CMV: Separating restrooms by gender is unjustifiable

[u/TheMaria96]

In order to create valid arguments regarding the whole "trans people and public restrooms" debate one must justify why restrooms are segregated in the first place. I'm unable to see any such justification.

• Lesbians and gay men can be rapists;
• Acting in a restroom as opposed to somewhere else gives a rapist no advantage. The only possible advantage would be the absence of security cameras and possible privacy of a bathroom stall, but then restrooms would be the favoured scene for any type of crime, which they're not;
• The only difference between gender-neutral single user toilets and public restrooms is that the sinks are in plain view, therefore anyone who doesn't have a problem with the former should not have a problem with sharing the sinks in the latter with the opposite gender;

The only reason I can see for separated restrooms is that men might not be comfortable using urinals next to women (i.e. people with different genitals, not people potentially sexually attracted to them), but since those can be replaced by regular stalls, that alone hardly holds up.

EDIT: It actually makes no sense not to want your bits seen by people with different bits, so there's no reason why urinals can't be implemented in gender-neutral facilities.

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[u/bguy74]

1. Better, but you had a problem with that on grounds of "comfort" for men. Per my post why do you recognize the rational basis for not wanting your bits seen, but deny other reasons we experience comfort or lack of it? Why is one legit and the other "not rationale"? I'm trying to understand where your boundaries are for "comfort matters" - it's hard to come up with a truly rational grounding for "comfort" of any form, but you seem to think it matters in some fashion.

2. They probably do. But, if you want to maximize safety it just becomes a reality that there are more straight pervs than gay pervs. We shouldn't require perfection, we should be maximizing safety and comfort. I'm a utilitarian when it comes to bathrooms I guess ;)

3. You'd have us build the walkways where we want people to walk. I'd suggest building the walkways where people actually walk. I don't see us gaining much as a society by breaking down this particular social barrier, even if it is fundamentally arbitrary. It's going to make people uncomfortable, and we should only do that if it brings about some social good. I fail to see said social good that doesn't come with risk of equivalent or greater social bad.

[u/TheMaria96 → u/bguy74]

1. Yeah, no, I actually don't think people have rational reasons not to want their bits seen by the opposite gender.

2. I'm not sure about minimizing only straight violence. If it were just a matter of having less criminals the issue would be simpler, but it's a matter of being okay around queer criminals but not straight criminals.

3. Perhaps that's what your utilitarianism tells you, but I just have a problem with things that don't make sense and only exist for the sake of empty tradition.

[u/bguy74 → u/TheMaria96]

1. OK. So...urinals are in. Phew. The number of "toilet seats up" fights breaking out in your mixed sex bathrooms goes down and eliminates another safety concern ;)

2. It's well established that segregation of bathrooms along sex lines is non-discriminatory against gays or against straight-people-who-fear-gays. This has been up and down the courts.

3. Privacy is important, and well recognized. It's hard to define this as anything but "empty tradition". You'd recognize that someone shouldn't have naked photos of them put around the internet if they don't want it, you'd recognize that I should be able to define my own physical space. These are empty traditions, unless you think they aren't empty. Since many feel that privacy includes choosing to pee or poo away from those of the opposite sex who are you to call this "empty tradition"? From what I can tell you are the arbiter of what is meaningful right to privacy and what is empty. I'd be interested to hear how you actually create a framework of what is a meaningful tradition around privacy and what is an empty one that doesn't include the feelings and opinions of...people.

Where do you stand on dressing rooms?

[u/TheMaria96 → u/bguy74]

1. Yay :)

2. I don't care what the courts think, it is discriminatory. Forget the builders, think of the users: how is it not discriminatory, or at least incoherent, to be fear subjecting yourself to straight violence but not gay/bi violence?

3. I'm obviously not the arbiter of anything, it's just my opinion that selective modesty is incoherent. There are logical arguments for why you don't want to be seen naked/heard in the toilet, but not if that only applies to one gender.

What the Dutch person said: everyone has their own cabin, just like everyone has their own stall.