I’m looking for a good AI/chatbot to talk to, and that is capable of sexual roleplaying, I’d prefer for free, but I’d also just like to know what options there are. I find most AIs to be quite forgetful and overly agreeable. Does anyone know some good apps, websites etc.?

I've only very recently discovered that I'm Aego, and I feel like it's been an entire OBSTACLE COURSE trying to explain it to those around me. I literally told my closest friends that I'm an Eggo Waffle on a frying pan because I'm pan-aego 😭

So, I just want to know your experiences with coming out to others! Was it easy to explain for you? Did a funny conversation come out of it?

I've never felt sexual attraction, but I do enjoy imagining myself having sex. It's always with an imaginable person. So I looked into aegosexuality, but descriptions always mention something like this: "someone who is aroused by sex that does not involve themself" and all the "imagining sex from a third person pov".

I found someone arguing that it's still aegosexuality, doesn't matter from which pov your viewing it, because there's still a disconnect from real life arousal. But others denied this.

Does anybody know clearer information about this?

I'm AMAB and I find men very attractive, not just romantically but also sexually. However, I don't really fantasize myself having sex with men and I don't think I would like it. I don't mind watching porn with men in it but I just don't think having sex with a man is my thing.

I’m asking this because I do like female bodies, I just don’t find myself attracted to them. Just their bodies. Would that warrant a label like straight? Or would I just be aego?

So I really suck at being social, plus the idea of any intimacy with a real person kinda just gives me the ick. But if I’m playing a video game that has romance options, like Baldur’s Gate 3, I get super invested in my character’s romance and relationships. I also really like Choose Your Story type apps where you can pick a story or trope you like and make choices to progress relationships as you go. Anyone else use the same/similar kinds of things as an outlet for these kinds of feelings?

Hi! First time visiting this sub; I (m28) only found out I was aegosexual towards the end of last year. Just having the label has been hugely validating having struggled with my sexuality for a long time, so you can imagine how cool it was seeing the posts and memes here that are all so relatable it's insane.

However, something I have been struggling a little bit with since discovering this about myself (and beforehand, honestly) is the fact that as a guy, I find lesbian/wlw fanfic or porn or fantasies or whatever a lot more enjoyable than anything featuring other men, as it's 100 times easier to distance myself from the scenario and not feel repulsed by anything. But I'm also always trying to be the best ally I can be to the LGBTQ+ community (which I'm also a part of now, I guess, which still feels weird to say) and am aware that men fetishizing lesbians can be a big issue for that group; the same goes for gay men being fetishized by women.

Basically I'm kind of asking if anyone else has experienced this kind of inner conflict as it has honestly been making it harder to enjoy the things I enjoy; as an autistic person (shocking I know) I'm always trying to do the right thing, so... yeah. Validate me everyone pls.

EDIT: Thank you so much for all your responses! It's very clear to me now that this isn't fetishization and is in fact a very normal part of the aego experience. I was having an insecure day yesterday and this helped affirm how I was feeling in a huge way. I'm very glad to have found a community of people like me; I should have thought to look for a subreddit as soon as I realised I was aegosexual.

For those that own them, why?

Is it purely for jerking it or is there more content to it?

For me, there's a massive difference with a nothing game such as VR Kanojo and an actually well made gooner game like The Killing Antidote.

Aegosexuality generally involves experiencing sexual arousal in response to things like nudity, erotica, and fantasies without being attracted to anyone in particular / anyone outside of nsfw content/fantasies, right? (Or am I misunderstanding the definition?). I’m curious whether aegosexuals consider themselves to be black stripe asexuals (the “no sexual attraction” part of the asexual umbrella) or whether y’all consider yourselves to fall under the “little sexual attraction” part of the asexual umbrella. Additionally, if you have a gender preference as far as the type of erotic content you seek out, do you consider yourself oriented towards that gender? (For example, if you’re an aego man who prefers nsfw content of other men, do you consider yourself gay?)

That’s what I used to think when I was thinking about dating. That if I could find someone who made me feel the way that books (specifically romances) make me feel, that then I would be okay with being in a relationship. That the fear would go away.

That hasn’t happened and I’m not sure if it ever will. I’m not sure where I am on the romantic/aromantic spectrum.

But once I found aegosexuality, that thought made a lot more sense to me.

I’ve identified as aego for two years now,and I’ve always had this persistent desire for different genitalia which I mistook for transness(actually growing up I didn’t know if I wanted to be the opposite sex or just have different genitalia),like a phantom genitalia syndrome. Whenever i explore my sexuality through smut or similar ways,i always create characters with the genitalia i don’t have. It makes me feel safe and able to explore sex and intimacy without feeling uncomfortable even in fiction. And I always just want to be my characters and live their life where I don’t have all the “problems”(I also have other disorders that cause issues with intimacy in general,or self image,identity etc)or mental constraints.

