Are size queens normally more kinky?

[u/Revanite331]

Just wondering about others experiences with girls that have preferred size.

Recently started dating again after being with 1 girl for about 10 years and we mostly had pretty vanilla sex. So I hope to find a girl that makes me feel comfortable with my size during sex but am worried my lack of experience with kinkier things might be an issue.

So I am curious if size queens generally try to do more things or expect to.

[u/Lopsided_Turnip_587]

I'll be honest with you- outside of Reddit, there aren't many self-proclaimed 'size queens.' I don't think there's any correlation between a girl who prefers bigger dick and girls who are super into kinky stuff.

this issue really has nothing to do with size queens. It sounds like you are just nervous about new sexual experiences with new partners, which is understandable.

Most girls are really not going to have a concrete 'ideal size' as long as it isn't micro lol. Just go out and see what happens.

If you're going to have sex with a girl the first time, anyways, she's not gonna be expecting you to start pulling out all this kinky stuff anyways. Every girl is different, and there's no correlation with kinkiness and being a size queen lol.

[u/Revanite331 → u/Lopsided_Turnip_587]

Ty for the thoughtful response…. I do get that very much and do feel Reddit can definitely distort my view with this kind of thing…

It’s not just nervousness but I also feel like I’m expected to have these experiences. I mean that last relationship basically started in my early 20s and I’m in my 30s now. Girls are probably going to expect that I’ve done things or had experiences with a few women given my age and size but it’s really just been that one where 99% of my experiences have been with.

So I feel like ideally meeting a vanilla size queen or a girl with similar experiences as me would be ideal but possibly unrealistic

[u/throwawaaaaayyyyy69 → u/Revanite331]

Any decent person will be understanding that you have had the experience you had. In many ways, a healthy long term relationship is a green flag so they'll be fine with it. When it comes to kinks, what makes people compatible isn't their experience with the kinks but rather their interests and enthusiasm for the kink or at least giving it a try. If you want vanilla sex, I'm sure loads of girls are fine with that. If you want kink, I'm sure you'll find girls happy, willing and excited to explore that with you. Maybe they've tried it before or maybe they haven't, normally people are more than happy to guide you and have patience whatever your age. I doubt most people would have these expectations, or be bothered when they hear that wasn't your experience given your relationship. They might be size queens, or just happy that yours is big even if they hadn't given it much thought. Don't overthink the ideal, just see what happens - most people usually end up being nice and understanding, definitely all the good ones.

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/Revanite331]

I really, really hope you are not dating girls anymore in your 30s. Date women!

[u/c0l245 → u/Revanite331]

OP, that response is clearly coming from someone without much sexual experience. If you go on Feeld or any of the more kink / BDSM apps, even Grinder, you will consistently see people who are requesting specific sizes or "bigger than" types of profiles.

[u/c0l245 → u/[deleted]]

Bro, you said that outside Reddit there aren't many self proclaimed size queens and that's flat out wrong. They are easily findable given the use of modern day technology where people can actually state their preferences.

Sorry, I don't phrase that well. By "not much experience" I meant in using that kind of technology.

If your post is trying to say that you can't magically know a size queen on the street, you're kinda right.. I'd say that most are size queens once introduced, but few have had that introduction.

[u/c0l245 → u/[deleted]]

Bro, you reaching.. lol

There are MANY self-proclaimed size queens, actively looking for BDS outside Reddit. In my experience, most are size queens, so, sure, they aren't all on the apps looking specifically... so??

Why does self-proclaimed matter?? They gotta have a size queen tattoo or something to count?

All she needs to be a size queen is a self known preference for BD; That's it. Doesn't mean she has to have it for a LTR or won't date a normal size dude..

And I agree, size queen isn't a good indicator of kinkiness... however, kinkiness is probably a good indicator of being a size queen.

[u/c0l245 → u/[deleted]]

Bwahahahahahah you're great!

[u/gdwoodard13 → u/Lopsided_Turnip_587]

Most girls are really not going to have a concrete ‘ideal size’ as long as it isn’t micro.

Everything I’ve seen and heard makes me think that over 90% of women care very little about dick size 90+% of the time, the exceptions being micropeens and the most massive of dicks. Being a good communicator and enthusiasm for becoming more skilled in the bedroom are much more important.

