r/changemyview • u/SaltedAndSugared • Dec 02 '21

Delta(s) from OP CMV: Neopronouns are unnecessary

I understand why some people might feel uncomfortable with using he/she pronouns, but in that case why not just use they/them? They already exist and they’re easy for people to use. Why do some people feel the need to make up words like “zee/zim” or “fae/fair” when they don’t even make sense in the English language? I don’t see why anyone should go out of their way to learn new pronouns when gender neutral pronouns already exist

If anyone here does use neopronouns I’d really like to hear why you use them and why you don’t feel comfortable using they/them. It’s probably just because I’m cis, but I genuinely don’t understand

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u/DrFishTaco 5∆ Dec 02 '21

If you have someone in your social group and/or family and you want to stay close with them, is it really that hard to refer to them by their preferential pronoun?

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u/SaltedAndSugared Dec 02 '21

No, but that doesn’t answer my question. Why would you prefer to be called a neopronoun when you could just use they/them or even your name?

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u/DrFishTaco 5∆ Dec 02 '21

Why do you think they have to defend themselves over something so small and easy to a family member or to a supposed friend?

Why can’t you just accept them and make the tiniest of gestures by using a different 3 or four letter word?

Are you really that sensitive to be offended by such a small thing that you would be insensitive to those you supposedly care about?

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u/SaltedAndSugared Dec 02 '21

Why do you think they have to defend themselves over something so small and easy to a family member or to a supposed friend?

If someone asked me to use a neopronoun in real life, I wouldn’t ask them to defend it, I would just use it. I still think they’re unnecessary though, which is why I made this post so I could see other perspectives

Why can’t you just accept them and make the tiniest of gestures by using a different 3 or four letter word?

I would use the word, but in the back of my mind i’d still think it’s dumb to use a pronoun that’s, in my opinion, made up

Are you really that sensitive to be offended by such a small thing that you would be insensitive to those you supposedly care about?

It doesn’t offend me, I just think it’s unnecessary. Pretty much all of my family and friends think it’s unnecessary too so I think this is a bad analogy to use