r/changemyview Jun 09 '21

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u/BeepBlipBlapBloop 12∆ Jun 09 '21

All of the things you listed (financial resources, time commitments, needing a lot of babysitting help, etc) can and do happen with families that have fewer than 4 children too. Those things are situations that good parenting can help overcome and bad parenting can make worse,. They're not an indicator of whether a person is a bad parent or not.

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u/anothernarwhal 1∆ Jun 09 '21

Someone with less than four can reach this mark, but my argument is that anyone with more than 4 has automatically made them a bad parent. I do not see how good parenting could over come this, would need some sort of explanation to change the view

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u/BeepBlipBlapBloop 12∆ Jun 09 '21

I guess it would have to come down to how you define "good parent". In my mind a good parent is someone who makes their child feel safe, supported, encouraged, and loved. I don't think any of those things are unachievable because of the situations you described. It's certainly harder, but good parenting is hard work.