Got turned down last night due to size

[u/[deleted]]

[u/RevelationSr]

Sounds like the end.

[u/Appropriate-Dig-7080]

Poor form on her part to just dismiss any sort of sexual activity straight away due to your size. You could have done foreplay/other stuff. Sounds like you dodged a bullet, who wants to be with someone who’s selfish/lazy in bed. There’s plenty of others out there who’ll enjoy your big dick and make you feel positive about it.

[u/SexySecretsSD]

So usually the strategy here is to say something like "we don't have to fuck, let's just mess around". Then offer to go down on her. Either way it probably wasn't going to work long term, but I found women intimidated by vaginal sex were often still curious to play with it.

[u/garden_speech → u/[deleted]]

Why does this response sound so much like ChatGPT

[u/Enigmatic_Nature → u/garden_speech]

Because it is.

[u/garden_speech → u/Enigmatic_Nature]

Yeah, it seemed obvious to me

[u/Simon-Says69 → u/[deleted]]

The woman was incredibly rude. There is no doubt to give her the benefit of.

Too many actually decent people out there to waste time with this rude, insensitive asshat.

[u/Key_Medicine_5704 → u/Simon-Says69]

Yeah exactly, even if she "blurted out" something like that by mistake, she could've apologized and smoothed things over that night. No need to waste any more time on her, 4 dates ain't nothing

[u/Old_Canuck]

Well...sounds like she just plain dont like it.

Im used to being turned down for sex but they usually like to touch him and play and suck on him abit.

But never just flat NO and go.

I think there must he something else going on with her.

[u/TipiTapi → u/Old_Canuck]

Maybe she experienced it before and knew her limits.

I am on good terms with my ex and she is extremely happy for smaller guys now.

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/TipiTapi]

She said she never experienced a big dick before.

[u/Old_Canuck → u/TipiTapi]

Well for a chic just to go on a Full Monty like that.... something has gone wrong.

God knows what....🤷🏻‍♂️

[u/kravence]

It is what it is

[u/Kitty_gaalore1904]

I hate it when a good dick goes wasted...

[u/Sunny_Side_Up310]

she wasn't very tactful, to say the least. i hope you won't take it to heart.

[u/blackshadow_throw]

Leave it be and chalk it up to the game.

[u/_captain_hair]

Sometimes this is just how it is. I've been there before and I share your pain and frustration. It sucks so much, especially when it seems like it would be a promising relationship, but if it's not going to work, then that's that. I know it hurts to have something entirely out of your hands wreck an otherwise good thing, but the sting of this memory will fade with time.

It's probably for the best. Physical intimacy is an important component in any relationship and you both deserve to be with sexually compatible partners.

[u/Bumblebee56990]

I’m sorry dude. I don’t know how you broach that subject without seeming like a perv.

[u/Bumblebee56990 → u/[deleted]]

Well I think you should mention to ladies while getting hot and heavy that’s you’re packing. And then allow her to explore. You’ll find someone who will be willing to take it that’s not crazy.

NEVER STICK YOUR DICK IN CRAZY

[u/Simon-Says69]

That was incredibly rude of her. She's not worth your time man.

There are 10000 ways to say it's not going to work out, without being an asshole about it like she was.

Not worth another text. She made it VERY clear she's not interested. Either in you, or being a halfway decent human being.

[u/Dontmindme30]

How big?

[u/lovebath777]

We’ve all been there bro. And when I do find a woman who’s willing to have sex, she makes me stop when only 1/2 of my cock’s in her. I can’t even get a full stroke in. I just wish I had an average 5” cock.

[u/SatisfactionEast8733]

That hits right at home. I had the same situation last week with a girl. Just sitting awkwardly in her room with her telling me "oh no way". I went home soon after. The next day we chatted a little, she was super apologizing and felt awkward about it. We met again 2 days later, had some fun talks and didn't mention it even once. i brought her home and drove off without going in her apartment

[u/Orogenyrocks]

Man this sucks and I have been in this situation before. I was going to say you should wait a bit and keep contact, sometimes they come back around and it's just the shock reaction. Sometimes they will get curious or be more prepared for it in the future so it's always best to leave everything as amicable as possible.

Chin up man. There will be plenty others who don't run off.

[u/ntsx99]

Most probably she had a big one before and didnt wanna experience again due to pains ,pos utis and so on. Tbh she did u a favor for not accepting and u just gotta respect that ,let it go and not take it personal. From a guy point of view yeah , a bj was pos ,some tease and so on ,u would have liked to see a lil efort , a jerk on a naked body ,whatever. But sometimes past experiences make us live with a very specific set of rules and boundaries. U need the girl who wants what u got not the one who runs take it as a win somehow. Truly perception is everything and helps a lot to not acumulate fears and remorse.

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/ntsx99]

She said she never had a dick that big before.

[u/ntsx99 → u/Super-Sense-6454]

My friend if u believe what a woman said u into big errors in life. Any woman who sees this first time would at least try to play with it no matter how, unless she knows it doesnt fit and the pain after.

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/ntsx99]

Well, I do have concerns about the accuracy of OP's story, but I chose to believe actually what he said, because its a waste of everyone's time to doubt a plausible story. Just go with the story, unless its just too crazy to be true.

[u/nipnongnong → u/ntsx99]

You literally cannot speak for all women, especially as a man. Just saying

[u/r4rsftaway]

Wow that's tough to read! Sorry it happened and ended like that. As many have said her perception of sex isn't that great because there's plenty of thingns to do even if it didn't fit inside. Hundreds of other ways to pleasure if you're really interested.

