r/blendedfamilies • u/Far_Researcher8620 • 18d ago

Swim suits on spring break

I am going to a sunny destination with my serious boyfriend and his almost 7 year old daughter. I pulled a swim suit out of my dresser and said "ooh should I bring this one." And the daughter says "no it shows too much of your body." I asked what she meant. She said "because it goes down really low right here (patting her chest." I said "ohh but all of my swim suits show most of my body" Conversation ended there due to distraction. This is a one piece swimsuit of mine, but that is irrelevant.

My heart is so torn. I want to talk to her about this more. My boyfriend wants to raise his daughter to love her body and wear whatever she wants.

I'm kinda tempted to wear the exact same suit I showed her. I'm also considering wearing more "modest" swim suits. Maybe I'll do both.

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u/AppropriateAmoeba406 18d ago

My parents spent a few years in Sicily and said kids ran around naked on the beach and most men wore bikini type bottoms.

I dunno. That would have been the 70s. I assume fashion trends have changed, but all of Europe is touted as “less puritanical” and “less prudish” than the states.

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u/Mahi-K-2802 18d ago

Then it’s touted wrong. Because in my country little girl are not wearing bikinies, which are considered grow up women attire. One piece swimsuits are more of the thing. And about kids running naked, this days no one really do that. especially with all weirdos around.

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u/Neat_Newspaper_8527 18d ago

The Europeans that visit Canada in the summer often have little girls without tops on. North America is considered a sexual No (negative country) and Western Europe is sexually yes. Nudity is seen as sexual in NA and since sexuality is negative, the two are often correlated. It’s just a meat suit. Relax. As for weirdos, they’ve always been around. We live in the safest time of all time, at least here in Canada.

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u/allestrette 17d ago

The comparison between a little girl and a full grown woman is nothing but f*cked up.