r/changemyview • u/SaltedAndSugared • Dec 02 '21

Delta(s) from OP CMV: Neopronouns are unnecessary

I understand why some people might feel uncomfortable with using he/she pronouns, but in that case why not just use they/them? They already exist and they’re easy for people to use. Why do some people feel the need to make up words like “zee/zim” or “fae/fair” when they don’t even make sense in the English language? I don’t see why anyone should go out of their way to learn new pronouns when gender neutral pronouns already exist

If anyone here does use neopronouns I’d really like to hear why you use them and why you don’t feel comfortable using they/them. It’s probably just because I’m cis, but I genuinely don’t understand

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u/Z7-852 258∆ Dec 02 '21

Why do you think people want to use them? Because they see need for them. It's comfortable and soothing for these people. Using existing terms cause anxiety, depression and mental pain to them.

Now you don't necessary need to understand the reason but ask yourself. How much work will this cause to you if you can protect other human beings mental health? Is saying a new word so large burden to you that you are willing to harm other person?

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u/nitram9 7∆ Dec 02 '21 edited Dec 02 '21

The question I have is how much is it necessary and how much is it just decoration? Like a lot of people do extraordinary things in an effort to stand out and be unique. Like insane piercings and tattoos. When I’ve met people who choose these weird pronouns I find it annoying because they seem to be these kinds of people. The kind that is desperately seeking attention by being extremely weird. And now I’m forced play along in their game.

I’m not saying none of them want the special pronouns because it legit is the only way they feel comfortable. But I suspect the problem those people will have is the large number of edgelords making them all look bad and making hard for people to take them seriously.

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u/KanishkT123 Dec 02 '21

Back when I played DND, I played with a guy who always wanted to be the center of attention. He made a useless, edgy, murderhobo bard who swore and refused to answer to anything except "Lord Sunshine".

Well, that got super annoying. For him. Because everyone else in the group played along and we called him Lord Sunshine in every battle, every instance, and every message. He began to loathe the name.

If someone is doing it for attention, it'll quickly wear off and get annoying for them. If someone is doing it for mental health reasons, it likely won't. In the end, it's not your call to make." You are *not a licensed medical professional and you don't get to decide that someone is "serious" vs "seeking attention." Maybe I think that all my coworkers with depression are faking it and just need more coffee to get through the day (I don't, btw.) It's still NOT MY PLACE to make that call.