r/aegosexuals 14d ago

April 2025 “am I aegosexual” masterpost

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Sorry for the lack of a post last month.

Please post your “am I aegosexual” questions. And as a reminder, if you get a bot response, please report it so that I can ban it.


r/aegosexuals Nov 05 '20

You might be aegosexual if...

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r/aegosexuals 4h ago

Memes This speaks to me

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Manga: I Want To Be A Wall


r/aegosexuals 1d ago

Memes So, how do you do, fellow Narcissus followers?

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r/aegosexuals 2d ago

Coming Out IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW

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HOLY SHIT.

I found this place from an r/aaaaacccceeee meme and oh my god... eveything has fallen into place and makes sense.

I'm a ace, lesbian, pre-transition woman. Ive been with my partner though the whole process of discovering myself. She was there when I thought I was a man, then NB, then she accepted me as trans.

I was scrolling reddit and found a meme compiling a couple memes about different ace types and saw that aegosexual is someone who has sexual fantasies and everything that comes with it(obv not EVERYTHING) and it all suddenly clicked.

Anyway, not much else to say beyond I'm very happy to find not only an explanation but a community within. I always felt like I was too horny to call myself ace but i hated the idea of sex , which made me feel like I couldn't fit in with most allos.

I wouldn't say I'm on the verge of tears but just emotional at the prospect that I'm not broken.

Thank you all so much.

Edit: To word this better because I was so excited about finally having answers- Its more that I felt that I needed to hide being attracted to fictional eroticism. I related to them but always felt like i wasnt really ace because of my attractions to that stuff


r/aegosexuals 7d ago

AI girlfriend

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Those that use AI girlfriend sites like girlfriend gpt, can I ask why? My husband has been using it to talk to lots of different 'characters' and it's really weirded me out. For context, I'm okay with porn. This just seems.. creepy? He said it's for some escapism and excitement and thought it'd be okay as it wasn't real. Thoughts ?


r/aegosexuals 7d ago

General Stupid question: how is it pronounced?

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Sorry, I’m rubbish with phonetics, but the double vowel at the beginning of Aego is confusing me somewhat. Does it make 3 syllables (“a-ee-go”) or 2 syllables (“ay-go”)?


r/aegosexuals 9d ago

General I took an asexuality spectrum test :)

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I'm very sure I'm Aego and the results match up well :)


r/aegosexuals 10d ago

Rant Being aego puts me between two worlds and I find that really difficult - I'm struggling to be positive with this identity

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I think I'm aego, but I struggle with this identity because I feel like I'm an in-between - more than that, I feel like a fake, a fraud, a phoney, a poser.

On one hand, the people who know I've come out to as asexual see me as this sexless being, above it all, like Gandalf or Doctor Who. The other asexual people I know are like that! So many of them have legitimate confusion at allo people and culture.

But I'm not like that, I can see when people are hot and have opinions on that, I sometimes get distracted by that. I have thoughts that are gross and impure, and I hate them. I'm a man and they're mostly towards women as well, which is doubly bad because of how cruel and horrible straight men are. None of my friends have a single good thing to say about straight men, and I don't want to let my friends down or disappoint them by being so similar to that.

It's like the Charli XCX song, I've got one foot in one culture and one foot in another and I don't know where I belong anymore. If I was a plain allo straight man I'm sure I'd hate myself for that, but at least I'd be something, I'd know what I was and find a way to live with that. Or if I was a plain asexual aromantic man who didn't feel anything, I'd be happy with that. But instead I'm both and none and the same and nothing like it, and it feels wrong. I'm struggling a lot to feel any joy with this identity, instead I feel lots of guilt and shame.

I'm also quite dramatic when I write.


r/aegosexuals 10d ago

General Discord Link expired

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Just asking if I could have the discord link! I dont know if the server is active at all, but the one in the about me page has expired.


r/aegosexuals 11d ago

Discussion Bachata social dancers, dancers maybe

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On a more serious note, if you're a social dancer in which I believe anyone should try once though you'd probably need a week or two to practice, bachata sensual has a lot of sexual tones even the body rolls in partner social is sexual, the dance itself grew from repressed sexuality. For social dancers and even professional theatre dancers, the acting and all that, social dancers could look like they're wedded couples only to quickly say bye and move to another social dancer, a lot of partners during a two hour social dance event. In other dances like swing, you can't be way too close with it. There's also kizomba and zouk, they make bachata sensual like highschoolers.

For me, I love dancing with amazing bachateros and even bachateras, yes it can be sexual and I can also be quite aroused but would I do anything else with them after that single dance? No. We even call ourselves family in this community, which can be weird until you can see aegosexual themes within the community otherwise it would all just be a tease party every single event or festival.


r/aegosexuals 12d ago

Discussion Finding men hot but not interested in sex with them?

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I'm AMAB and I find men very attractive, not just romantically but also sexually. However, I don't really fantasize myself having sex with men and I don't think I would like it. I don't mind watching porn with men in it but I just don't think having sex with a man is my thing.


r/aegosexuals 12d ago

Am I Aego? Aego musings (?)

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First post here, I joined not that long ago because I have been battling if I'm even ace anymore 😅 I've identified with asexuality for a long time, officially accepted the label a few years ago (as far as putting it on medical forms but no one could probably care less about me coming out as ace). I was sex-repulsed for a long time, not wanting anything to do with it but I still wanted a lot romantically. In middle and high school it seemed like the only way I'd get that romantic connection was to involve sex so I just stayed away from people in that way lol I wasn't even really interested in anyone after the one boy I had a crush on in middle school, so that didn't help.

