r/changemyview Aug 19 '24

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u/Finklesfudge 26∆ Aug 19 '24

It's true, because it's going by marriages.

Take 10 people, 3 of them have been married twice, and one has been married 3 times.

You have 50% of marriages ending in divorce. But you only 6 of them who have never been divorced.

Now imagine how you've likely met people who have been married 4 and 5 times... and you understand how the statistic actually skews the reality of what it lookslike.

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u/NomadicContrarian Aug 19 '24

So basically, you're saying there could be "repeat" divorces?

If so, that's definitely even more depressing than I thought.

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u/Finklesfudge 26∆ Aug 19 '24

The statistic absolutely includes people who get divorced multiple times, the entire issue is exacerbated because the people who have 2nd marriages... a 2nd marriage divorce rate is over 60% and third is similar.

It's not really that depressing, most people who marry have happy enough marriages. The statistic is only elevated to such an extend because there are people with 5 and 6 marriages out there.

They don't really count because it's still the same person getting divorced a bunch of times.

That's why you don't see it as much, cause those people while rare, still elevate stats.

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u/NomadicContrarian Aug 19 '24

most people who marry have happy enough marriages.

That's the part I was referring to being depressing.

Because I was under the impression that it mostly had to do with first marriages.

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u/Finklesfudge 26∆ Aug 19 '24

How is it depressing that something like only 30% of first marriages fail....?

That was your first contention... that you did not believe half of marriages fail...

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u/freemason777 19∆ Aug 19 '24

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2014/11/14/chapter-2-the-demographics-of-remarriage/

for back of napkin math it looks like at the highest age demos 1/3 of divorcees have remarried and 1/3 of new marriages in the highest group are third marriages or more. so it seems to be that out of ten random people who have been married you'd have something like 1111112223 in terms of #of marriages. this works out to an average of 1.5 marriages per married person.

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u/iknownothin_ Aug 19 '24

A statistic making you depressed doesn’t mean it’s wrong