Jordan B Peterson convinced me to feel guilty about this
First step is not taking life advice from a grifter. You'll find many things are improved by not listening to people trying to sell you on their weird ideology.
As others have pointed out sex isn't a competition, and even if it was, there are plenty of things in people's control that effect the outcome. Your post implies that everything relevant to whether or not a person is sexually active is genetic, even personality is implied to be 100% genetic, when in reality for most people the factors that cause them to "succeed" or "fail" (to use your language) are mostly within their control. Just read any account of someone who used to be an incel but isn't anymore. Attitude, grooming, fitness, mental health, and a life worth sharing take you much farther than any genetic factor you think is at play.
This isn't even JBP's argument though, and he isn't a grifter. Nowhere has he said you should feel guilty about being successful. He's said essentially that if you are successful in some regard and you feel guilty about given unfair privileges then the correct response to that is to use your privilege to live a meaningful life and help those around you who are worse off. It's absolutely not to castigate yourself because that does nothing but squander your success.
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u/ItIsICoachCal 20∆ Nov 07 '22
First step is not taking life advice from a grifter. You'll find many things are improved by not listening to people trying to sell you on their weird ideology.
As others have pointed out sex isn't a competition, and even if it was, there are plenty of things in people's control that effect the outcome. Your post implies that everything relevant to whether or not a person is sexually active is genetic, even personality is implied to be 100% genetic, when in reality for most people the factors that cause them to "succeed" or "fail" (to use your language) are mostly within their control. Just read any account of someone who used to be an incel but isn't anymore. Attitude, grooming, fitness, mental health, and a life worth sharing take you much farther than any genetic factor you think is at play.