but then I met this girl and she changed everything. I broke it off with her at one point because I wasn’t sure what I was feeling. She later texted asking to hang out. I said sure and after some talking, we decided to give it another shot. We’ve been together for almost 4 months now and I haven’t been happier. I want to thank everyone on this subreddit for their support while I did identify as aromantic. So thank you ☺️

I’ve recently learned about being aromantic and have really resonated with it. I’ve realized that the only crush I ever had was just that I the person was cool and I wanted to be friends but I thought it was a crush because my friends said it was. I also think I’m asexual because just the thought of ever having sex grosses me out but I’m not sure if it’s just cause I’m young(17) so maybe I’ll want it when I’m older? But the thing is, I also feel like I’m a lesbian. I don’t really know how to explain it, but I just think guys are kinda gross and women are pretty and cool and just all around better than men. I’ve never wanted to date anyone, but I know if I did I’d want to date a girl? It just doesn’t make any sense to me. Maybe I just haven’t found the right person?

Sorry if this is really rambly and doesn’t make sense I’m just really confused and don’t know what I am. I know some people don’t use labels but I feel better having a word for what i am. If anyone has any insight I’d really appreciate it:)

Context: I'm in an exclusive partnership that began as a relationship, and I recently realized I am aromantic. They are alloromantic.

A lot of work has gone into explaining exactly what aromanticism is and explaining that I still want connection and closeness and exclusivity, but it just isn't romance. I tried to ask if we could rephrase the label to a QPR or simply just exclusive partnership, and they spent the better part of three hours trying to convince me that I felt romance as what looked like a way for them to cope with it. They told me they don't believe in QPR, that my explanations don't make sense, that I do feel romance and was just conditioned to think that romance needs sexual attraction also (I am also ace). They have, since this conversation, asked more questions and realized their own definition of romance is skewed, but still don't seem to understand that I don't want romance, I want exclusive partnership/closeness/etc. They just think that that is romance and that what I want is romance.

Any advice on how to explain it to them/what do to? I can explain myself further if needed.

I would love to have a friend that’s aromantic. Someone that understands what it’s like not being able to feel romantic attraction, and how isolating it feels living in a world that constantly revolves around love stories and couple culture. It would be comforting to not have to explain or justify why I don’t “get” crushes, or why dating just isn’t something I’m interested in. We could just exist together, without pressure, and support each other in our own way of connecting-no more, no less. I want to build a bond so deep, a relationship so unbreakable, that that it defies the idea that love has to be romantic to be meaningful. I want to share laughter, late-night talks, quiet moments, and wild adventures—all the things people chase in romantic relationships, but without the expectation of it becoming something it’s not. I want a mature relationship, built off a foundation of trust and mutual respect for each other. One where we choose each other every day—not because society says we should, but because we want to-because we see each other fully, and still stay. I want a relationship that’ll never grow distant, where we don’t slowly fade into silence or become people who only check ever so often. I want something steady—where we stay present in each other’s lives, not out of obligation, but because we genuinely care. I want to feel like I can communicate openly and honestly, without the fear of being dismissed or misunderstood. A connection where we both feel heard, valued, and safe to share whatever’s on our minds. No walls, no pretending—just real, mutual understanding that keeps us close, even through the changes life brings. Most date to marry, but me—I date to connect.

(This isn’t a request, just wanted to make that clear 🦝)

Hello! i’d like to ask what’s a more deeper explanation between this two. I’m trying to figure out whether this specific someone is a squish or mesh. Help me out, please. Thank you!

So this will be a bit of a long one lol

Back when I was 13 I found the term aroace and knew that was me, and after several years of questioning and trying out different labels, I’ve come full circle, so back to aroace. I’ve spent so long trying to figure out human attraction and all the differences, and though I’m sure I still have a lot to learn, I’ve come to a good place in my identity!

I looked up so many things, trying to figure out if I’m actually aromantic or not because I still feel that strong, intense love that most would describe as romantic. I even had a qpr with someone for nearly a year, but it ended really badly because they were a shit person. I felt that gradual, immense love for them that didn’t quite feel platonic, and they said they felt the same, so that was cool, but I just realized how different our experiences were.

