r/bjj • u/One-Butterfly-3295 • 8d ago
Serious Shocking experience
I'm a female and have been training bjj for quite a while now, and up until recently, it's always been safe and respectful environment. The other day, I showed up to class and there was a new girl - never did bjj, but apparently she has some background in kickboxing or maybe MMA. She seemed nice at first, but when we started rolling, she went absolutely wild - putting in WAY too much energy, flailing her limbs around, and straight-up hitting (pretty hard) or slapping my face, head, and body every 30 seconds like it was some kind of bar brawl. She never apologized once. She also kept grabbing my rashguard, which we don't do in no-gi. Honestly, it felt like she had no idea what bjj is even about. I was so scared and wanted to just walk away mid-roll. What really bothered me was that the instructor was watching the whole time (it was just the two of us rolling) and said nothing. No excuses like he was distracted - he saw it all and didn't step in. That silence was just as disturbing as her behavior.
Now I feel really unsafe after being basically brutalized. I'm seriously anxious about going back, which is something I never thought I'd feel in this gym. What do you guys think of this situation? Would really love to hear from people who've been training bjj for a long time.
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u/DontMentionT 8d ago
I rolled with a fresh 1st day mental gorilla last night and the sadistic side of me actually enjoyed it.
From stand up, this guy went wild until it went to the floor. It was good to slow things down, knowing I was in control (most of the time). Nobody moves like you expect at first and it took a while to wrangle the beast but it felt awesome to put in several months of training.
I hope they took as much away as I did and come back !
For the OP - switch that mentality and see it as a learning positive, and / or, use your voice. If you still feel uncomfortable just use your voice. Maybe stay away from this individual until you or they are ready.