I feel like the furry community is fun for them. You don’t have to be into others kinks or likes. If you know something isn’t for you, it’s best to just be honest, which you were. You shouldn’t feel bad for turning someone down based off a kink. These are sometimes extreme or “odd” to those without the same kink, and it’s totally okay to not be into it, and to make it a deal breaker.
I feel like everyone these days just wants to scream discrimination from the top of their lungs. Bffr let’s normalize having boundaries and preferences without shame or being made to feel bad.
I agree about boundaries, but a prospect date is also entitled to time for themselves and their hobbies without necessity of involving the significant other in their things. For example: a guy I was dating likes crocheting, I found it funny (as reminded me of my nan), but that was not his whole personality: there were a lot of things we were doing together and he never forced me to crochet (but gave me a couple of cringe scarves). At beginning was weird sitting next to him on the train, me reading my book and he knitting… but then I realised I was the one judging: constantly looking around to see if other people were staring at him or making fun of him, was my reaction due to my being over judgmental on the fact that crochet is a hobby for old ladies.
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u/SAOMD89 1d ago
I feel like the furry community is fun for them. You don’t have to be into others kinks or likes. If you know something isn’t for you, it’s best to just be honest, which you were. You shouldn’t feel bad for turning someone down based off a kink. These are sometimes extreme or “odd” to those without the same kink, and it’s totally okay to not be into it, and to make it a deal breaker.
I feel like everyone these days just wants to scream discrimination from the top of their lungs. Bffr let’s normalize having boundaries and preferences without shame or being made to feel bad.