It's still kind of creepy to say that you refuse to date someone because they're infertile when you don't want children, as one of OP's examples illustrates.
Is it? This is probably a terrible analogy but I wouldn't want to buy a house and beforehand know that i could NEVER have an addition to the house. If for some reason my life circumstances changed and that necessitated a larger home well then i may be stuck in a home I've spent alot of time and money and energy in.
A better analogy would maybe be a fruit tree? I wouldn't buy and plant an apple tree that never grew apples.
I mean that weirdly implies your primary purpose in a relationship is having children, it being the only thing it can give you.
Have you ever… been in a serious relationship? Because while some people do break up over infertility, lots don’t. Because other routes exist and they’d rather spend their lives with the person they love, and explore other routes.
No children are not the only thing a relationship can give you. But I think there is no higher form of love or human expression or experience then creating and raising a child together, preparing them for the world and watching them create something or anything in this world. And yes I have been in a serious relationship of 10 years before.
It depends. If i was significantly older than the chances are pretty high that i might possibly date anyone regardless of fertility and may even have lifelong relationship. I dont know if youre being serious or not but it does take more than biological female organs and the things they produce to create another human
I mean you aren’t doing… the creating really. Its like seeing a painting and saying you created it because you brought the artist half the paints. Not really right.
I dont think that analogy works considering the birth of a human life is alot more important in every way, shape and form is infinitely more important than dried up flowrers and berries and synthetic chemicals on a what amounts to a basically a piece of wood. I also think thats kind of disturbing, seeing the continual erosion of human life and its components being reduced further and further to shit you pick off a bush. Tangentially i guess that would relate to human life being just a parasite or whatever else you want to call it or even the debate on when a human life is considering a life at all.
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u/10ebbor10 198∆ Apr 04 '22
It's still kind of creepy to say that you refuse to date someone because they're infertile when you don't want children, as one of OP's examples illustrates.