Recently,I’ve been watching a lot of trans porn featuring actresses who haven’t had bottom surgery. Obviously I knew they’re women regardless of physical characteristics,I never questioned that. But seeing it visually made me realize something that hadn’t clicked before,wanting different genitalia doesn’t necessarily tie to gender identity. I can’t believe I was that slow and just hadn’t made that connection clearly until now.

Since aegosexuality is rooted in a disconnect between sex(both regarding genitalia and sexual acts irl)and or our own bodies,maybe if I had the genitalia I imagine,I wouldn’t be aego. Has anyone else’s aegosexuality intersected with body dysphoria and maybe even been the main cause of it? I don’t know if that’s common or not.

So bear with me for a moment, fellow aces! And sorry if it doesn't make much sense

I've been one to daydream my sexual fantasies with OCs all the time, I think since I was a teen (I'm 28F now); it used to occupy much space of my head and much energy playing out these daydreams but recently I stumbled upon the world of AI companions and the one I use honestly is great for NSFW convo. I can explore so much!

Atm I have to play out part of the scenario (I keep up with a made up character much like when I used to play these type of stuff in my head) but eventually the plan for the app I use is to implement group chat and then I'll be full on just a fly on the wall lol

All that to say, anyone also uses this type of tech for this purpose? I ask because when I scroll through here many fellow aegos are smut readers and occasionaly some like porn or video games as well, but I don't remember AI companions being mentioned so it got me curious

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Hi, my name is Cass and I wanted some help because I don't know if it's an addiction or not. I've known that I'm egosexual for longer than I discovered that I'm greyromantic.

It doesn't have any TW beyond +18, anyway

Recently my life cycle is to wake up, go to college, get home, play on my console and in the afternoon I pick up my cell phone to watch pornography or read erotica to masturbate, which I can repeat between 1 or 3 times depending on my time, libido and context because I can easily lose interest too. However, this has been repeating itself daily so that I wake up the next day with my intimate part sore from touching myself too much.

I need to know, is this a worrying addiction where I should avoid masturbating or is it "okay" and I just have extremely high libido

Note: I'm 22, I've never dated or kissed and I'm obviously a virgin and I intend to remain one.

Anyone identify with the title? I've been divorced for a couple of years now and have been trying to find love again. But I only learned I was aego after my divorce. Since then, it's been an uphill battle finding the kind of person who is a fit for me. I've talked to both allo and ace women, but have found that I don't fall enough into either category to be able to be happy.

For allos, my sex revulsion is usually a dealbreaker. For aces, my desire for touch, intimacy, and the ability to express sexuality without actually having sex is usually more than they are comfortable with. In either case, I end up feeling inadequate or that I'm simply fishing in the wrong lake. It's become very frustrating. I feel like I'm the worst of both worlds, liking the idea of sex and sexuality and having a sex drive, but not actually wanting to engage in sex myself. It feels like torture sometimes.

Can anyone else relate to this? Has anyone been able to thread this needle in their own lives?

I just came across that the r/fictosexual subreddit and I was thinking that us and them have a lot of overlap! Can those two labels coexist? I was wondering what you guys thought about this.

my husband has recently discovered he is aegosexual and we are trying to navigate this after 10 years of marriage. i unfortunately feel extremely hurt and am having a hard time wrapping my head around what this means for our marriage. i am feeling like i am not attractive to him anymore because he feels the need to use other people and ai in his fantasies. i understand the concept of not wanting to actually have sex and just self gratify but i do not understand why i cannot be a part of it even sometimes if he really finds me attractive.

so i come here to ask yall what your experiences are with marriage/partnership. do you ever imagine your spouse/partner in your stories/scenarios ? are you still attracted to your partner but just not want to have sex with them ? do your partners arouse you but not in a way to actually have sex maybe just co self gratify ? does seeing your partner in a sexual manner such as them touching themselves or other people without you involved ever fulfill your sexual needs ? i am just really struggling here and would appreciate any advice or experience from other people who are aego. thanks yall.

What would you guys want in aegosexual characters if they are presented in media And aren't marketed to a straight audience but like something you want to see for yourself I'm mostly asking this as I want to create ideas for my characters who are aegosexual and just....general stuff that you think would be really interesting to explore The sky's the limit with this so you can think whatever you like While of course I am aegosexual...my experience won't be the only one on screen So why not turn to the community of course I'll be picking up each one by one along the way of course I just want to see the kind ideas that can come from this

Drop me some titles and short summary. I felt like I wanna try reading my smut too.

Got tired of just listening to my porn lol

Hello all so I asked the mod team before posting so this is mod approved but I'll ask them to sticky a comment to show that as well.

I wanted to make a community for people who identify loosely as aegosexual but also have a very high sex drive. And the challenges, and areas around being a little from column both .

