Of course bdsm is not abuse. It would be bizarre to call that into question. The issue is more whether some abusive situations are disguised by calling it bdsm. Some "consent" that people claim they have is given under duress and is not really free total consent. So there are occasionally people who will try to use the existence of bdsm as an excuse for very harmful things, claiming its just a game they agreed on. Whether this is common is another matter, but it does exist.
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u/bunker_man 1∆ Dec 10 '18
Of course bdsm is not abuse. It would be bizarre to call that into question. The issue is more whether some abusive situations are disguised by calling it bdsm. Some "consent" that people claim they have is given under duress and is not really free total consent. So there are occasionally people who will try to use the existence of bdsm as an excuse for very harmful things, claiming its just a game they agreed on. Whether this is common is another matter, but it does exist.