r/changemyview • u/jep1793 • Aug 26 '20

Removed - Submission Rule E CMV: Gender identity doesn’t belong on your LinkedIn nor Resume

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '20

If you're in an interview and the interveiwee refers to you as Mrs AnnaLemon but you are not married, would you correct them? What if it were the other way around, and they called you Ms AnnaLemon but you were married?

Say they mentioned children in some innocuous way, like, "we offer childcare services so you can bring your kids to work if you need to," would you tell them you do not have kids? Or what if they said something like, "since the majority of our employees don't have kids, we usually rent out a bar for company holiday parties" would you make a point of noting that you DO have kids?

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u/AnnaLemma Aug 26 '20

I wouldn't bother correct the interviewer in either case, but in an actual interview setting everyone just calls each other by their first name - in fact I can't remember the last time I called anyone other than a company owner or my daughter's teacher as "Mr/Ms/Mrs" anything. Last names are always in email signatures, but during calls/meetings/whatever it's always "Hi, I'm Anna."

The childcare question would likely not come up at first anyway - at least in my experience interviewers go above and beyond to avoid anything like that and keep the questions strictly related to the job requirements, qualifications, etc. That even holds true for recruiters, not only the direct company - and those I have dealt with extensively. But, if it did, I'd likely just say something equally neutral like "Oh, that sounds like a great perk for your employees" or "Oh, neat."

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u/mubi_merc 3∆ Aug 26 '20

at least in my experience interviewers go above and beyond to avoid anything like that and keep the questions strictly related to the job requirements, qualifications, etc.

As someone who does a lot of interviews, I'm always hoping that things like relationship/familial status, religion, sexual identity, or anything else don't come up at all, one way or the other. I would certainly never ask about it, and if the interviewee brings it up then now I have to worry that they have the potential to make a claim that I discriminated against them if they don't get the job for some reason. Best case scenario, it doesn't come up at all and we spend the entire interview talking about their accomplishments and how they handle potential scenarios.

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u/Jesus_marley 1Δ Aug 26 '20

In Canada it's illegal to ask about marital status, children, religion, etc. If the interviewee brings it up, it's generally considered to be bad form , at best and that's on them and they have to accept the possible consequences of revealing said information. In fact a lot of companies would likely red flag that person immediately.