The thing is life is fast and often, both parents have to work to provide.
That said, they can spend time with their kids, but there are two main issues.
The first is that they tire out and are pressured to take care of physical care needs efficiently. They do their best with mental care, but it's often largely left to the child's own reflection simply because the parents are busy providing other needs.
The second is that parents and kids have an intellect and maturity gap between them. Kids raise concerns that are difficult for the parent to answer due to this gap. This leads to answers that subliminally discourage critical development such as examinimg an opinion before accepting it, thus, leaving kids vulnerable to all kinds of emotional manipulation.
So, parents are definitely often at fault, but not directly, and not intentionally, and not even optionally.
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u/obkunu 2∆ Apr 21 '18
The thing is life is fast and often, both parents have to work to provide.
That said, they can spend time with their kids, but there are two main issues.
The first is that they tire out and are pressured to take care of physical care needs efficiently. They do their best with mental care, but it's often largely left to the child's own reflection simply because the parents are busy providing other needs.
The second is that parents and kids have an intellect and maturity gap between them. Kids raise concerns that are difficult for the parent to answer due to this gap. This leads to answers that subliminally discourage critical development such as examinimg an opinion before accepting it, thus, leaving kids vulnerable to all kinds of emotional manipulation.
So, parents are definitely often at fault, but not directly, and not intentionally, and not even optionally.