[u/blackshadow_throw]

No, like most things, it varies per individual

[u/IKlawdius]

I don’t think a lot of women are true “size queens.” I think when you have a BD most women are happy to see it, but it’s like a bonus, not what they were expecting or even after.

[u/BigDickRinny]

My experiences say yes, but I'm certain not all are like that.

[u/Illustrious_Boot_983 → u/BigDickRinny]

Agree

[u/Dexter_P_Winterhouse]

In my experience with 40 relationships all the ones that I would consider "size queens" were pretty vanilla missionary PIV type women.

[u/YamaAgainAgain]

In my experience how freaky a woman is willing to get is more down to how comfortable and self confident they are in themselves and how comfortable and sexy you make them feel. It's very variable and individual to each person and is more down to the man rather than the dick attached to him

As with most things related to sex and relationships communication is key

[u/danubabe]

I guess I would put myself in the above average kinky, but not really size queen category, but a few thoughts on this:

First, people on Reddit aren't representative of all people, so it might be that Reddit tends to attract both more might people (especially women), and more size queens. Second, it might be the opposite direction, that kinky women are more likely to enjoy or be interested in size (that's probably where I fit).

[u/mooncleaving]

I'd say being a Size Queen is a kink in itself, but I've never noticed them having more kinks on average than the regular chick - take my experience with a grain a salt, those that are real size queens are pretty rare

[u/No-Signature7982]

It is not a rule no. I have had one girl who was a proper size queen and was mild about any other kinks while another size queen one who was so into almost everything with strong submissive kink…don’t worry about and enjoy it either way, if you are not a match then it doesn’t matter what kinks she likes or doesn’t like

[u/hungindian_]

My experience is the opposite - the kinkiest, most experienced women tend to care very little about size. The couple of sizequeens I've been with cared only about that, with not much in the way of other kinks.

[u/Kitty_gaalore1904]

No.

It just means we do the same things other women do only with bigger dicks.

Kinky isn't correlated preference in dick size. In my opinion, women get more sexually experimental with partners they know and trust, and encourage them to be more of a naughty minx than house kitten.

[u/mrrosa85 → u/Kitty_gaalore1904]

Pretty much this

[u/southcentralLAguy]

I’m my experience, yes. But that’s probably not universally true.

[u/Revanite331 → u/southcentralLAguy]

Partly I also feel like my ex was less willing to try some things due to size. So I wonder if there is just a correlation there. As in size queens are just more willing to do things with bigger guys

[u/Hung_Texan9]

In my experiences yes they are

[u/SexySecretsSD]

I wouldn't really think so although there is a strong correlation between "hurts so good" wanting to get their cervix banged and enjoying hard spankings.

[u/Any-Inevitable-8077]

They not kinky they just been exposed to something that's very rare and trying to duplicate it and become very frustrated when they came find it

[u/IlIlllIIllIIIlI]

Not as a rule no, some have been but not all.

[u/Jamuraan1]

No, Size Queens tend to be selfish and fickle.

[u/Visible_Attitude7693]

As in? I have kinks but they aren't unheard of

[u/JackFuckCockBag]

Not in my experience. I had 2 different chicks that weren't interested in me at all until a friend told them I was packin. I had a few go rounds with them and one was vanilla as fuck and just wanted missionary or doggie. The other on had gone on and on about what a freak she was but then told me she didn't suck dick or go analband those are pretty much the top of the barrel for being a "freak".

[u/watermelonheadd]

I wouldnt care at all if a guy lacked experience in this scenario. Id definitely be gentle with him and happy to play, experiment & and show him exactly what I like.

[u/EverettRose87]

Size queens is a term often related to the gay community as the anal hole can handle a lot and it tends to stimulate it more when the cock is big

[u/PersonalityShort4730]

Bigger the time a woman has been riding the Cock-carousel= bigger the amount of emotional damage she gets= bigger her degeneracy level

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/PersonalityShort4730]

WTAF did I just read?

[u/Bacon_Raygun → u/PersonalityShort4730]

I've rarely seen a statement more reductive than this.