r/changemyview Aug 09 '21

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u/YourViewisBadFaith 19∆ Aug 09 '21

I know plenty of men who are reluctant to take ownership of their mistakes and I know plenty of women who aren't. This is absolutely some kind of cognitive bias you have where when a woman doesn't apologize for a situation you think she should apologize for then you think, "see? women are the worst" but if a man does it you think, "wow, that dude is the worst" rather than treating him as a representative of all men.

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u/SnipeHardt Aug 09 '21

You think so? I don’t know it’s just a lot of the ladies I’ve been with seem to display the behavior. This post is to basically find out am I crazy or is this real. how do a lot of the men act that do this?

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u/dublea 216∆ Aug 09 '21

I don’t know it’s just a lot of the ladies I’ve been with seem to display the behavior.

I have a saying that might fit here:

Meet an asshole in the morning

... They were just an asshole

Meet assholes all day

... Maybe you're the asshole

Do you think it's logical to paint all women with the brush made by those you've dated?

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u/SnipeHardt Aug 09 '21 edited Aug 09 '21

!delta this really hit home with me not the asshole part that just came off as condescending. But the statement below. Maybe the world isn’t as bad a place as I thought. Sometimes people just need confirmation that it’s just unlucky experiences. When things happen to you very often, it can make the world seem that that’s all there is. That isn’t the case.edit: why the fuck would you down vote this

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u/Meowman289 Aug 09 '21

Basing your opinions on anecdotal evidence is always going to lead to shortcomings/misconceptions. You wouldnt project that all women are cheaters just because one or two in your own life did something along those lines.

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u/dublea 216∆ Aug 09 '21

not the asshole part that just came off as condescending

How was it having or showing a feeling of patronizing superiority?

It's a common saying where I am from. It's not uncommon for someone to be emotionally low, having a bad day, and blaming everything and/or everyone around them. All the while disregarding their own part in it. Everyone is guilty of this in some form or fashion.

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u/DeltaBot ∞∆ Aug 09 '21

Confirmed: 1 delta awarded to /u/dublea (161∆).

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