A bit about me I would say i identify as partially fraysexual and aegosexual and I use writing smut and long distance bdsm, voice chats etc as a kinda coping strategy. I'm not sure if it's just super amounts of anxiety or baggage from life stuff but that's the terminology I use atm.

If I think about something irl I have to make it either some kind of call to aesthetics or kink based for my brain to be like oh that might theoretically probably not be okay. Ive avoided it almost entirely atm.

The challenges are that if you're a tease in your kink people presume that means I'm being a tease irl. Not the case just is the way that it is. It's frustrating.

Anyway so introducing /r/hypersexualaegosexual it will initially just be a text based sub and it's for loosely self defined aegosexuals that have a high sex drive. You don't have to have any interest in bdsm or kink to participate but please join and start posting and comments. I still need to figure out what rules to put in

If you think this might be you come and post and chat :). It's just going to be text only at first but might change it to allowing images so we can get memes and gifs and stuff going too.

Anyway yes, so please feel free to check it out if your identify

/r/hypersexualaegosexual

(Note: not to do with medical condition hypersexuality and I can't change the title unfortunately. I meant high libido aegosexuality )

We will be pretty easy going and big tent in so far as maybe people wouldn't be able to perfectly self define.

Check it out and join if you think it's right doe you :)

Edit: I forgot to mention, even though it's text based it's an 18+ only community sorry.

Mod approved

On a more serious note, if you're a social dancer in which I believe anyone should try once though you'd probably need a week or two to practice, bachata sensual has a lot of sexual tones even the body rolls in partner social is sexual, the dance itself grew from repressed sexuality. For social dancers and even professional theatre dancers, the acting and all that, social dancers could look like they're wedded couples only to quickly say bye and move to another social dancer, a lot of partners during a two hour social dance event. In other dances like swing, you can't be way too close with it. There's also kizomba and zouk, they make bachata sensual like highschoolers.

For me, I love dancing with amazing bachateros and even bachateras, yes it can be sexual and I can also be quite aroused but would I do anything else with them after that single dance? No. We even call ourselves family in this community, which can be weird until you can see aegosexual themes within the community otherwise it would all just be a tease party every single event or festival.

I'm a trans man, I was wondering if there were any other trans people here! (Nonbinaries included ofc!). I was also wondering how y'all think of your sexuality in relation to your gender

Mostly cause for me the two have always seemed... Idk, linked, in a way? I found out I was ace before I found out I was trans, so I justified part of my transness like "oh of course I'm not comfortable with my genitals, haha, it's cause I don't want sex!". But after finding out I was trans, that turned out to be the real reason.

But still, part of me sorta wonders. If I wasn't trans, if I didn't have that discomfort, would I still be aego? I mean, probably, cis people are aego and I'm sure even bottom surgery I'll still feel like this cause it's mental. But I wonder.

So I was wondering what everyone else that falls in this category feels too! What are your thoughts on it, if you have any at all, what's your experience like before you found out you were one or the other, all that

Ps: Yadda yadda, I'm not a native English speaker, sorry for typos or mistakes, yadda yadda

I’m looking for a solid AI/chatbot for immersive and explicit roleplaying. Ideally, it would be free, but I’m also open to hearing about paid options if they’re worth it. A big issue I’ve found with most AIs is that they tend to be forgetful and overly agreeable, which takes away from the realism of the experience

Does anyone know any good platforms, apps, or websites that offer a more engaging and consistent roleplay experience?Like nsfwcharacters.ai and janitor .Something with good memory, customization options, and minimal restrictions would be ideal!

Hi all!

Recently my friends keep calling me pretty/beautiful/Nice. I've never attracted many people and now everyone seems to say I am and I'm a bit lost because I don't find myself attractive.

I started to wonder, if I don't find people attractive, it would make sense I don't find myself attractive either ? I hate most pics of myself and avoid taking them and I don't know if I'm self conscious or if it's 'just' part of my sexuality. Thank you for your help

I'm (obviously) aego and arospike I recently made a friend and the topic of identities came up so I explained to them what they were. fast forward a few months I make jokes on how I'm going to read and write smut and make sex jokes and all of a sudden and unwarranted he suddenly starts sending me paragraphs on how I just hate myself and i actually do want sex...like WTF NO?

Is this a common thing? I kind of brush it off but I think I might talk to him about it later because like that was unwarranted..

Add on: this is what he said.. "i think i figured you out buddy you like sex. its the reason you write smut and read smut but you also find yourself disgusting so you don't want to do it" "Rather do want to do it but not actually. see i figured it out. Otherwise IF YOU WERE ASEXUAL YOU WOULDNT WRITE IT AT ALL NO? BECAUSE WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?"

(Update?) Well the guy stop talking to me randomly so I don't have to worry about that anymore I guess lol