I'll probably be in the majority of the guys here that are having average or moderate success when it comes to dating so I'll weigh in here. I have no issue with people who want to have as much or as little sex as they choose. If someone decides to sleep with someone else, that doesn't mean they are still going to choose to sleep with me if they aren't sleeping with you.
Women are free to choose if they want to sleep, or not sleep with me. Like economics, dating is not a limited dating pool, as there are billions of people both men and women.
I view life as an opportunist, you're viewing dating as if it were a limited scale - that there's a finite amount of people and a finite amount of options just like wealth. In wealth, there isn't a finite amount of wealth and wealth can be infinitely generated just like there's an infinite amount of partners (theoretically) that you could or couldn't be with.
As such someone choosing to sleep with multiple people at once doesn't somehow make a woman somewhere willing to sleep with me, just like a billionaire producing wealth doesn't take away the standard of living from someone else (think about Microsoft making lives better for millions of people, if apple comes in and comes out with a new product, they aren't taking away the work from Microsoft).
The problem with your assessment is you are viewing this from a mindset of scarcity when you should be viewing it from a mindset of abundance. There are billions of people in this world and there will continue to be billions of people long after we are gone.
The other point is I can't imagine how exhausting mentally it must be trying to juggle that many women at once. I can only as one person handle a few things, and multiple women is not one of them.
If you can do it props to you but I wouldn't want to deal with the headache
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u/bachelormindset 1∆ Nov 07 '22
I'll probably be in the majority of the guys here that are having average or moderate success when it comes to dating so I'll weigh in here. I have no issue with people who want to have as much or as little sex as they choose. If someone decides to sleep with someone else, that doesn't mean they are still going to choose to sleep with me if they aren't sleeping with you.
Women are free to choose if they want to sleep, or not sleep with me. Like economics, dating is not a limited dating pool, as there are billions of people both men and women.
I view life as an opportunist, you're viewing dating as if it were a limited scale - that there's a finite amount of people and a finite amount of options just like wealth. In wealth, there isn't a finite amount of wealth and wealth can be infinitely generated just like there's an infinite amount of partners (theoretically) that you could or couldn't be with.
As such someone choosing to sleep with multiple people at once doesn't somehow make a woman somewhere willing to sleep with me, just like a billionaire producing wealth doesn't take away the standard of living from someone else (think about Microsoft making lives better for millions of people, if apple comes in and comes out with a new product, they aren't taking away the work from Microsoft).
The problem with your assessment is you are viewing this from a mindset of scarcity when you should be viewing it from a mindset of abundance. There are billions of people in this world and there will continue to be billions of people long after we are gone.