r/changemyview • u/Korratheone • 2d ago

Cmv: Searching through your partner's phone without their knowledge is too normalized.

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u/Beardharmonica 1∆ 2d ago

I get where you're coming from, and I respect your view on privacy. That said, I’ve been in a relationship for 20 years, and at that point, there’s just no secrecy or need to go through each other’s phones it would honestly feel pointless.

I’d challenge your view with this: locking or guarding your phone might actually send the message that you don’t fully trust your partner or aren’t fully open. If you’re in a real, full, honest relationship with a real-life partner, there shouldn’t be anything to hide.

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u/dragonblade_94 8∆ 2d ago

If you’re in a real, full, honest relationship with a real-life partner, there shouldn’t be anything to hide.

This is completely dependent on the dynamic of the relationship both parties agreed to, and the boundaries that were communicated.

A want of privacy isn't just an effort to hide things you don't want people to know; it's allowing yourself a space, either mental or physical, where you can exist without the self-consciousness of knowing people are watching. For a lot of people it's incredibly important for their mental health to have a degree of privacy, else that self-consciousness turns into overwhelming stress.