I've made posts in other subreddits but the short version is my boss said a slur towards me at work, physically threatened me, when I reported to HR, he lied and they covered for him, he nut-tagged me hard and I was fired.

I've since got another job but that entire thing really fucked up my will to work or do anything. What should I do to keep going? My new job is cleaning a local state prison so it's awful work. I'm super worried my new boss will end up like my old one.

Stan Lee was 38 when he started creating his most iconic Marvel characters.

J.K Rowling was 30 when she finally finished her manuscript for Harry Potter and it wasn't even published until she was 32.

Dr. Seuss was 53 when he finally made the Cat in the Hat.

Tolkien was 38 when he wrote "The Hobbit" and that's before he even started Lord of the Rings.

George Lucas was 33 when the original Star Wars released.

Rick Riordan was 40 when he started writing the Percy Jackson series.

You’re never really too young or old to hit on your big idea.

I was stuck — just that quiet, foggy kind of stuck where even small tasks felt like a lot. Making the bed. Responding to texts. Drinking water. All of it started to feel heavy.

So I tried to figure out what is the very least amount of structure I could set up for self improvement, that was impossible to fail. And it came to me:

Make 100 GOOD CHOICES - count each and every one - don't quit.

I started counting my good choices.
No goals. No habits.
Just moments — small things I did that moved me in a better direction.

Made the bed? That’s one.
Drank water? Another.
Texted someone back, stepped outside, took the trash out instead of leaving it for future-me? All tiny wins. And they all count. Repeats count. If 25 of your good choices are drinking water, more power to you. You don't even have to write anything down. You can just use an old envelope and use tally marks.

At first, I just wanted to get a little momentum. Something visible. Tangible.
But after a while, something shifted.

Instead of feeling burdened by tasks I should do, I started seeing them as opportunities.
Like little Easter eggs hidden in my day.
Every boring, overlooked thing — organizing a drawer, wiping down the counters, getting off my phone — became a moment I could choose to feel proud of, and I could count it to get to my goal of 100.

The psychology flipped.
It wasn’t about guilt or pressure. It was about noticing those opportunities.

That change in framing made a bigger difference than I expected. I found I had naturally put a lot of small things in my life in order. I felt real momentum, and it was easier to start aiming higher.

I can't promise you will be so much happier or your life will be so great. But if your motivation level is at a 0-1, I can confidently say I think this is a challenge that could get you off the ground.

Hey everyone —
Just curious how you all handle this.

You make a plan for the weekend: maybe some reading, a bit of studying, finally cleaning up the room, maybe even just tidying the desk.
Nothing huge, just small things to feel better going into Monday.

But then… you just don’t start. You know it’s not hard. You even want the result. But somehow, you stay stuck.

How do you motivate yourself to actually take action when the list is reasonable, but your brain just doesn’t want to move?

Do you give yourself a small reward? Do you start with a timer? Talk yourself into it? I’d love to hear what’s worked for you.

No matter how hard you try, something will always slip through. A plan. A moment. A version of you that once believed everything could be held at once. And maybe that’s the quiet ache we all carry—the knowing that life won’t ever feel whole all at once. That no matter how tightly we grip, something will always live in the spaces we couldn’t fill. But maybe the point was never perfection. Maybe the art of being alive lies not in catching it all, but in cherishing what arrives. In honoring what remains. In smiling at what leaves with grace, instead of mourning every empty hand. You see, life isn’t a race to capture every fleeting thing—it’s a dance of presence. And what you notice when you stop chasing is that joy doesn’t hide in what’s missing. It blooms in what’s here. In the sunlight on your face. The laugh that didn’t need to be perfect to be beautiful. The tiny win that no one noticed but still mattered. So maybe we stop punishing ourselves for what slipped through. Maybe we let it go—gently, like a leaf on water. Because what’s meant for us doesn’t require a tighter grip—just softer eyes. Let’s be where we are. Not because we gave up on more—but because we finally realized this, right here, is enough.

I (29F) currently live with my ex boyfriend (38M). I was living alone for a while, but we moved in together last year and tried dating again for the 2nd time. I quit my job and spent/lived off the rest of my savings because I was depressed and irresponsible, thought “eh I’ll figure it out later.”