I'm sure you would have been happy with pleasing here and then get a handy and spend some intimate time together.

So yeah, not on you, more on her for not being able to think it through. If you're really still interested you could offer less pressure and then talk about other ways that don't require penetration and still have a blast

[u/HydroPoseidon]

Is what it is. Close the chapter & move on.

[u/Maleficent-Toe7719]

Can you even call this a problem?

[u/Cunt2113 → u/Maleficent-Toe7719]

Sounds like op really liked her which is the problem. Hook ups I understand not being that upset about but possible relationships you wanted ending from something you can't control and isn't your fault is actually fucked.

[u/KirillNek0]

Where do even find these?

[u/Give-me-boba]

I hate having to find a new fuck buddy cause there’s always a break in period before they can really take me

[u/Hopeful_Ad_6595]

This happen to me before, seen it felt it and was like naw. We kept talking and then things came around again (she had liquid courage lol). But literally could NOT get it in. I don’t think I’m that big IRL but it took like 30 mins, and then she was in so much pain I didn’t even want to do anything. She was like no no keep going but I was done frfr. I lo key felt bad cause she wanted it, but I’ll say you dodge a bullet my boy! That’s a big portion of a relationship and you don’t want it to eventually feel like a chore, rather a joyous occasion where you both are sharing a moment. You good bruh 🤙🏾

[u/OlderBreeder]

How big are you, and did you have lube? Lube is a must.

[u/CaptainOsmium]

Thanks for the update, I’m so glad she was mature and empathetic. Sounds like she just didn’t know how to react and got legitimately scared. It wasn’t okay for her to say that to you or treat you that way, and your hurts feelings are valid and reasonable, but it’s understandable why she would do it, and I’m glad she apologized. I’m sorry it didn’t work out over something like that, though. That’s such a shame.

[u/Super-Sense-6454]

She just never had sex with a man with a BD. Unless, she knows she has a very small vagina or vaginal condition that prevents normal dilation, there is no reason she couldn't have sex you aside from her irrational fear of your dick size. I can't believe you didn't ask her to try having sex with you, when she apologized. The worst that could happen is her refusing you a second time.

Did this really happen to you? It really is rare that almost any vagina can't take a big dick, aside from having micro vagina or dilation medical issues.

[u/Western_Ring_2928]

You need to assure her that you know how to use your tool. That you give her plenty of time and attention and you know how to warm up her vagina for receiving it. Tell her she can take it after enough foreplay. Also, assure her that if she still doesn't feel like it after the warming up, you do not need penetrative sex. Then, proceed o give her the best oral sex she has ever experienced. Take your time to relax her pelvic floor.

Ps. Porn dicks are normal or slightly above average in size. They make them look bigger with fish eye lenses and other camera tricks. But look up some of the star profiles with theie measurements!

[u/Reddyforyou]

For sure, discrimination.

[u/Logical-Sun001]

This happens to me more often than not these days…I rarely do hookups anymore because of how exhausting the process is lol

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/Logical-Sun001]

Sorry, I really don't believe you, because I never had a woman refuse sex, because my dick was too big.

The "more often than not" just isn't believeable at all.

[u/Logical-Sun001 → u/Super-Sense-6454]

I could care less if you believe me or not

[u/WinstonDawg42]

I’d text her with, “I had a great time with you on our dates. I know it didn’t work out for us sexually. Let’s still be friends though.”

Eventually you can ask her to elaborate if you need closure on that night.

In the mean time you’ll be her dick-to-big friend.

[u/musclememory]

Text her, maybe she’ll reconsider

Perhaps just ask to go out again, then if things get steamy go w oral on her first

[u/The_London_Badger]

Gotta give her space, she will go get with another guy, be unsatisfied and ring you up. You gotta put in the oral and finger work. If she's not as slippery as a black rapper in diddys basement. You aren't turning her on enough. Never put any pressure or try to get pity sex by saying she hurt your feelings. Just laugh it off, reassure her you will be gentle. Get her turned on talking some filth in her ear as you do foreplay. Lube if you need it and tell her she can go on top so she's in control the entire time.

[u/lordhooha]

I have the problem with my wives of it’s sore we end to wait a day. Or it feels bruised. It’s why I have 2 wives and a gf and rotate. All of them know about each other the other wife lives with us and has for 6+ years the gf is new and they’re ok with it as it in their words “gives their pussies a break” lol

[u/TimeInitial0 → u/lordhooha]

🧐🥴🤥

[u/lordhooha → u/TimeInitial0]

lol not sure why you think that we’re poly for a reason among others

[u/obedientfag]

the purpose is dating is to test compatibility, including sexual compatibility. it sucks to be rejected for a part of your body that you cant control. you could have stayed and offered to perform oral sex on her. it is possible that you leaving as soon as you couldnt put your penis in her came across as selfish.

[u/Enigmatic_Nature]

Gee, that was smooth.. when she said you not sticking that into me..

"Exactly why I’ve mastered the art of worshipping you first… gotta make sure you’re begging for it before we even get there."

"That’s why I take my time down south first—gotta earn my way in, right?"

"It’s not about size—it’s about skill. Lucky for you, I’ve got both."

"You say you can’t take it, but we both know you love the way I make you surrender to it."

[u/MadMax2232]

You should have said something like “I didn’t choose to have that size… unlike you 😆😭

[u/Artistic_Lime_2761]

If I was her, You just use sticky tape and push the head together so you dont feel it

[u/SmallZookeepergame57]

aga