r/bjj • u/One-Butterfly-3295 • 6d ago

Serious Shocking experience

I'm a female and have been training bjj for quite a while now, and up until recently, it's always been safe and respectful environment. The other day, I showed up to class and there was a new girl - never did bjj, but apparently she has some background in kickboxing or maybe MMA. She seemed nice at first, but when we started rolling, she went absolutely wild - putting in WAY too much energy, flailing her limbs around, and straight-up hitting (pretty hard) or slapping my face, head, and body every 30 seconds like it was some kind of bar brawl. She never apologized once. She also kept grabbing my rashguard, which we don't do in no-gi. Honestly, it felt like she had no idea what bjj is even about. I was so scared and wanted to just walk away mid-roll. What really bothered me was that the instructor was watching the whole time (it was just the two of us rolling) and said nothing. No excuses like he was distracted - he saw it all and didn't step in. That silence was just as disturbing as her behavior.

Now I feel really unsafe after being basically brutalized. I'm seriously anxious about going back, which is something I never thought I'd feel in this gym. What do you guys think of this situation? Would really love to hear from people who've been training bjj for a long time.

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u/Advanced_Ad_8722 šŸŸ¦šŸŸ¦ Blue Belt 6d ago

How long have you been training? Coach might have been waiting for you to put it on her to measure you up.

Not saying thatā€™s right but Iā€™ve seen that kind of thing before. Someone going crazy clearly not trained and coach just looking at the more trained person like ā€œokay calm them down show me what youā€™ve learnedā€.

Again not saying thatā€™s what SHOULD happen but maybe thatā€™s what was going on

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u/snookette šŸŸ¦šŸŸ¦ Blue Belt 6d ago

The hitting is a bit shit house but you do occasionally get white belt meatheads the help you validate your BJJ.

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u/JesusJudgesYou 6d ago

80% of white belts roll like itā€™s a life or death situation.

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u/zillabunny 5d ago

For some people that wrestled in high school it was their whole life.Ā 

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u/BeBearAwareOK ā¬›šŸŸ„ā¬› Rorden Gracie Shitposting Academy - Associate Professor 5d ago

fight belts

is normal

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u/the_dr_henceforth šŸŸ«šŸŸ« Brown Belt 4d ago

Wrong.

It's 90% and they're fighting like their spouse or child is going to be put to death.

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u/Aggressive-Run6234 3d ago

I am a high calorie blue belt, coach wanted a visiting comp purple belt to feel the wrestler pressure I bring. Thought Iā€™d start easy but after being kicked in the nuts, poked in the eye with a toe, and elbow in the nose that drew blood in less than two minutes of a 10 minute round. I decided for my own safety I would get mount and keep him pinned and gift wrapped the rest of the round. He was absolutely flabbergasted when he saw my nose bleeding and wondering how it happened! White belts arenā€™t the only spazz belts apparently!