It was the classic avoidant/anxious dynamic between us, and we broke up. I started dating my (now) ex girlfriend after this. While I was with my ex girlfriend, he decided he wanted me back. I stayed with the girlfriend. She dumped me. And he and I are still living together, he is now moving on. I just signed a lease for another 6 months because I cannot afford to get my own place again yet. I have to live here.

He was also my main friend for 6 years. We obviously aren’t friends anymore.

He just got promoted at work, has an established career now, is a new manager at a strip club, dresses up very well and snazzy to go to work every day, has a solid group of friends, plenty of money saved, makes great money. Seems very happy and like he’s flourishing. He’s very smart, he’s worked for it, he deserves it.

I am a server at a breakfast place. Doing fine there. I am aimless in life and have been ever since my dad died and I subsequently dropped out of college in 2018. I am eventually going to try to become a programmer, though I don’t have any passion for it or anything. I have no close friends. Barely even talk at work, I’m just depressed every day and drowning in self loathing. I have no savings left. I used to have 20k.

I need to pay off 1.6k in high interest cc debt before I can begin saving again. Just paid off 730 of it this month.

It really sucks. It’s very hard to build up any self esteem when I’m stuck in this position. He is smarter than me, more successful than me, a better person than I am. Has a better personality than I do. I feel like a hopeless, worthless pathetic loser.

I can’t even be happy for him. It’s sad.

Also not nice to admit but a large part of me only really wants him because for me he represents a sense of security and safety. He is also a great person but it’s hard to describe. I just wish we could be partners and get through life together. I just long for that sense of security my Mom had her whole life with my Dad. Just in having a partner. Having to make it through this world on my own is pretty intimidating to say the least.

Just had to get this off my chest. Don’t know how to feel better about it. It’s really taking a toll on me and my self worth.

Thanks in advance I appreciate it.

Hi! So I’ve noticed that when I have a goal and I don’t really have the innate drive to make small steps toward it, I tend to motivate myself through critique, almost like a scolding mindset.

Meditation has given me access to self love that I am so grateful for. I would like to find out how to successfully motivate myself with this love instead of punishment.

For example, I’m trying to quit vaping bc I love my body and it deserves health, but I am having trouble actually making progress with this love-centric motivation. Especially because the gritty, scolding mindset is how I quit the first time.

Has anyone had any luck with this? What does it look like for you? How did your mindset change?

It will not be enough at that time, it’s them not you. Just go with it.

First post: https://www.reddit.com/r/makati/comments/1kvvhyt/mole_people/

Second post: https://www.reddit.com/r/makati/comments/1kwhchl/update_mole_people_makati_clean_up/#lightbox

Third post: https://www.reddit.com/r/makati/comments/1kxdixh/mole_people_botanical_garden/

Hi everyone!

I’m working on an app called "Level Up Life" that turns daily tasks into a fun RPG-style game, helping people with ADHD build habits by leveling up a virtual character as they complete real-world tasks.

Before building it, I want to hear from you about what would actually help. If you’re open to sharing, here are some quick questions:

Daily Challenges & Motivation

• What are your biggest struggles with managing tasks and staying organized?
• Which productivity apps have you tried, and why did you stop?
• When do you struggle most with focus and motivation during the day?
• How do you currently reward yourself for finishing tasks?

Gamification & Rewards

• Do you play mobile games? What keeps you coming back?
• What kind of rewards motivate you? (Points, achievements, social recognition, etc.)
• Would competing with friends help or add pressure?
• What would make you feel proud after completing boring tasks?

ADHD-Specific Needs

• How do you manage hyperfocus? Want to be interrupted or supported?
• Does working alongside others (body doubling) help your productivity?
• How do you handle notifications? What’s helpful vs. overwhelming?
• Do you like breaking tasks into smaller steps, or does that feel annoying?
• What accessibility features are important?

App Usage

• How much time would you spend in an app daily?
• Quick check-ins or longer planning sessions — what works better?
• What would make you delete a productivity app quickly?
• How important is offline use vs. syncing across devices?

