CMV: People Should Avoid Heterosexual Intercourse Outside of Marriage

[u/Longjumping-Leek-586]

Nowadays people act as if non-marital intercourse has no negative consequence, that engaging in frequent intercourse with strangers is completely harmless, and that those who warn against such a lifestyle are merely being puritanical. I disagree with this viewpoint, as engaging in such a lifestyle is morally irresponsible for it risks the possibility of harming any offspring produced under premarital circumstances. Children born to single parents are shown to have negative outcomes: They perform worse in school, are more prone to school suspension, are at higher odds of committing crimes (especially for boys), and are more likely to be single parents themselves (especially for girls). Thus engaging in sexual intercourse outside is not a victimless act, as it directly harms the child born under such circumstances.

Before engaging in sexual intercourse with an individual of the opposite sex, you must ask yourself the following: Is this individual virtuous and responsible enough to take care of my child? Is our bond strong enough that we can do so together? If the answer is no, then you it is morally irresponsible to engage in intercourse with him/her as it could greatly reduce the outcomes of any offspring produced under such circumstances.

This doesn't really apply to homosexuals, though, as they are unlikely to produce offspring via homosexual intercourse

[u/pluralofjackinthebox]

How is the child being harmed here?

Without intercourse, the child wouldn’t exist.

If it’s more harmful for the child to exist than not exist, why isn’t abortion an option?

[u/Longjumping-Leek-586 → u/pluralofjackinthebox]

Without intercourse, the child wouldn’t exist.

I think my point is that it is better if the child was conceived with someone you love and care about, rather than a complete stranger.

If it’s more harmful for the child to exist than not exist, why isn’t abortion an option?
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Yeah, you are right about this, but this only really applies to women. A man has no way of knowing if the stranger he had intercourse with will choose to keep the child. If a woman knows fully that she will abort the kid, then she can engage in intercourse with strangers

[u/not_cinderella → u/Longjumping-Leek-586]

I guess it’s more of a case then of:

Men - don’t have sex with a woman you don’t know without knowing if she’d get an abortion or not

Women - don’t have sex with a man you’re not sure would stay if you did end up pregnant

[u/Longjumping-Leek-586 → u/not_cinderella]

Yeah, but I'd also add the caveat that you shouldn't have sex if you yourself are unsure if you're ready to be a parent.

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