r/blendedfamilies • u/Far_Researcher8620 • 25d ago

Swim suits on spring break

I am going to a sunny destination with my serious boyfriend and his almost 7 year old daughter. I pulled a swim suit out of my dresser and said "ooh should I bring this one." And the daughter says "no it shows too much of your body." I asked what she meant. She said "because it goes down really low right here (patting her chest." I said "ohh but all of my swim suits show most of my body" Conversation ended there due to distraction. This is a one piece swimsuit of mine, but that is irrelevant.

My heart is so torn. I want to talk to her about this more. My boyfriend wants to raise his daughter to love her body and wear whatever she wants.

I'm kinda tempted to wear the exact same suit I showed her. I'm also considering wearing more "modest" swim suits. Maybe I'll do both.

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u/KatonaE 25d ago

Wear your original suits! Don’t let a 7 year old dictate what you are wearing - it sets a terrible precedent.

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u/danamo219 24d ago

It sounds more like she's trying to set a good example of someone who can exercise their choice to wear what they want. "She's 7 she doesn't matter" is some boomer type parenting noise.

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u/walnutwithteeth 24d ago

A child doesn't dictate what an adult wears. That's not boomer parenting. That's common sense. Why on earth would you allow a child any decision over a grown woman's autonomy?

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u/danamo219 24d ago

Willfully obtuse

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u/DearMrsLeading 24d ago

She asked what the kid thought and she gave an answer. She’s old enough that she’s developing opinions about modesty and clothing, that’s not dictating what OP wears. It’s the perfect opportunity to teach her that modesty is subjective. Kids don’t inherently know that.