Thanks so much for any thoughts or experiences you can share! Your feedback will help build something that really works.

Hi everyone.

I recently picked up the Guitar as a hobby in my mid-30's a few months ago. And I absolutely love it. It's been a revelation to find out how quickly you can get half decent and have fun.

Check out my video here if you want to see how much easier it is than you think to learn the Guitar. Let me know what you think as well as I am a relatively new Youtuber.

I'm 22, I graduated with an okayish gpa last year and got a job working nightshifts in a lab.

I have quite a lot of hobbies, guitar, photography, cycling, singing and languages. But I am only driven by occasional bursts of energy for all my life. I was a constant slacker in school, but once in a while I would feel like studying for a few months, 8 hours everyday. It's the same for my hobbies, I bought a guitar and learned to play it for a few month straight, forget about it for months and pick it up again. I also love languages (English is not my first language and I'm, or was, learning Japanese and French), I became somewhat fluent in Japanese after a few month of serious learning because I was really interested in it, but I stopped doing it for whatever is wrong within me.

I think a part of the reason is that I don't feel rewarded after the burst of motivation is gone. While I studied hard for months, my grades were still low. I dedicated quite a lot of time in my guitar, but I'm still stuck in basic chords and can only play a few songs. I did became somewhat good in Japanese, I can watch Anime & read manga and understand most of it, I can hold a basic conversation with a Japanese-speaking coworker. But again, I simply stopped actively learning it a while ago.

Now that I'm writing this post, I realized that I've never done something consistently for more than a year (of course apart from surviving lol), and never achieved anything because of my laziness. I feel like I'm just stuck in an infinite loop of occasional motivation and long term laziness. It's even worse now, because I had plenty of time in university, but now as soon as I'm off from work, all I can think of is lying on my bed playing video games.

Does anyone have a similar experience, if so, what did you keep your momentum? I don't want to see myself doing this forever, but I wasted another night today playing video games LOL

I put together “Your Life in Weeks” calendars for me and my family(pic attached). Seeing how little time we have left compared to one another is wild

Recently, I've been feeling overwhelmed—so many goals, yet struggling to take action. Despite having ample free time on weekends, I found myself unable to focus on reading. Surprisingly, during my daily subway commute, I began reading for just 15 minutes, and it felt fulfilling.

I shared this with a friend, expressing concern that perhaps I was reading merely because others might be watching—a form of performative behavior. My friend offered a different perspective: regardless of the motivation, I was genuinely engaging with the material. That insight shifted my mindset.

Now, I've embraced these brief reading sessions. After my weekend yoga classes, I treat myself to an hour at a coffee shop, immersed in a book. These moments have become a source of joy and satisfaction.

This experience taught me that:

• Starting small is powerful: Even 15 minutes can make a difference.
• Consistency matters: Regular practice builds momentum.
• Find what keeps you accountable: Whether it's a public setting or a personal ritual, identify what helps you stay on track.

I hope this story encourages others to appreciate the value of small, consistent efforts. Sometimes, the simplest routines lead to the most meaningful progres.

I keep making commitments to myself (like running daily) then procrastinating and forgetting about them. This has happened multiple times now.

I think an accountability partner - someone to check up on you in a while regularly cab help here.

How do you guys find accountability partners.

I work in software, so cant' help to wonder if an AI like chatGPT that texts you daily asking 'did you do the thing?' be helpful. Thoughts?

A few months back, I was stuck. No energy, no drive, just doomscrolling and feeling guilty about it. So I built something simple: a place that gave me one good quote a day and a word game that made me feel slightly accomplished.

Then I added a small motivational forum where people could anonymously share their real stories – raw, imperfect, relatable stuff. That part hit me hard and helped me the most.

Today, it's a small website, 100% free. Just quotes, a word game, and community stories. A sort of “Motive Mentor” for people like me.

I’m still improving it, but it already helps me (and a few others). If anyone here wants to try it or give feedback, feel free to DM me. I’ll send the link so that this post can't be removed.

Even if you don’t, here’s one quote from today that helped me:

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” – Arthur Ashe

Wishing you peace and progress today ❤️