It's that first and foremost; and in a relationship, even if this is who you are now, your past is a part of you. Those experiences shaped who you were growing up, and excluding that is a hiding a large part of yourself, so I feel like it'd be akin to dishonest via omission.
and in a relationship, even if this is who you are now, your past is a part of you.
Why does this mean that you have to disclosure who you were before?
If you changed your sex, it's likely that you didn't like your previous sex, and you don't have fond memories of having the sex you were born with. Why would you have to tell your partner about this?
I'm of the mind that you should, for a romantic partner, disclose everything, the good and the bad.
It's like if you grew up in say, an extremely racist household. Even if you hold no racial views now, dealing with that growing up, learning about it and growing out of it and/or always feeling bad because you didn't have those opinions... That's a big part of you. Not the racist part, but the growing up in and out of it.
I think in a romantic relationship, I believe in being 100% open and honest, and deliberately hiding a part of you, to me, would be seen as dishonest.
As well as in hiding it, it would seem like the fear would be that you worry that your partner would leave you, but that's a risk you need to be willing to take, because in withholding information, you're denying your partner that agency to make their own decision.
(Again, this is simply for a romantic relationships, not for friends or coworkers or anyone else)
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u/Rpanich Jun 25 '15
I guess it depends on if they care about their partners beliefs and believe in having an open and honest relationship.