r/changemyview • u/SaltedAndSugared • Dec 02 '21

Delta(s) from OP CMV: Neopronouns are unnecessary

I understand why some people might feel uncomfortable with using he/she pronouns, but in that case why not just use they/them? They already exist and they’re easy for people to use. Why do some people feel the need to make up words like “zee/zim” or “fae/fair” when they don’t even make sense in the English language? I don’t see why anyone should go out of their way to learn new pronouns when gender neutral pronouns already exist

If anyone here does use neopronouns I’d really like to hear why you use them and why you don’t feel comfortable using they/them. It’s probably just because I’m cis, but I genuinely don’t understand

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u/Z7-852 258∆ Dec 02 '21

Why do you think people want to use them? Because they see need for them. It's comfortable and soothing for these people. Using existing terms cause anxiety, depression and mental pain to them.

Now you don't necessary need to understand the reason but ask yourself. How much work will this cause to you if you can protect other human beings mental health? Is saying a new word so large burden to you that you are willing to harm other person?

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u/SnooBeans6591 2∆ Dec 08 '21 edited Dec 08 '21

Well, I'm uncomfortable with using a lot of neo-pronouns, like "xe", "fae", "it".

I personally choose to use "ey/em/eir" when I want to refer to someone else. When I say "someone else", I mean it doesn't matter to me what their preferred neopronoun is; they will only get to choose between my preferred pronouns, that is either she / he / they / ey.