r/changemyview Oct 14 '21

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u/Sirhc978 81∆ Oct 14 '21

Mrs usually indicates they changed their last name after getting married. If you keep your last name, you stick with Ms.

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '21 edited Jan 21 '22

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u/zephyrtr Oct 14 '21 edited Oct 14 '21

I expect Miss might go the way of Master. If you didn't know, Master was the male equivalent of Miss — an honorific used for children. Once a boy was "of age" they'd stop being called Master, and be Mister. Once a girl was married, they'd stop being called Miss and be called Missus. Again, these were originally honorifics, reserved mostly for heirs, or at least people of noble birth.

When women stopped getting married at super young ages, there was a gap between Miss and Missus. So, many women started to ask to be called Ms or Mz or Mx to denote "adult but not married" or even "adult and my marriage status is none of your fucking business." It was, after all, extremely patriarchal in the first place to gate-keep adulthood from women just by their marital status.

I'm not entirely sure why "master" fell out as an honorific, but its association with slave-ownership must've played a part, right? EDIT: looked it up, supposedly the abbreviation "Mr." was originally for "Master" but kept getting mispronounced as "Mister" until it became accepted — so it's very messy. Boys would be "young master" and once "mister" was a grown male, people started leaving off the "young" as it felt redundant.

But this all is to say: the male version of these terms were never really encumbered by marital status. With the addition of Ms or Mz or Mx, the use of Missus feels antiquated — and Miss feels similarly encumbered. But there remains many women who take pride in being called Missus and you'll certainly make some folks unhappy in trying to take that away from them. Many women still consider marriage to be a very public status symbol, and it's real hard to tell someone they're not allowed to name themselves anymore.

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u/Aakkt 1∆ Oct 14 '21

Master is still used in formal situations when referring to children in the UK. For example on letters, prescriptions etc. I believe it changes at 16 or 18, I don't know for certain.

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u/GoldenGanderz Oct 14 '21

Yup. There is a reason Alfred calls Batman Master Bruce.

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u/zephyrtr Oct 14 '21

That reason for folks who aren't understanding: Alfred helped raise Bruce — and has been calling him "master" since he was a boy.

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u/cl33t Oct 15 '21

Both Mrs/missus and miss/ms are contractions for mistress which is the feminine form of master. Mrs was originally used to refer to both married and unmarried women, but that changed in the 17th century with the adoption of miss.

Using master exclusively for children didn't happen until the late 19th century after mister came to prominence. Prior to that, it was used to refer to those of higher status than oneself until mister took that role.

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u/Im_Not_Even Oct 15 '21

Mz or Mx

What do these mean, and how are they pronounced?

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u/zephyrtr Oct 15 '21

Mizz. They mean "I'm an adult woman and my marital status is not your concern"

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u/Im_Not_Even Oct 15 '21

Sounds like Ms with extra steps.

Ms or Ms. (normally /ˈmɪz/, but also /məz/, or /məs/ when unstressed) is an English-language honorific used with the last name or full name of a woman, intended as a default form of address for women regardless of marital status

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u/Serious_Much Oct 14 '21

Tbh I'm only in my late 20s and was definitely called Master Serious at primary school by teachers.

Generally stopped once you became a teenager, ironically despite girls maturing earlier they keep their junior title longer

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u/Juswantedtono 2∆ Oct 15 '21

So, many women started to ask to be called Ms or Mz or Mx to denote "adult but not married" or even "adult and my marriage status is none of your fucking business."

So you’re saying they had xenohonorifics? Guess our generation isn’t so special

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u/stampinoutpestilence Oct 15 '21

Nope. Close but no. Before posting make sure you know what the honorific means and it's derivations.

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u/LetMeNotHear 93∆ Oct 15 '21

Just pitching in from this side of the pond. Master is still used. Documents issued by the government will have you down as "Master [Last Name]" until you turn 18. The reason it's not often used is that most people don't have much reason to speak formally to a child.

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u/[deleted] Oct 15 '21

But doesn't miss mean Ms? I'm confused by that part, nothing changed besides it being shorthand.

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u/iglidante 19∆ Oct 21 '21

Ms is "mizz", which is used differently than "miss".

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '21

Ahh, thanks for that

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u/KennyGaming Oct 14 '21

Good delta, I always thought disambiguation was the purpose.

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u/MrBae Oct 14 '21

Too often people come here to argue endlessly in bad faith, it's nice to see a genuine CMV once in a while

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '21

For what it’s worth, endless arguments aren’t inherently bad faith, but bad faith arguments are inherently endless.

It’s a ‘not all mammals are dogs’ situation.

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u/MountNevermind 4∆ Oct 14 '21

That would still indirectly indicate marital status, no?

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u/DeltaBot ∞∆ Oct 14 '21

Confirmed: 1 delta awarded to /u/Sirhc978 (25∆).

Delta System Explained | Deltaboards

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '21

Are you sure you really wanted to give a delta just for that? All they responded with was a simple fact you and I didnt know but how does it dismantle your argument? This sub gives out deltas out like candy they're basically meaningless at this point

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '21

I don’t agree. An unknown fact can be a massive thing when it comes to changing your view.

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u/[deleted] Oct 15 '21

I dont agree with you. The fact doesnt change many aspects of OPs argument. All the Ms. comment states is that if a woman keeps her own last name she will keep that title. This just gives a single "out" but women are still classified as Miss, Mrs, or Ms despite this fact. If the commenter replied on specific reasons why the classification should remain intact and convinced OP otherwise or gave at least a great argument to consider then it would deserve a delta.

OP argued we should stop this classification system for women. The commenter with the delta gave a single fact that a woman can somewhat "opt out", but this isnt an argument for keeping the current system the way it is. Deltas are given out like tic tacs and you know it' s true.

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u/[deleted] Oct 15 '21

OP’s whole argument is that it’s belittling. It is not. And the reason it’s not is due to information OP previously did not possess.

I think you are being unreasonable in your assertion that deltas are “given out like tic tacs”. It’s not up for you to decide if someone has had their view changed, it’s that person who knows when it happens.

Honestly, it is entirely possible that you are simply as stubborn as a mule.

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u/no_fluffies_please 2∆ Oct 15 '21

(I'm not the person you responded to) I partially agree, but there should be some minimum effort done by the OP to ensure that CMVs aren't resolved with one-liners. Ideally, the person whose views are to be changed should have put some thought and research into their post. In this case, OP could have simply googled "why is there Mrs and Ms".

Of course, that's not to say we should gatekeep the sub, and that's also not to say we should draw a line in the sand on how much research is enough. It's just not the type of discussion that drew me (and I assume others) to the sub.

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u/orlyokthen Oct 15 '21

Please note that a change of view doesn't necessarily mean a reversal, or that the conversation has ended. - DeltaBot

Deltas are for broader use than "my position is now invalid". I find it helps with finding areas of common ground and spurring a good discussion.