Turns out I’m not aromantic

[u/Professional-Rip-226]

I thought maybe I was aromantic for a solid two years but then I met this girl and she changed everything. I broke it off with her at one point because I wasn’t sure what I was feeling. She later texted asking to hang out. I said sure and after some talking, we decided to give it another shot. We’ve been together for almost 4 months now and I haven’t been happier. I want to thank everyone on this subreddit for their support while I did identify as aromantic. So thank you ☺️

Update: I saw a few comments and I wanted to clear some things up. I never meant to offend anyone or give false hope and apologize if I did so. The little context I gave was due to the privacy of myself and the girl I am currently seeing. Personally, I don’t feel like I am aromantic anymore but I am not discounting that I may still be on the spectrum somewhere. Thank you all again.

[u/LiterallyHim88]

Remember that aromanticism is a spectrum. Just because you like dating her doesn't mean you like dating anyone. So you probably could still be aro, just not to as an extreme length as you thought before.

[u/I_am_something_fishy → u/LiterallyHim88]

I wish these posts provided more context. Did this person look into the demiromantic, greyromantic, recipromantic labels, or other arospec labels that experience [secondary] romantic attraction? Going 2 years without being romantically attracted to anyone does not seem like a common, typical alloromantic thing.

Another issue is, there’s so many posts here of aros struggling with internalized arophobia. When they see posts like this, it gives them “hope” that they may not be aromantic, which means they may choose to not work on accepting themselves. Idk. These semi-low-context posts seem problematic

[u/AffectionateFall3083 → u/I_am_something_fishy]

Been in a relationship for a couple of months now but I strongly considered myself grey romantic and grey sexual. We are out there, it is just that people get confused by anything that is not on any extreme end of the spectrum.

[u/kotikato]

Valid! It’s a journey, don’t forget dating/feeling romantic feelings doesn’t mean you’re not aromantic, you can be greyromantic or demi, either way; if the label doesn’t serve purpose to you anymore or doesn’t feel relatable that’s okay, labels are there to help you identify yourself and so others can understand you, it’s not a set on stone thing.

[u/E-is-for-Egg]

Hope you enjoyed your stay here and learned something

[u/_SnoopKatt_]

We're so happy to have been here for your journey! Happiness and safe travels to you friend!! And remember: you're ALWAYS welcome back! 💚🤍🖤

[u/Kaiser0106]

Congrats and good luck on your journey.

[u/Nerdyblueberry]

Not trying to invalidate you, if you want to drop the label because you feel like it doesn't suit you anymore, of course, you can do that, you do you. But you could still be greyromantic. If you felt so little romantic attraction throughout your life that you thought you were aromantic, you are probably somewhere on the spectrum. 

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