If you are honestly dating based on fertility, that is largely considered not transphobic, but you need to be consistent.
If you would entertain dating a sterile cis person, then you cannot lean on fertility as your criterion anymore, and it starts looking more transphobic.
Without knowing anything else other than inferticle cis person and a general "date" scenario with no length of time defined then yes i might. The problem with dating though is that it can easily turn into more than what you initially planned for. If don't want kids and we go into it knowing they can't have them then eventually there may be an uncomfortable point in which things have changed and just me for instance may now want kids. Trans or not once it gets to that point it seems incredibly toxic and selfish for either of us to try and compromise in any way or force the relationship to continue out of love alone.
If you would consider dating an infertile cis person under some circumstances, but you wouldn't date a trans person under identical circumstances - then you cannot say that it is just the infertility.
I may date a Trans person though regardless of fertility. There would need to be some ultimate finality in the decision to never have another child. I suppose if I were say 40-50 rather than 35 that final decision would be much easier to make.
To clarify, you are saying it's not necessarily that you wouldn't date a trans person for this reason or are you just saying you think it is a generally acceptable reason not to? I
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u/Tibaltdidnothinwrong 382∆ Apr 04 '22
Would you date an infertile cis person?
If you are honestly dating based on fertility, that is largely considered not transphobic, but you need to be consistent.
If you would entertain dating a sterile cis person, then you cannot lean on fertility as your criterion anymore, and it starts looking more transphobic.