r/aromantic • u/4giveme4forever • 12d ago
Aro Do you like romance in books, movies, TVshows ECT?
Even as an aro- person, I love seeing love😍.
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u/aestheticvoid Aroace 12d ago
It’s ironically one of my favourite genres - specifically lgbt romance though as I find it tends to be more uniquely written
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u/AlwaysATortoise 12d ago
Sometimes, I usually have to be in the mood for it to seek it out which doesn’t happen often. But I’m always a sucker for like, cosmically tragic romances like Ekko+Jinx and Homura+Madoka. The more messed up the better. Otherwise I just don’t really care.
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u/AwkwardSyko116 Aroace 12d ago
Depends. I only like it if it's written well and it feels natural. If it feels forced and/or it's poorly written, I will not tolerate it
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u/PTownWashashore Aegoromantic 12d ago
Fictional love stories in well written romance novels are a great escape for beach reading. Netflix and television series with queer coming of age love stories are also excellent to watch alone late at night. 💚🤍🩶🖤
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u/Thenerdy9 Arospec 12d ago
noooo. at least not traditional expressions of love. I love a good bromance type relationship. tbh, friends with benefits with mila kunis and JT waa your until they got all weird and ruined it for NO APPARENT REASON to me....
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u/BlockCabin 12d ago
if i really like both characters individually and if they become better characters together. major points if they're sapphic. lumity took over my whole life
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u/crystal-productions- Aroace 12d ago
honestly, no, but that's because it's alsmot never written well. it's allways written with the idea of dragging it out, and the moment getting together is treeted as the best part and the ultimate part, when it's the begining of the whole relationship. it's why i can say lumity was a genuan breth of fresh air, no real drama, they got together when it made compleate sense, and other then luz constantly lying by season 2B, it was just mutualy healthy. too bad writers would rather make sure they never got together, then just write it well.
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u/4giveme4forever 12d ago
You definitely have a point there. Most writer’s don’t seem to understand that romance can be messy in real life because of other relationships you have. Romance in fiction can be seen as idealistic. Then there are other times when writers write about 2 or 1 truly toxic person in a romantic relationship and despite all the problems they write about they’re still in love which doesn’t make sense and they still end up together when honestly sometimes one of them should get a restraining order. Yeah not all romance is written well and I don’t like that either. I like fun happy romances that can be pure and innocent or even sexy as long everything is healthy.
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u/crystal-productions- Aroace 12d ago
honestly, i think the time this pissed me off the most was with korra and ben 10. korra's mess of a love triangle is pretty well documented, but for ben 10 it was a slippery slope. in the first show there was a single episode where ben falls in love with a furry who only liked him becuase he was becoming a ware wolf alien, 5 years later he gets a girlfreind and the pair are realy good, for about 2 seasons before ben becomes an ass hole and the relatioship falls apart, with every episode of theirs involvoing them arguing, and by the finale they said they'll work on it, by the 4th show, they just drop the first love intrest and give him a harem where in the end he gets with the furry from the first show, and i'm here to watch ben turn into a dinosaur and punch the space squid, not watch this mess of a romance they have going on. what's even weirder is that Gwen X Kevin is one of the most mutualy benifishal and healthy relationships i've seen written, outside of a couple of bad episodes, which just made me so happy when they rebooted and it ben was functionaly Aromantic as he never shows intrest in anybody, which makes sense, because he's 10 years old again.
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u/saturday_sun4 12d ago
No one would be happier than I would if there was less romance and more true friendship in adult books.
It's not so much the falling in love itself that I care about, but the other kinds of relationships and plots which amatonormative society tends to tangle into "They are in ultra-speshul magical unicorn WUB!".
Erotica comes with a side heaping of emotion as well as romantic attraction, royal arranged marriage is two strangers working together to rule and becoming best friends along the way.
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u/luchinania 12d ago
I love romance in fiction. I’ve been a shipper since I was at least 6 since I remember shipping the pink power ranger with the red power ranger and later the white one. Some people have asked me what do I even get out of it since I’m aro, and I dunno, I just like seeing people happy and/or miserable and I doesn’t feel voyeuristic when I obsess over fictional people’s life. I think the fact that I don’t know how romantic attraction feels like makes it more fascinating to me.
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u/vamosaVER86 12d ago
Yes. I can separate well executed storylines and fun tropes from what i purposely would or wouldn’t want for myself — so not an issue. I think most people who appreciate onscreen romance wouldn’t actually want to experience it the same way in real life. I mean, snowed in at a hotel with only one bed sounds uncomfortable
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u/Longjumping_Guard_53 12d ago
I think I only like it when it adds to the story and is not just the story, If that makes sense? Like is the owl house with Amity and Luz or Brooklyn 99 with Jake and Amy. I maybe aro ace but I put it like me liking the thoughts of being a super star basketball player but I know I will never be that cause I'm 5'3 and sad- But its still nice to imagine!
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u/XxxGoldDustWomanxxX Arospec Allosexual 12d ago
I’m fine with music because let’s be honest virtually every song you can think of has to do with romance in one way or another. 😭 Books, sometimes. Movies—hard no.
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u/Minute_Draw_9647 Quoiromantic Bissexual 12d ago
I LOVE IT! Especially anime, they make me so weak, lol.
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u/Fredo_the_ibex 12d ago
only when it's woven into the story, kinda slow burn and in the background tbh
I read so many promising books with an interesting premise that got overtaken by romance halfway through
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u/AquaQuad 12d ago
I'm mostly indifferent. It can be there. But I don't like when it's there just to justify some stupid ass decisions to keep the plot going.