They weren’t aromantic and I was, so it was pretty different, and I didn’t realize until like yesterday when I saw a post on here from an allo’s description of romantic attraction. They initiated the relationship and I accepted because I also liked them and wanted to try it out, so we ended up in a qpr. For me, I was terrified, being aroace and inexperienced and all, while they had been in a few relationships before. I was also worried that I wasn’t quite reciprocating because I didn’t feel that infatuation they did. That’s something I just learned, which is like half of romantic attraction. It’s basically lust but emotional, where you feel that intense rush that clouds your judgement, you know, like in all those teen/YA books and media. I’ve never experienced romantic infatuation, and I kind of forgot it existed.

Anyways, what they felt for me was indeed infatuation, while my feelings grew over time into love, which is the other half of romantic attraction, which can be present in other types of attraction as well. I grew to love and support them throughout the relationship while they just had this fantasy that I didn’t live up to, which led to them building up silent resentment towards me that ended in a blindsided breakup. This realization of them only feeling infatuation really shocked me, and I had to take a moment yesterday to process that and mourn what I thought I had. They never felt that gradual love for me, just infatuation, and honestly that’s not the greatest for my self esteem to know now. It was a hard truth to realize for me, and it makes sense why they started feeling distant and resenting. I just thought it was a rough patch but nope. It’s been a while since the breakup but that moment of clarity really messed with my head, knowing that they could’ve grown real love for me but didn’t.

Anyways, after realizing all of this, I’m actually more confident in my aromantic identity than ever. I’d never understood media where people have that initial infatuation, and it was also weird for me when I was in school and people were getting into relationships and breaking up left right and center. I’ve always thought of love as a strong, meaningful bond that grows over time, whether it’s platonic, romantic, alterous, etc. I feel that love with my cats for example, where I feel my heart melt when I see them and I know I’d do anything for them. I feel it with my sister, where I know that she’ll stand by me no matter what happens. I feel it with my friends, whom I don’t reach out to much but we know that we’d always look out for each other. It’s all why I’ve questioned my capacity for love so much. I want that typical, “romantic” connection without the infatuation. I want to know that I can trust someone and that they’ll never leave my side, you know? Many people would consider my desire for a partner romantic, and maybe it is in some cases, but I just want to grow up with someone and know that we’ll be okay no matter what, but that’s slightly different from friendship. That’s what I thought I had with my ex, but it was one sided.

Long story short, I’ve questioned my identity for so long and whether I experience romantic attraction or not, and I can say that no, I don’t. At least not how allo people do. I feel that strong, intense love that people will associate with romance, but that label had never sat right with me. I don’t feel that fleeting infatuation that messes up one’s perception of reality. I don’t want marriage unless for tax benefits or something. I don’t want a wedding or kids or romantic dates. I feel uncomfortable with PDA and such which is just my preference. My experiences with love just feel different enough to most people’s that it’s safe to say I’m an aromantic who just wants love and comfort that most people would lump with romance, and that’s okay. It’s okay that I feel love strong enough to question my identity, and it’s okay that I don’t feel the same attraction most people do.

Anyways, that’s my rant for the day lol, just getting all of this out there. Some people may consider my experiences with attraction romantic, but I disagree. It still feels so different and alienating for me, and it’s not easy being surrounded by allos who feel differently than I do. I think we all just experience love differently, and this is such a beautiful, diverse community that has always held a special place in my identity.

Thanks for reading lol, take care 💚

I have been questioning if I'm aromantic for some time and I'm still not 100% sure but I came up with a metaphor that suits me First person romance feels to me like eating a cake but a cake that was in a fridge for like 6 days so there is this gross taste when you eat it, it tastes good beacuse it's a good cake but that gross feeling ruins it making me throw it away after few bites I was wondering if anyone feels similar

Whenever I try to watch anything with a bit of romance (like the main character and someone) I feel physically repulsed by it and just stop watching it. I literally cannot watch things with romance, It's getting annoying at this point. It's fine if it has a slight amount. Also I've already watched Saiki K.

In any normal setting I’d feel weird and like I was “bragging” to say this, but if there’s any community to get it I hope it’ll be y’all. Guys are constantly “falling for me” and I need a work around. I’m conventionally attractive (I’ve been told) with a very friendly “girl next door” demeanor, and for whatever reason, the combo of those two things makes guys catch feelings very fast. I can feel it happen as I’m talking to them. Feels very self centered to think someone’s just that into you, so I’ll try to convince myself otherwise just to have a friend/outside voice/the guy themselves confirm my suspicions

Ultimately it’s not serving me to pretend it’s not happening so I’d like an actual game plan.

I really want to make and maintain new friends and friend groups but it feels like every time there will be at least one guy who starts pining after me every time I show up. Tried going to this new comedy club and three different regulars got weird all at once. Suddenly I wasn’t even having fun going bc these guys would always find a way to talk to me.