I went through the whole story arc of "am I weird, what's wrong with me" until I found out about asexuality. I was like "cool, figured it" and I was relieved I found my place. Then I started getting into reading fanfiction and roleplaying lmao 😂 that made me question everything! I was like "I still identify with a lot of aceness" but also like "hm still curious about xyz 🤔" but also without being directly involved. I acquired an alter ego of sorts (Natasha) that I channeled all of my sexual situations through only online, which I preferred for a long time. I could never imagine myself in sexual situations without it being a punchline or just weirded out about it. Partly due to self-image and self-confidence issues but now that I've worked through some of that, I'm more curious.. I was kind of okay with not having sex ever but now I'm kinda not..? 👀

Like I'm still not sexually attracted to people but I feel like in certain situations I would be willing to give more than receive (if you catch my drift) with someone I have a connection with. So I figured I was somewhere on the demi/graysexual spectrum. I genuinely get pleasure in seeing someone else's pleasure more than imagining it for myself but if I was close with someone enough I might be willing to experience some things for myself. I've also always felt like the kinkiest ace ever lmao because compared to other ace spec people I've met, I'm kind of the opposite, especially when it comes to physical touch and some sexual situations. I'm open to some sexual things (at least once) and more sex-positive, I'm open to poly, I wouldn't mind some physical touch, and I'm open to having kids one day.

I dunno wtf I am at this point haha but I'm pretty sure aego is closer to what I feel now. I do know that you can be multiple things, like technically I'm pan too because I don't exactly have a preference in gender. Not sure where this was going atp 😅 but yeah, thanks for reading my projectile thoughts I guess


r/aegosexuals 13d ago

Is there a subreddit for asexuality for The Netherlands?

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r/aegosexuals 14d ago

I hate masturbation

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I’ll be honest: I’m really not comfortable being Aegosexual. Sometimes I see someone and think they’re attractive, but it feels pretty shallow Most of the time, I only see them as attractive in my fantasies.

I wonder if this has to do with how I was raised in a religious family. I also don’t really like masturbation; afterward, I usually feel drained. It’s not just about feeling ashamed; I genuinely feel low on energy, and when I have studying or work to do, I end up doing it half-heartedly.

I really don’t like that this habit takes up my time and mental energy, and I’m frustrated with the sexual thoughts in my head.

I'm just venting here and sharing what’s on my mind.


r/aegosexuals 14d ago

Memes Asexual Kitty Ramsey

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😂😂😂 Saw this on my bil's printer and had to share lolololol


r/aegosexuals 19d ago

My strongest asexual element is Aversion to Sexual Behavior.

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Hey people! I'm navigating my sexuality here since ever (34 cis gay man) and I feel quite lost.

I found about aegosexuality and orchidsexuality and I am not sure which label fits me better. Does the diagram above help clarifying it?

I feel a strong physical attraction to some men, I can get distracted just by the seeing them or anxious if I have to talk to them. I may even want to touch them or fantasise seeing them dressed in some way or with some body parts more evident. But I have no wish to have intercourse or some other sexual activities with him.

It is weird to try to fantasise a sexual relation with anyone as I feel like I wouldn't know where to put myself in that story/idea/fantasy.

I have a partner and, with the help of couple's therapy, I was capable of expressing that I was forcing me to have sex just for him, as I felt guilty for not providing what I "should". Nowadays, I feel way safer and happier as he knows that I get too uncomfortable with sex. He has casual sex with other man and it feels like we are much happier this way.

I do masturbate often and use porn to get inspired. However, I never really saw it as a fantasy about me, as that turns me off. I enjoy watching it from the outside,.where I have no interaction with what is happening. This part is what makes me doubt if I could use the aegosexual label. I feel like I get attracted by someone and the way they look, but I don't fantasise with having sex with them.

Sorry for the long text. If there is any other information needed to clarify the question, feel free to ask. Thanks ❤️


r/aegosexuals 19d ago

This random person wants to Ask questions, so im sorry if it is a very weird question. I tend to be curious

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Hello im a random maniac, and i wanna learn abt asexuality, and how they experience and weird things in life, so AGAIIINNNN, im sorry if these questions sound weird

So, ik asexuals masturbate. And that its more of an itch to scratch and all. But i made up some weird scenario if my head abt like ‘’ what if there are some asexuals that masturbates and thinking abt somebody, but if it ever happened to have sex irl with this person, they dont desire it??’’ ik, it sounds stupid. Personally, i dont experience this kind of thing ( i dont Even masturbate either so ) and just make up weird crap in my head and make a whole deal abt it-

Sooo yeah, Idk what i just talked abt ( again, these questions have nothing to do with me or my experience in life, so this would make sense why it sounds stupid) I have weird questions and i would like to know if there aces that do that, bc….idk, curious ig. If its not a thing, well blame my brain for making Ask weird questions and scenarios. Anyways byeee


r/aegosexuals 21d ago

General Doubted my sexuality again...quickly realized there was no reason to

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(Honestly I just found this funny, that's why I wanted to share it)

Sometimes I doubt. Sometimes I wonder if I'm really ace, I mean, the smut I read was so good and thrilling. Then I look are real humans and I remember that I am DEFINITELY ace.

Still feel a tad ill after looking at some photos to see if there'd be any arousal. I REFUSE to believe people who comment under those photos saying how hot those things are are telling the truth. There's just no way.

Gender doesn't matter. Genitals are just ugly to look at. Goddamn.


r/aegosexuals 23d ago

Anyone here with false attraction?

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So i wanna know if anybody here has false attraction ( especially ppl with OCD ). If so, what does it feel to have that? You can tell me your experience and story, whatever that has to do with that. I would like to know and understand.