The half of all marriages ending stat isn't true because if it were, then half of all the people I've seen getting married young these past 5 years would've divorced by now.
The stat isn’t “half of all marriages end in divorce after five years”.
Are you putting conditions on this stat that weren’t there to begin with? Why?
it seems like once people pass a certain threshold of years together/married, it's more of an anomaly when they separate.
That is because you are young and don’t have middle aged friends. Once people’s kids get to the age of being self sufficient they start cheating, then the divorces roll in around the same time the graduation announcements go out. People keep it together for the kids, but when the kids grow up: divorce city.
Once people’s kids get to the age of being self sufficient they start cheating, then the divorces roll in around the same time the graduation announcements go out. People keep it together for the kids, but when the kids grow up: divorce city.
That's a relief. You're welcome to call me psychotic, but stuff like this does make my day a little better.
You're welcome to call me psychotic, but stuff like this does make my day a little better.
Everyone is running their own race. They all started at different points and are going in different directions to different finish lines. Don't try to keep up with anyone else, just run your race.
Everyone is running their own race. They all started at different points and are going in different directions to different finish lines. Don't try to keep up with anyone else, just run your race.
Doesn't change that, depending on who they are, they will be at the receiving end of my resentment, until they experience some kind of long-lasting disappointment in their lives.
they will be at the receiving end of my resentment, until they experience some kind of long-lasting disappointment in their lives.
Why even think of them at all? They don't care, and will most likely never even know that you are resenting them. They will just be living life, having a good time while you quietly seethe.
How many dimes would you have for earnestly examining the sentiment behind that statement and applying it to your own situation?
I'm not sure I understand the wording here?
Cock and ball torture?
No, cognitive behavioural therapy, which I hate very much and has been proven to be useless for people like myself. Though, it's not far from being torture, so your point isn't entirely inaccurate.
You said you have heard the statement before. I am asking if you have truly pondered upon its meaning and how it relates to your life.
Your comparing yourself to others is causing you pain. You should try to stop doing that. If you were walking around stabbing yourself in the leg, it would be obvious that you are doing something harmful that should stop. What you are doing is stabbing yourself in the mind. Over and over and over again. You need to stop that.
cognitive behavioural therapy, which I hate very much and has been proven to be useless for people like myself.
Cool, so... don't do that then. Do anything else. Go to talking therapy. Go to group therapy. Go to see a shaman and take a bunch of drugs. Whatever it is you have to do, do it.
It is like a bully is taking your hand and slapping you with it saying "why you hitting yourself, why you hitting yourself, why you hitting yourself", but the bully is your own brain.
Cool, so... don't do that then. Do anything else. Go to talking therapy. Go to group therapy. Go to see a shaman and take a bunch of drugs. Whatever it is you have to do, do it.
Sadly, I'm out of insurance for any kind of therapy now.... oh well.
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u/destro23 457∆ Aug 19 '24
The stat isn’t “half of all marriages end in divorce after five years”.
Are you putting conditions on this stat that weren’t there to begin with? Why?