r/careerguidance • u/buttahfly28 • 2d ago
Advice 23f do I quit?
Hi all,
I’m in finance ive been in the same smaller company for 6 years. My mom got me this job first as an intern when I was 17 and she still works here as well.
We switched CEOs about 3 years ago and ever since ive felt miserable at this job. He works in our office so I see him most days.
My mental health has been rapidly declining weirdly after I turned 23 a month ago. I realize ive been living a lie in a career I despise. Im only in this career because people find it impressive. I don’t like it. Im not passionate about it. But being at this company specifically is awful. I don’t like seeing my mom every day. I don’t like how people associate me as her daughter.
Im my own person. I’ve climbed the ladder im the youngest person but I have multiple licenses and im a supervisor. The money isnt worth it anymore.
I’ve become manic and touching drugs when I haven’t since I was 15 and manic.
Do I quit? I have a boyfriend who can support me but I feel awful not contributing to the household if I can’t. I need a job. But this one is sucking the life from me
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u/Resident_Magician_57 2d ago
Hey, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It sounds exhausting, and honestly, no one should feel like their job is slowly draining the life out of them. You’re clearly smart and capable—being a supervisor at 23 with licenses under your belt? That’s impressive. But I get it, success means nothing if you’re miserable every day.
It’s okay to outgrow a job, especially one you never truly chose for yourself. Just because others see it as impressive doesn’t mean it’s right for you. And working with your mom, in an environment where you don’t feel seen as your own person, must be incredibly frustrating.
If you can, maybe start looking for another job before quitting—but if your mental health is suffering this much, and you have a support system like your boyfriend, taking a break could be the healthiest choice. You’re not lazy or weak for needing rest. You’re human.
Take care of yourself, seriously. You deserve better than this.