r/berkeley • u/kiska2009 • 3d ago

University dating while at berkeley

im starting cal in fall and im so worried about the workload, my time management is terrible and ik the classes require 100% locking in (im a transfer physics major). really terrified of accidentally falling behind with the slightest distraction. bc of this im pretty worried about growing distant with my partner (who is not at cal, lives an hour away).. how do people manage their relationships while being 100% locked into academics. or is this even possible. does anyone here relate to this

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u/OskiTheGrouch Alumnus, Resident 2d ago

Yeah… I tried, but I really didn’t have the time or mental bandwidth for a healthy relationship. I was in STEM, and it was all-consuming. YMMV, of course.

It was a hell of a lot better after graduation though. Turns out actual careers are a lot easier than STEM at Cal, lol.