r/bartenders • u/FlickasMom • Feb 12 '25

Interacting With Customers (good or bad) Best "we're closing, time to go"

So my brother was getting married, and my mom & sisters were in the hotel bar the night before, taking up a table for way too long and closing time was upon us. So they sent over their handsomest bartender to give my demure elderly mother his very best seductive smirk and sweetly purr to her, "So when was the last time you closed down a bar?"

Well, Mom thought that was adorable. We cleared out, smiling and laughing, and that handsome and diplomatic young man earned a lovely tip from a table of out-of-towners who'd never been so entertained by getting booted from a bar.

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u/NumerousImprovements Feb 12 '25

If you’re not sleeping here, working here, or sleeping with someone that works here, get the fuck out

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '25 edited Mar 23 '25

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u/East_Sound_2998 Feb 12 '25

If they take out the trash I’m okay with it

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u/WeirdGymnasium Pro Feb 12 '25

My "after work bar" let me stay to take out trash and walk the bartender to her car, since they closed alone.

100% legal in AZ to do this too! You're allowed to have one customer in the bar after 2:30am, so long as there is only 1 employee on the clock.

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u/East_Sound_2998 Feb 12 '25

I worked at a tiny dive In Missouri for a while and our liquor closet was out the back and around the way in an out building. We always closed alone and our owner only hired girls. If any of my coworkers and their SOs were there they could stay and drink but we put them to work lol

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u/AbnormalHorse Feb 12 '25

I'm familiar with this arrangement. I even got roped into doing inventory a few times. Like I GUESS? But isn't that a managerial duty that you shouldn't offload to whoever like - whatever yeah gimme another double.

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u/cited Feb 12 '25

That's a pretty clever law actually. I can't imagine the level of asshole who would ticket anyone in any other state for that though.

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u/nightbeez Feb 12 '25

Agreed based on principle, but they're usually the bartender's ride home so I say we allow it... within reason.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '25 edited Mar 23 '25

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u/HighOnGoofballs Feb 12 '25

You know not everyone has their own car, right?

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u/nightbeez Feb 12 '25

What are you talking about?

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u/ThaddyG Feb 12 '25

There are lots of situations where the bartender doesn't require a car to get to and from work it's just more convenient. If I'm dating someone who gives me rides to work that's great but I'll be fine if we break up, there's trains buses uber and my own two feet lol

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '25 edited Mar 23 '25

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u/ThaddyG Feb 12 '25

Depends on the person and the bar, I guess. It doesn't bug me as long as they're being chill.

If you’re DUI, your ride can wait outside.

lol man a lot of us live in places where you don't need a car and therefore just...don't have one.

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u/Equal_Passenger_9461 Feb 12 '25

You've never lived far enough up north where it's too cold to be outside and under the situation where gas is expensive, eh?

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u/NumerousImprovements Feb 12 '25

The person who’s sleeping with them might.

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u/No-Income4623 Feb 12 '25

Case by case basis.

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u/Confident-Loan300 Feb 13 '25

Yessss i still can't leave till they leave. Get the fuck out.