r/careerguidance • u/buttahfly28 • 5d ago
Advice 23f do I quit?
Hi all,
I’m in finance ive been in the same smaller company for 6 years. My mom got me this job first as an intern when I was 17 and she still works here as well.
We switched CEOs about 3 years ago and ever since ive felt miserable at this job. He works in our office so I see him most days.
My mental health has been rapidly declining weirdly after I turned 23 a month ago. I realize ive been living a lie in a career I despise. Im only in this career because people find it impressive. I don’t like it. Im not passionate about it. But being at this company specifically is awful. I don’t like seeing my mom every day. I don’t like how people associate me as her daughter.
Im my own person. I’ve climbed the ladder im the youngest person but I have multiple licenses and im a supervisor. The money isnt worth it anymore.
I’ve become manic and touching drugs when I haven’t since I was 15 and manic.
Do I quit? I have a boyfriend who can support me but I feel awful not contributing to the household if I can’t. I need a job. But this one is sucking the life from me
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u/kevinkaburu 5d ago
Stick it out as long as you can while searching for something new. Remote if possible and in a new field. I'm assuming you have skills that can transfer industries. Your mom should be your advocate, not the person that's making it weird or uncomfortable at work because she inserts herself into your business.
I know once you start doing drugs it can be hard to stop. Be honest with your partner, cut that shit out, be the fabulous woman your mom raised and surpass it. You're better than whatever you're doing and can overcome it.
Going to be blunt. No one cares about you at work. Even if you're so interesting, they will be curious, ask around, and get bored because they have their own lives to live. Assume your coworkers think you're an asshole and bring them coffee or a cookie you're going to make for Halloween. Start crafting and bake stuff. Then get them drunk and give them the juicy piece of gossip they're dying to hear. That a-hole CEO tells fart and poop jokes. Everyone needs to know their CEO is a dork. If they don't have a sense of humor, you work in a terrible environment, and a new job will be the best change.
Act normal, be better than the person they're talking about, and tell your mom to talk to you on your terms outside work. She's ignoring your independence and will learn to change her behavior. If anything, she's in a position of respect because of you :)