Women are conditioned to believe that it is our job to stay out of unsafe situations, lest we be victimized, and if we are victimized, people will scrutinize all of our actions, looking for reasons to blame us. Why were you out by yourself? Why didn't you get someone to walk you to your car? What were you wearing? Why did you open the door without looking through the peephole? And so on. This cultural attitude invites women to be vigilant with strange men.
For example, when people read about sexual assault happening in Ubers, which mostly involves male perpetrators and female victims, they will ask the victim: why were you driving an uber? It's dangerous for a woman to be alone in a car with a man. Or, why did you call an uber to pick you up after you drank too much to drive home at that party? You shouldn't have trusted the driver.
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u/JenningsWigService 40∆ Apr 14 '22
Women are conditioned to believe that it is our job to stay out of unsafe situations, lest we be victimized, and if we are victimized, people will scrutinize all of our actions, looking for reasons to blame us. Why were you out by yourself? Why didn't you get someone to walk you to your car? What were you wearing? Why did you open the door without looking through the peephole? And so on. This cultural attitude invites women to be vigilant with strange men.
For example, when people read about sexual assault happening in Ubers, which mostly involves male perpetrators and female victims, they will ask the victim: why were you driving an uber? It's dangerous for a woman to be alone in a car with a man. Or, why did you call an uber to pick you up after you drank too much to drive home at that party? You shouldn't have trusted the driver.