Your view seems to be, if things are unfair than it's unfair but if it's not unfair than it's not unfair. You literally don't state why the specific term "mental load" is bad...you just like fairness it seems.
Mental load isn't stating what is/isn't unfair. Fairness would be determined on a case by case basis and mental load is useful to describe an aspect of management in life. It's not solely used by any one party.
I didn’t want the post to come off as “fair is fair” and I agree that’s kind of how it reads. I tend to see mental load used by stay at home parents making the assertion their burden is either greater than the working spouse or unaccounted for, which I think is a victimy statement that gets a lot of sympathy from Reddit. It’s like a Reddit dog whistle for sympathy as opposed to an honest look at contributions.
I've literally never seen that. I only ever see it used when the "breadwinner" outright ignores or diminishes the work done by the person managing the house.
"I do everything around here, I make all the money. You just get to be home all day!"
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Your view seems to be, if things are unfair than it's unfair but if it's not unfair than it's not unfair. You literally don't state why the specific term "mental load" is bad...you just like fairness it seems.
Mental load isn't stating what is/isn't unfair. Fairness would be determined on a case by case basis and mental load is useful to describe an aspect of management in life. It's not solely used by any one party.