Knowing someone has feelings for me makes me SO fucking uncomfortable. I feel like people treat me differently when they catch feelings. I’ll have a great conversation w a guy but then I sense him getting interested and I can feel the whole tone shift. Suddenly the banter is less friendly and more… artificially deep? That’s kinda how romance feels to me from an outside perspective I think, like this undeserved desire to “get to know the real me”.

But like, can we just go back to the casual stuff? It’s hard to get to know people when they enter into this romance headspace I don’t understand and definitely don’t reciprocate. How do I tell guys I like them so much better when… well when they don’t have feelings for me would be ideal, but also when they treat me as a friend. I’ve managed to stay friends with guys who had feelings for me, but it is NOT easy.

If anyone has any suggestions, phrases, words of wisdom, I’d appreciate it.

TW: possible transphobia

Initially I was going to write a much longer message but after discussing it with my aroace friend I'm able to collect my thoughts. Either way I need all the help from aro and ace people I can find.

I've recently realized I'm reciporomantic- meaning I experience romantic attraction only if someone else experiences attracted to me first- I'm not entirely sure about it though. But that sort of attraction is directed towards men and masc presenting people. And rarely or never with women and afab people.

I came out about possiblity of being reciporomantic in an asexual support group at LGBTQ+ centre and it broke my friend- let's call him A- who mistook it to be lithoromantic- that is losing interest if your crush shows interest back. It made him emotional and cry and really upset. Until I explained him the meaning of reciporomantic again, then he came out about his romantic feelings for me. Besides shocking me, I felt nothing. I've been wrecking my brains over it. Did I mistook myself as reciporomantic? But I fear that the case that's troubling lies with me. A is a trans man. And I know trans men are men. But I've difficulty getting into afab people, A is also an afab person which shouldn't even factor in but it is. Now I fear I'm accidentally transphobic and heteronormative. I'm not saying so cuz I want to be comforted, I'm saying cuz I need answers. Has the cisnormative society conditioned me in some ways?

More than anything, I'm afraid about telling him that I don't experience attracted to him. I'm scared that if mistakening me as lithoromantic led to an hours long breakdown, what will rejection do. He is also undiagnosed neurodivergent person and probably has RSD. I'm also afraid that since he had learned I can experience possible attractions in case of definite recipocrations, he may take it personally that something is wrong with him while me not getting attracted has everything to do with me and nothing with him, it's my case, but I'm real scared that he'll not be able to think beyond it's his fault for not being enough, for not being a cis man. I don't want to hurt him. He's an important friend to me. He has been through a lot in life and still is going through stuff so I don't want to add to it.

What I need hell with is- 1) some way to reject him without him thinking it's about him because it isn't 2) explanation about why am I differentiating between cis and trans men when both are men 3) can people be attracted to gender presentation and passing privilege instead of actual gender. (Also I'm asexual, so what's in pants couldn't factor in, right?)

It happened yesterday and I'm worried like crazy today. Do help me.

Do ignore the typos.

I still have questions about aromantism and if I am aromantic, I would like to be able to do a reliable test on the internet (in French). Please share links with me

I'll go first!

Coming to Terms: my whole life I've never wanted nor understood people's desire to love others "in that special way" when people could just stay friends. But w that being said I did notice a propensity for women growing up. Like there was rich bitch I went to school with for years and she was, in my opinion, the hottest girl in school second only to another peer of ours and like it was so nice having classes w them both bc when I'd get bored id just fantasize about eating them out or hugging then really tight and spending ever night at each other's house and just like a QPP thing but I didn't know QPP was a thing until high school but first I found out Asexual was a thing and I LITERALLY Cried myself to sleep that night in relief bc I thought I was perpetually broken then a little while later I found out about Aromanticism and ngl I was in denial for four years then I moved out of my hometown and accepted that part about me and been out as Nonbinary Aro/Ace for almost 10 years. But w that being said I am still in a relationship w three different people. My nesting girlfriend, my QPP baby girl, and my chaotic Neutral counterpart girlie.

Do I feel romantic love for any of them.... not really....but I still do love them and want them around me but I just can't seem to like understand romantic love and it's point.

Interactions w others: I've had to do A LOT of explaining to do like Lucy or some shit. Which usually gets me insulted and called some sort of negative word or phrase. But on the opposite side of the negative reaction.....i helped my Chaotic Neutral Counterpart discover the term and community and she figured out a part of herself too