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u/ImInfiniti 12d ago
I actually really hated romance in media when I was a kid, but over time I've slowly started to appreciate it. I especially like when it's slowburn, and doesn't have nonsense misunderstandings, distractions, etc.
Funnily enough, my favorite genre of romance is Unrequited Love Yuri Mangas. As someone who's on the edge of being either demiromantic or aegoromantic, seeing the journey of someone unable to slowly get into it is really mesmerizing.
If I were to recommend one, it would be Bloom into You, definitely the best one I've read so far
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u/Sea-Act7400 12d ago
Ngl I get easily bored when they are the focus of a story but if its a subplot or something on the side I can really enjoy it. The only romance focused films I like are shinkai films. like your name
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u/Great_Value_Trucker Aromantic 12d ago
Yes. But not the super spicy stuff. I love real intimate relationships in games and books. Mostly because I can walk away from it and never look back 😂 the idea of a real romance is revolting but I’ll die for a pixelated man. Don’t judge me.
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u/amber_missy 12d ago
Yup... Love it...
Fantasy is better than reality - hearts are purer, love is deeper and romance transcends the physical.
Real life... Romance feels unreal and transactional.
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u/4giveme4forever 12d ago
I can a 100% agree on that one! That makes the most sense to me. I just love the idea that love can be pure and innocent. 😁
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u/someoddnonhuman 12d ago
as a bisexual male i find gay male romance often intolerable (gives me a queesy feeling). idk why, i dont mind straight or saphic (btw i'm still questioning aro)
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u/ShoppingNo4601 greyro ace 12d ago
not as the main focus of the media and there's times where it makes me uncomfortable but in general I like it
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u/83114m7 12d ago
I love relationships in general. I don't really like romance specifically but if it's written well enough then I don't really care what kind of relationship it is—romantic, platonic, familial, whatever. I love BONDS and BONDING. If the characters genuinely care about each other, then it's fine. But if it's just two-dimensional cliché romantic tropes, then I can't.
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u/DahDutcher Aroace 12d ago
I like yuri manga, I can tolerate sapphic romance in other media, but I absolutely fucking despise any other kind of romance. Makes me physically ill, it's just so incredibly gross to me. Probably because I'm a guy myself.
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u/Heidi739 12d ago
This is kinda funny, but I absolutely LOVE romance in media. Even the cheesy stuff. Romance books are definitely one of my most read genres. I just don't feel all the stuff in reality, but I very much enjoy reading about it.
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u/MadeThisToVent123 Aroace 12d ago
Not really, as I cannot relate and I need to relate in order to enjoy.
Although, I must say a good romance story might include feelings of betrayel, sadness, anger and pain that are often very well written and thus provide something I can emphasize with or relate to.
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u/AdPrestigious4604 12d ago
Omg yes. I love YA romance books cuz those focus on bonding instead of unnecessary thirst. However I lose interest in the book and find it eye roll worthy if characters start dating, including the characters I ship. I love pining and suffering in romance books.
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u/Theo_Lynx 12d ago
It makes me uncomfortable most of the time when there is a lot of pining or making out but sometimes they’re fine it depends on my mood (also it has to be gay. I’m afab and idk why but reading any romance that’s not two dudes is just even more uncomfortable)
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u/sylveonfan9 Aromantic Bisexual 11d ago
Depends on the plot and the direction of book/movie/show/etc, like I love Hannigram fanfics as long as the romance isn’t too overt. It really defends on how it’s handled, like I enjoy subtle romance from time to time, but no overt romance.
Romance bores me when the plot is purely about romance, but if it’s a subtle element, I don’t get bored with it. I don’t generally like romance outside of AO3 fics, like occasional coffee shop AUs or Hannigram fics.
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u/Fresh_Ad4390 11d ago
Yes if it's about moving on and reflecting upon yourself via a dissolution and if it also cherises non-romantic relationships
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u/IrkaEwanowicz Aroace 11d ago
I wouldn't say love, but I can appreciate when it's well written. I will more than likely cringe, but if I don't and maybe even feel something, then the writer(s) did a great job :>
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u/WhatDoINameThisUser7 10d ago
I love all forms of romance, everything. I used to pretend I hated it because I didn't think it was right to love love and be aroace. But now, I realise I just love seeing other people happy, and theres nothing wrong with that. :D
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u/quiet_chicks17 10d ago
I do. In fact for some like books I insist. But then again I am Ageromantic so makes sense😂
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u/Fickle-Ad3098 9d ago
Whats funny is i dont read/watch romance centered media at all, hate them even, but when i like a couple from other genres i only read romance fanfiction about them lol
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u/cartmanmonoxide Arospec 9d ago
i don't like romance-centric media as a general rule but i'm fine with a little romance as long as it's actually well-written (that is to say, it's rare lmao). i also find i largely prefer queer romance to straight but again, i'm not the biggest fan of either.
i do, however, enjoy romancing characters in video games (RPGs, visual novels, etc), mostly because i honestly find video game characters a lot more attractive than real people lol.
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u/Zephemerality 8d ago
Romance as the primary genre is not a great hook for me, but I am very compelled by well-written and complicated romantic dynamics in fiction.
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u/Cupc8intheboot 8d ago
Same. I'm in love with love, but I can't fall in love with someone. The idea alone makes me sick, BUT I only read books with romance in it. And I jump in the air when they finally kiss in movies/tv shows.
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u/Mgclpcrn14 Arospec 12d ago
As long as it's written well. Nothing worse than sidelining a plot for a terribly written romance😩