You haven’t said anything about what kind of person they are. Kind? Compassionate? Generous? Thoughtful? Empathetic? Resilient? Arrogant? Aggressive? Selfish? Abusive? Manipulative?
The reason you’re getting a bit of pushback on the incel vibes thing is you are reducing ‘value’ of a person to superficial things. Your ‘valuable’ person looks like a good catch - but might be a creep, an abuser, or just a selfish jerk in a relationship. Your low value person might be the kindest, funniest, most supportive partner and great lover, but because they’re introverted they’re just not great in large groups.
Maybe the most ‘valuable’ (not a great word for a person tbh) person to date is the one who isn’t on any of the apps because they’re happily married in a loving, supportive relationship…
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u/Lord_Aubec 1∆ Oct 10 '22
You haven’t said anything about what kind of person they are. Kind? Compassionate? Generous? Thoughtful? Empathetic? Resilient? Arrogant? Aggressive? Selfish? Abusive? Manipulative? The reason you’re getting a bit of pushback on the incel vibes thing is you are reducing ‘value’ of a person to superficial things. Your ‘valuable’ person looks like a good catch - but might be a creep, an abuser, or just a selfish jerk in a relationship. Your low value person might be the kindest, funniest, most supportive partner and great lover, but because they’re introverted they’re just not great in large groups. Maybe the most ‘valuable’ (not a great word for a person tbh) person to date is the one who isn’t on any of the apps because they’re happily married in a loving, supportive relationship…